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#1
Honestly I just don't know. Its scares the hell out of me when I think about it. I am 17 and I have yet to have a girlfriend, though I have had several chances to, but I always chicken out. It kills me I gave up all these opportunities. The main reason I have rejected all of these chances is that I just don't know what to do, act, or say around girls especially hot ones and ones I like. I have plenty of friends that are girls and its nothing to talk to them. There my friends that are girls you know?

Anyway, what is your advise on this? I do not plan on letting another girl I like slip through my fingers on my account. Its pathetic.

By the way, I have asked my friends about this and I always get the answer, "Just be yourself." Well thats true but I still need to know what I should do with my girlfriend besides being yourself.

Oh and for the love of God, don't say have sex or makeout. I know that.
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#2
Well if you want to have a good relationship, and be able to talk to her, you need to learn to be her best friend, and just get comfortable around her.

Oh, and this should go in the Relationship Thread.

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#3
Well, you waste a lot of time on the phone discussing pointless ideas about what to do before you have sex. I hated that part about having a girlfriend.
#4
idk go to a football game invite her over to watch a movie. this way talking can stay to a minimum but you still have a good time together
#5
you talk on the phone for pointless hours..

Go out too dinner and have fun..

Talk..
#6
You made a mistake by trying to take something serious intio the pit and also dude just dont puss out you have asked several people probably thats the only answer you can get dont be a bitch. Get some balls and like go up to a girl girls sometimes think its kinda cute when u fumble a little bit just as long as its not like a bitchy girl so yeah go for it.
#7
be yourself man. you like seeing movies? go see a movie. putt-putt? same. anything you'd do with a group of friends you can do with your girlfriend.

dinner, concerts, beach (if there's one nearby you), movies, putt-putt, watch tv, clubbin (if you like that thing), etc. just whatever you do, be yourself. don't subject yourself to things you don't enjoy.

oh, and you're on ug. play guitar for her.
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#10
yes dude be yourself, talk to her and be her friend be always around, chat with her, email her, phone her to pointless hours, until you are really friends, then you will like her more and she will like you, and in a moment alone, everything will come out, and not necesarialy sex, cuz thats not how a relationship starts, i mean a kiss or just asking her. then go to the usal rutine, only that you have to spend time with her, buy her stuff, take her for a walk, almost like a pet but much more important (btw im not a sexist dude) and thet loves you

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#11
You need to relax, and just think girlfriends just as that. Friends, that are girls.


That you might have shexy time with.
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#12
Everybody has this problem my friend, you just need to think of a situation where you can comfortably enjoy separately and then just bring her. Go to a movie, concert, hockey game, whatever, just try and make the first few times you see her something where you can both be totally entertained whenever you feel awkward or can't think of anything to say. Ask her what she likes, find a common interest, if you go to a movie/concert etc then afterwards you immediately have some conversational material (although movies tend to be a little lacking in this area, try and find some ridiculously crazy event to go watch so then you can both discuss how good/bad/amazing it was afterwards and genuinely be excited by the conversation itself. After that you're golden).
#13
Talk on the phone a lot. That's a big thing.
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#16
Dude, the biggest mistake you can make is to have a girl friend just for the hell of having a girl friend.

I did that once and I was miserable because after a few months of just doing all of this stuff I wouldn't normally do I realized I had to break up with her. That sucked since I liked her, but I just didn't want to go out with her.

Just do things you like to do. Do things that you may have thought, "Gee I wish I had somebody to go do _______ with". Maybe that just means watch your favorite TV show or drive your car or go to movies. If it's not something you want to do now, then it's not something you'll enjoy doing with her because it will all be forced.
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#17
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Well, you waste a lot of time on the phone discussing pointless ideas about what to do before you have sex. I hated that part about having a girlfriend.
oh middle school...how i misss thee

on topic...there's really no trick to having a gf...take em out to the movies/dinner/concerts just make sure it's something that she's going to be interested (i.e. don't take her to see cannibal corpse, unless she's awesome ) call them on the phone everynight (even if it's only for a few minutes) and be prepared to talk until it's light out again...do "sweet" things for her every once and awhile like buying her flowers for no reason, write a song for her...one thing that i hate doing while i have a gf but which is something you really have to do is sometimes you're going to have to pick your gf over your friends...if you pick the friends...she won't forget it even if she says she doesn't mind at the time...when you're dating someone, you should know what to do

good luck
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Anyway, what is your advise on this? I do not plan on letting another girl I like slip through my fingers on my account. Its pathetic.

Don't use so much damn lube next time then.


that was lame....
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Well, you waste a lot of time on the phone discussing pointless ideas about what to do before you have sex. I hated that part about having a girlfriend.


That.

