Poll: Is being nice worth it?
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View poll results: Is being nice worth it?
It is worth it to be nice
31 86%
It is not worth it to be nice
5 14%
Voters: 36.
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#1
We see people all the time on facebook whining about how they're going to change how they are and start to be an asshole because being nice doesn't pay off.

Do you think being nice pays off in the end? Or is being nice just a way to get pushed around and live your life beta af?
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#2
Adaptability is more important than niceness or non-niceness. There's a time for everything. People vary in their ability to express niceness or a lack thereof and social responses to their behavior act to reinforce those traits. Social contexts matter.

etc. etc.

Ask Zizek or Freire.

on topic: It's worth it usually, you bitches
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#3
Shake with your right hand but hold a rock in your left. So if somebody needs a doorstop or paperweight or something you can help out.
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#4
If you decide to change your behavior because you're looking for a payoff, then you're doing it for the wrong reasons. Just be like Xiaoxi and be an asshole and make a thread about it. At least you own it.
#5
I'm going to keep being nice because it feels bad to not be nice.
#6
Work to what end? If your niceness is an attempt to manipulate an outcome, it is not nice at all.
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#7
being genuinely nice is a good thing, and a positive trait to have IRL
i don't really care how people act online, but it does show a bit of their truest self (which is why i don't post status' on facebook lol)

i don't see any reason not to try to be kind and polite to most people you meet in your life, you never know who you're gonna need one day or what someone can offer you through friendship
i think it's good to be a nice person, but not one to be taken advantage of, that's just being nice because you're weak, which is linked with stupidity.
i'm pretty neutral with everyone i know, but those that have been loyal to me and haven't crossed me in any way are the ones i treat especially nicely.
#8
Absolutely.

Your reputation is what carries you, especially professionally.
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#9
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Or is being nice just a way to get pushed around and live your life beta af?
You can be nice without being a doormat.
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#10
Quote by k.lainad
being genuinely nice is a good thing, and a positive trait to have IRL
i don't really care how people act online, but it does show a bit of their truest self (which is why i don't post status' on facebook lol)

i don't see any reason not to try to be kind and polite to most people you meet in your life, you never know who you're gonna need one day or what someone can offer you through friendship
i think it's good to be a nice person, but not one to be taken advantage of, that's just being nice because you're weak, which is linked with stupidity.
i'm pretty neutral with everyone i know, but those that have been loyal to me and haven't crossed me in any way are the ones i treat especially nicely.

Fuck that noise. I'mma go my own way.
#12
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You can be nice without being a doormat.
like being able to say no when you want to. being nice to the point of not being able to say no can work against you
#14
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well you're in the minority if you feel this way.

I'm just poking fun.
#15
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Adaptability is more important than niceness or non-niceness.


This. This right here determines most things.
#16
Works for me. Sometimes I feel like being mean out of spite but the outcome is really not worth it. At least when I'm nice I don't have anything to feel guilty about.
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#17
Quote by eGraham
Absolutely.

Your reputation is what carries you, especially professionally.


"But sir, he doesn't have any education or knowledge about building a shuttle"

"Doesn't matter, he's a nice guy"
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#18
I have a friend who's nice.

He's in a mountain of debt and just got laid off after 3 years of backbreaking work and no pay increase.

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#21
I think the example in the OP is just an expression of exasperation, like they've put so much effort into getting a relationship working and now they're giving up with as much public melodrama as possible.

I tend to not take things personally. If something happens that's not exactly what I'd planned, I move on fairly quickly and try not to hold grudges because nobody is obligated to be nice to me or be my friend or whatever.
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#22
I don't know what they mean about 'being nice doesn't pay off, I'll just be an asshole."

The reform it would take to make such a shift in morale would ware on a person, a lot more than some girl. The kind of people who view things like that are toxic.

It's easier to go with the flow and be nice when it doesn't inconvenience you to much extent, then it is to actively be an asshole.
#23
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"But sir, he doesn't have any education or knowledge about building a shuttle"

"Doesn't matter, he's a nice guy"

No
Reputation is built off of many things, attitude and demeanor among them.
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#25
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#26
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Nice works on the micro level but will kill you on the macro
this

being not-an-asshole in general is much better than going out of your way to make people like you
#27
Quote by eGraham
No
Reputation is built off of many things, attitude and demeanor among them.


Jeez I was only joking, there was no need for a warning.
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#31
It depends how one defines 'being nice'. But I enjoy being nice to people.

People aren't always nice back, but they're a lot more likely to be nasty back if I'm nasty to them.
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#32
i am nice and it has gotten me nowhere, this world is full of psychopaths and liars and you have to play by their rules if you want to get anywhere, unfortunately, some people are just not cut out for that because they are good people and have these things called morals
#33
People who talk about being the only "nice guy" in a world of assholes come across as being entitled and manipulative. Are you really a pleasant human being if you constantly have to explain that you are?

I also think the word "nice" is used when you have nothing good to say. When you're not kind, caring, friendly, approachable, considerate, helpful, charismatic, you're just "nice".
#34
'Nice' used to be an insult, y'know.

If you were pretty dumb or lacking in brain power but not quite enough to clinically retarded, you were simple, slow and 'nice'.

I'd say most people in the pit are pretty 'nice'.
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#35
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Does being nice work?



Yes, but only if you're attractive.

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#36
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I'd say most people in the pit are pretty 'nice'.

No I'm not. I'm an asshole, you asshole
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#37
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No I'm not. I'm an asshole, you asshole


A nice asshole. gr8 4 put dikk into
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#39
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Work to what end? If your niceness is an attempt to manipulate an outcome, it is not nice at all.


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#40
I am generally nice to people and find it rewarding most of the time but for those who don't appreciate or reciprocate my niceness I can just as easily treat them like shit.

Do unto others...
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