Poll: Should respect be earned or given?
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View poll results: Should respect be earned or given?
Earned
68 72%
Given
26 27%
Not sure
1 1%
Voters: 95.
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#1
Should it be earned or given? This gets talked about a lot, and I thought it would be interesting to see what UG thought.

In my opinion, it should be given, but then taken away if someone fucks up. I have respect for anyone until they do something themselves to make me think about them differently.

So what do you guys think?
#2
I think self-respect is most important. Once you respect yourself people automatically start to respect you. It's earned.
#3
Earned, because I'm bitter.
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#4
Earned... but that doesn't mean I disrespect everyone I see on the street.
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#5
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I think self-respect is most important. Once you respect yourself people automatically start to respect you. It's earned.



i second that^
#6
respect should be earned, but you should still have some towards all your fellow man.
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#8
Respect is automatically earned until you do something disrespectful to someone. Then is has to be earned back.
#9
Given, but much more can be earned.
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#10
Quote by CoreysMonster
I think self-respect is most important. Once you respect yourself people automatically start to respect you. It's earned.


Wow, I never looked at it that way. That's pretty smart.

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Given, but much more can be earned.


Oh, I forgot to add that, I believe this too.
#11
i think you should respect anyone that isnt a chav/paedophile/criminal. but real respect should be earned by what people say and do.
#13
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#15
starts as given, but it can quickly been taken away from u.. so u gotta do something to keep that respect up
#16
I reckon you should give everyone some respect (respect as a human being, as a person with feelings), but you should be able to take/add more if they deserve it.
#17
People have to earn it, in my view. It annoys me so much when people assume they have an automatic right to my respect, and then treat me or people I know how they want because they think we have to respect them. I don't disrespect everybody I meet though.
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#18
there is no reason why some1 walking down the street can't have your respect but if you see a reason for not giving him any, say he kicked a homeless person than he deserves none
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#22
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Given, but much more can be earned.


Yeah that sums it up.

Saying you have to earn it seems sort of big headed. It implies that your respect is worth effort.
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#23
It's gotta be earned.

There was a Don who ruled the neighborhood where I grew up in New York named Don Fanucci. He was a mean bastard. Me and my friends had gotten into stealing things, and one day Fanucci jumped in the delivery truck that I drove around town, and we talked for awhile. He says to me, "Young man, I hear you and your friends are stealing goods. But you don't even send a dress to my house. No respect! You know I've got three daughters. This is my neighborhood. You and your friends should show me some respect. You should let me wet my beak a little. I hear you and your friends cleared $600 each. Give me $200 each, for your own protection. And I'll forget the insult. You young punks have to learn to respect a man like me! Otherwise the cops will come to your house. And your family will be ruined. Of course, if I'm wrong about how much you stole, I'll take a little less. And by less, I only mean - a hundred bucks less. Now don't refuse me. Understand, paisan? Understand, paisan?... Tell your friends I don't want a lot. Just enough to wet my beak. Don't be afraid to tell them!"

So I tell my friends about Fanucci's deal, and I tell them that I'm only going to offer to pay him 50$ "How will you change his mind?" They asked. I told them not to worry about it. Later that night I hid in Fanucci's apartment building for three hours in the dark (I had unscrewed all of the hallway lightbulbs). He came in and walked up the stairs to his door. He noticed the lights and began tapping them. They came on and I emerged from the shadows with a shotgun wrapped in a blanket, and I unloaded on him.

After that, I became the new Don. Don Stellar_Legs.


Respect. You gotta earn it.
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#25
You have respect for someone, you don't give it.

And, what do you mean? You didn't phrase that well at all.
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#26
Both... duh. you give respect to someone who's earned it. People respect you if you earn it...
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#27
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Both... duh. you give respect to someone who's earned it. People respect you if you earn it...


I was waiting for that.

Yeah giving and earning respect are too different things...

You give respect to someone who's earned it.

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#28
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Should it be earned or given? This gets talked about a lot, and I thought it would be interesting to see what UG thought.

In my opinion, it should be given, but then taken away if someone fucks up. I have respect for anyone until they do something themselves to make me think about them differently.

So what do you guys think?



I agree.
#30
Quote by CoreysMonster
I think self-respect is most important. Once you respect yourself people automatically start to respect you. It's earned.


I always wondered why people didn't respect me... hmmm.
#31
I said earned.

There's two kinds of respect though. There's a basic level of "respect", in terms of listening to others' opinions and recognizing that they have their own feelings and accommodating them... I don't refer to any of these things as respect though, but I do think that these things are very, very important, ethically and simply for getting along with others. The definition I actually use, however, is that of an appreciation of a person's accomplishments of deed and character. This basically by definition must be earned, and is rather meaningless if it is afforded to everyone.
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#33
earned!
just giving it seem pointless most people probably don't deserve it.
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#34
you should respect everyone until they lose that respect and no longer deserve it. you cant start out disrespecting everyone...
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#35
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I said earned.

There's two kinds of respect though. There's a basic level of "respect", in terms of listening to others' opinions and recognizing that they have their own feelings and accommodating them... I don't refer to any of these things as respect though, but I do think that these things are very, very important, ethically and simply for getting along with others. The definition I actually use, however, is that of an appreciation of a person's accomplishments of deed and character. This basically by definition must be earned, and is rather meaningless if it is afforded to everyone.


+1.

I also think respect should be earned. There is a basic level of respect, and a respect for someone as a character.
#36
you should have respect for a person, until they prove other wise that they deserve it or dont.....

you can quote me lol
#37
Quote by hardrock1315

In my opinion, it should be given, but then taken away if someone fucks up. I have respect for anyone until they do something themselves to make me think about them differently.


+1

i try to be curtious to everyone, however I respect some more than others.
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#38
Given initially but then it has to be earned to continue. Everyone deserves respect initially (can't judge a book by its cover) but if they begin abusing that respect they should lose it.
#40
I think respect should be automatically assumed to someone when you first meet them, as a form of courtesy. Then see how much they wittle away at it with their actions.
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