Don't slide directly into sex though, because then you have yourself a lady with some STD's.
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#23
Hang out, talk, talk a lot, be open about things, if she's pissing you off, and she asks what's wrong, tell her, be nice about it, but tell her. Go out to eat, listen to tunes, if she likes it, play guitar for her. Get used to watching Lifetime, haha, seriously, Army Wives, good show. Try to do nice little things for her though, like surprise her with flowers, and don't deliver them yourself, drop them off to where she'll find them or have someone else deliver them, do cute **** like candlelight dinners if she's into it, and picnics, and be what your friends would call "a bitch" or "whipped". Basically though, treat her with respect, and like she's one of your friends, but better, it's hard to explain.
#25
Here are some things that my boyfriend does for/with me:
- calls me every night
- calls me randomly just to say hi
- plays songs for me =)
- takes me out for dinner (randomly and for special occasions)
- takes me out to the movies
- watch movies at his place
- the usual things a gentleman does (open doors, offers to pay, etc.)

Basically, be a nice guy. The best advice is to just be yourself like everyone else said. Oh, everything that you do for her, you should feel comfortable with and you actually want to do it. It shouldn't feel like you're being forced to do chores or something lol. Hope that helped.
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#26
Alot of people dont think before they talk. i used to have the problem until i found drugs now im alot more calm and will think before a second or two before i say something....
that helps me find something to say
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#27
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Here are some things that my boyfriend does for/with me:
- calls me every night
- calls me randomly just to say hi
- plays songs for me =)
- takes me out for dinner (randomly and for special occasions)
- takes me out to the movies
- watch movies at his place
- the usual things a gentleman does (open doors, offers to pay, etc.)

Basically, be a nice guy. The best advice is to just be yourself like everyone else said. Oh, everything that you do for her, you should feel comfortable with and you actually want to do it. It shouldn't feel like you're being forced to do chores or something lol. Hope that helped.

Wow a girl who actually llikes a nice guy.
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You have to ask questions but not only that turn EVERYTHING she says into a question. You don't want to give anything away for free because then she'll get bored with you.
#28
i agree with not having a girlfriend just to have a girlfriend, tried it and it's retarded, don't do it. have patience
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#29
Things you do with a girlfriend?

Argue


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#30
I've never had one either, don't worry. She'll come
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#31
O and when people say songs, they mean three chord changes. The standard G, C, and D (diminished even) are commonplace and chick magnets. If they get skeptical and say that's all you play, throw in an A Major and an E. Butter.

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But they have to be sarcastic or something... or just messing around.

Surely people this dumb must've failed to breathe a long time ago.
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#33
I'm in the same boat as you, same age and all.

In my infinite wisdom, I'd be tempted to tell you to take a strategy of frequent phone conversations and silly escapades for ****s and giggles combined with the mentality of being totally cool. You're young now, but you won't be in a few years, you know? Don't be a pussy, suck up your insecurities and just live. You've got to start some time, better get started now. Temper your fear with the realization that as you age, everything will become harder and more awkward. You have an excuse now, don't waste this precious time.

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on topic...there's really no trick to having a gf...take em out to the movies/dinner/concerts just make sure it's something that she's going to be interested (i.e. don't take her to see cannibal corpse, unless she's awesome ) call them on the phone everynight (even if it's only for a few minutes) and be prepared to talk until it's light out again...do "sweet" things for her every once and awhile like buying her flowers for no reason, write a song for her...one thing that i hate doing while i have a gf but which is something you really have to do is sometimes you're going to have to pick your gf over your friends...if you pick the friends...she won't forget it even if she says she doesn't mind at the time...when you're dating someone, you should know what to do

good luck



oh you got it wrong with my gf there.. the other time i chose her over my friends she effing scolded me man!! i was like W T F? she said that its hard to be thoughtful and ****... and i am like huh? all i wanted to do was spend time with you.. girls.. so unpredictable...
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#35
Keep the talking on the phone to a minimum. Talking to much, then u run outta crap to talk about and it becomes awkward.
#36
Dude, I totally feel you on this one. It sucks. The only thing you can do is look at yourself (maybe in the mirror, whatever works for you) and really ask yourself, what do you want? If the answer is the hot girl ur friends with, then goddammit realize that the only way is to GO FOR IT.

Seriously. It's taken me 19 years, but it's the only ****ing way, I tell you. Hot chicks are intimidating to guys that aren't total assholes, so they're impressed when you have the balls to ask them out. trust me, JUST happened to me two weeks ago and now I have a bomb gf that's all i could ever ask for, after being single for a year straight and wondering why. Heed me, friend.
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#37
Well the first thing is decide if you really want a particular girl or if you just feel like you need one. If theres a particular girl your after, then whether you get her or not depends on how hard you try and if your "cute".
#38
You put a gag in her mouth and hump her .. am I the only one who sees that as blatantly obvious?
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#40
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Don't use so much damn lube next time then.


that was lame....

I laughed
Does that make me uber pathetic??
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