This is something that has alawys alluded me. How do you play a solo to a metronome when it changes so much and it seems the notes aren't really on the beats?
I guess the only real answer is you have to hear the backing music in your head, I also recommend trying to play a long with the song, thats a good way to keep you in time. Also if you are windows media player press control + shift + s to slow down the song so you can learn it at a slower speed before attempting the solo at its intended tempo......hope that helps.
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