it's not my playing that's such a problem it's my tone, I can never set my amp perfectly. So my question is this: does anyone have any suggestions as to the "perfect" or damn near perfect settings for punk/emo type stuff? I have a LINE6 spider ii if it helps at all. but general info would be much appreciated.

"there is a man...
playing a violin...
and the strings...
are the veins in his own arm."
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Try to drop your gain a bit. Most emo and punk stuff doesn't use heavy distortion but more of an overdrive. Boost those mids for cutting octave runs.
Also, and this may not be right, but I'd have the treble quite high too.
Yea, mostly mids and treble to cut through the mix but keep your lows up there too so you don't get lost and it will give you some chunk.