Im in the same boat, I know pick attack is normal and is necessary for a natural sound, but its so loud it takes away from the notes being played. If I tap the string gently, you can hear the sound through the amp perfect, a loud click, like the electronics are so poweful that it is putting every bit of contact through the speakers. When I play higher notes, you can hear the noise of the pick hitting and scraping across the string, its so loud that it really doesnt sound good.
Why did you revive this...? Anyway, I guess I can only say try a different pick. >_> Try tortex or jazz iii picks. *shrug*