#1
Sooo I have a problem. I play in a band and our bass player has a girlfriend. Good for him you might say. Well.... maybe, but not for the rest of us. He tends to spend a lot of time with her and it is basically impossable to get him to a band practice. Now we're pretty tight so i don't want to just get rid of him and i dont know what to do.
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#2
tell him you understand girlfriends are important but that he needs to be able to commit to the band as well.

if that doesn't work tell him he's whipped and needs to stop being a pussy.
#3
If you're serious about the band, tell him to cut the shit or he's gone. I never put up with that crap.
#4
3 words:

music or sex?
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#5
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music or sex?

dude, you cant make a male musician choose.....its like asking a fat man twinkie or brownie
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#6
Try to schedule around him a bit, if you're buds and you don't want to just boot him (I'd never recommend just kicking him out if you're close and/or the band's just casual). Try to get him to find times that are better for the girlfriend, and times that make sense to spend with the band. If he won't give you ANY time though, then obviously he can't be in the band.

If it's only a casual thing though, you don't really have to kick him out. Just find another bassist (they're easier to find than people seem to think) and start practicing and playing with your new bassist. Whether or not it's something formal, it might just be the boot to the balls he needs to get him back in the band, otherwise, well, you've got a new bassist (who you can always switch out later, if he's not a close friend).
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#12
let him have his fun...he'll play better guaranteed


oh btw make sure hes protected
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#14
if he wants to spend so much time with her, invite her to your band practices. that worked when i was in your bassists position
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if he wants to spend so much time with her, invite her to your band practices. that worked when i was in your bassists position


Now there's a good idea, he's practising and in the running for some serious puss later on.
#16
Kick her in the balls.
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if he wants to spend so much time with her, invite her to your band practices. that worked when i was in your bassists position

Yes because watching them make out and be cute wouldnt be in the way at all...

#18
We were planning on having band practices every Tuesday, which was fantastic for the singer, the pianist/bassist and I.

But then the other guitarist/"organiser" (he organises the practices and gets us into a good practice location for free, which we couldn't do without him... unfortunately he is TERRIBLE at organising these things), he wanted to move the practices to Saturdays instead of Tuesdays, because of homework.

Now that's all well and good, putting homework as a priority... but dude, not only is band 2-3 hours a session, leaving another 4-6 hours or whatever to work on HW...
But Saturday is not good for ANY of us.
The singer and bassist/pianist have work/courses and stuff, and weekends is the only time I get to see my girlfriend. And fuck, I'm not giving up that once-a-week chance, otherwise I'd never get to see her.

So yeah, that's how my situation is sort of similar to yours... only in the opposite way


But yeah, that dude's retarded. Tuesday is the best day for it, NONE of us can do Saturday except for him.


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#22
Why doesn't anyone blame the girl. She needs to realize that he needs time for his band. And if she can't compromise then they need to split, because she'll probably not compromise on anything.
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#23
Hey, don't blame the girl. Does she even realise that this problem is going on?
Talk to your mate. It's not like he'll get all annoyed and break something, just have a quick, but patient chat. Tell him what you think, he'll tell you what he thinks, he'll try to sort out stuff, it won't work for a little, you'll have another chat and it'll fix. The end.

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#24
tell him about what happened to the beatles with john adn yoko
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Hey, don't blame the girl. Does she even realise that this problem is going on?
Talk to your mate. It's not like he'll get all annoyed and break something, just have a quick, but patient chat. Tell him what you think, he'll tell you what he thinks, he'll try to sort out stuff, it won't work for a little, you'll have another chat and it'll fix. The end.
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Basically just try to work around it. Make compromises.

How often does this guy see his girlfriend? If it's pretty much only on the days you have band practice, as is in my case, try and make the practice another day. Don't force him to be away from his girlfriend.

Or just try to make a compromise, if he can see his gf any time, I'm sure if you just talk to them they'll be understanding enough to let him do practice AND be with her. Don't get mad at all, just have a patient chat like strat here said.
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#26
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Sooo I have a problem. I play in a band and our bass player has a girlfriend. Good for him you might say. Well.... maybe, but not for the rest of us. He tends to spend a lot of time with her and it is basically impossable to get him to a band practice. Now we're pretty tight so i don't want to just get rid of him and i dont know what to do.


just let him know that hes simply got to choose one or the other. make it his choice, but make it clear that hes got to choose either/or. there is really no way to have a good band and a good girlfriend all at once. i kind of have the same problem, my girlfriend takes up a lot of my time otherwise id defenately be in a band right now.
#27
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dude, you cant make a male musician choose music or sex.....its like asking a fat man twinkie or brownie

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#29
a bassist with a girlfriend... well i never
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#30
You'd be suprised, my bassist is the only one in the band with a girlfriend as well. Probably cuz they're the only ones that don't spend all of their time practising...