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#1
I got an email from my uncle in Australia asking if I was online, so i emailed him back asking whats up. Basically he explained to me that my grandfather (who lives in Australia too) had passed away this morning. He told me instead of my dad because I was never really that close with my grandfather, he always lived in Australia. I've only seen him Twice in my life. But this is the guy that raised my dad, and my uncle thinks its best if my dad hears it from someone in real life rather than over the internet.

We all knew it was going to happen sometime in the next few years, he was 79 years old and in bad health. But I still dont know how to explain it to my father in a way that will cause as little pain as possible.. It's hard enough for me to think about, so I cant imagine what it's going to be like for my dad.

Basically what I'm asking for... i guess i need to know the words to use, what to say, and when. I really have no idea.


Also, this is not my dads birth father, but he did raise him since he was a baby. My dads real father died before he knew him.

R.I.P ROBERT WINTER 1928 - 2007
Last edited by 7daycrisis at Sep 8, 2007,
#2
RIP. I am so sorry to hear that man.

Tell him how you would want to hear it man. Also, keep telling him that you are there for him. I guarantee he will appreciate it.
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RIP. I am so sorry to hear that man.

Tell him how you would want to hear it man. Also, keep telling him that you are there for him. I guarantee he will appreciate it.


I agree. You need to support your father in this hard time.

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#6
Just tell him that your uncle talked with you over the internet to let you know your Grandpa died and tell him that you loved him, even though you've only seen him twice. And stay with your dad till he feels better.
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#7
Sorry for your dad mate
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#8
Sorry for your loss and the difficult position you've been put in. I've never been in that situation, so I can't help you.
#9
Thanks for the support guys... well i'm gonna go talk to him now. See how he takes it, maybe it will be easier since New Zealands about to beat Italy i nthe rugby world cup, might cheer him up afterwards haha. Thanks heaps
#10
Sorry to hear, theres no easy way to do it.

Tell your mum and let her worry about it.
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Sorry to hear, theres no easy way to do it.

Tell your mum and let her worry about it.

I honestly think his dad will appreciate him coming to him (awkward wording).
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#12
If anybody is interested, it went well =) Basically i said that i have something he needs to know (straight away he said "you're not gay are you?" so I told him everything, he seemed upset as you would expect, but lke i said, we all knew it was coming. So he said he wants to have some time alone for the rest of the night and made sure i would be ok too, then we hugged and went our seperate ways. Which is pretty cool cause we never hug or anything.

/my emotional story

Thanks for the support by the way guys.
#13
I'm glad it went well man. Are you ok though?
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#14
Yeah.. like i said i barely knew him. Of course its hard though, but theres not much point in bringing myself down about it when I can't change it. I'm going to try and organise a funeral here as well as Australia since the majority of the family are in New Zealand.
#15
That's a burden taken off your back. Check back with your dad later and see if he's doing fine.
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RIP. I am so sorry to hear that man.

Tell him how you would want to hear it man. Also, keep telling him that you are there for him. I guarantee he will appreciate it.


Couldn't have said it better myself.

79 years is a good age man, may he rest in peace.

esitforseemingstupidfornotreadingthewholething: Good that it went well man, and just stick by him tomorrow. He'll be ok
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#17
i'd burst into tears when my dad dies... and i wouldn't want to be disturbed... but that might just be me. but yea. i'd burst into tears if anybody passes in my family. any way the person tells me i probably would...

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#18
I'm very sorry for your loss.

And, I completely agree with the advice of Terrence.

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#19
"Dude grandads dead.....get over it"

i'm joking don't actually do that

really sorry to hear but try and tell him everything you know and break it to him slowly. I doubt i could have done that so i respect you

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#21
Sorry to hear that.

If you're anything like me, you suck at telling people bad news. So maybe tell your mum or sister (if you have one) and get her to tell him.

Or just tell him exactly what the email said and try to comfort him.
#22
Condolonces to you and your family, my dad took it pretty hard when both his parents died, but he'll get through it. Buy him a dog, animals are good companions.
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#23
good to hear that it went well.. TBH, 79 is a prime age, you should be glad he lived as long as he did, and hope he didn't suffer in his passing. Sure it's sad that he's not around anymore, but like I said: 79 is a prime age to go. We can all just hope to even get close to that (This in regards to the "Musicians die younger" newspost )
#24
I'm sorry to hear that
When you see your dad, give him a tight hug, and tell him his father died.
#26
Hey guys =) Thanks for the support, i already broke it to him, yo ucan read about it on the first page. Just so you all know, he took it well so all is good.
#27
At least it was expected, sorry to hear about it. I had to tell my mom her grandmother had died a few months ago, but we all knew it would be soon and weren't very shocked. Good on you for having the balls to say it, it's never easy to be the bearer of bad news.

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At least it was expected, sorry to hear about it. I had to tell my mom her grandmother had died a few months ago, but we all knew it would be soon and weren't very shocked. Good on you for having the balls to say it, it's never easy to be the bearer of bad news.

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#30
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I got an email from my uncle in Australia asking if I was online, so i emailed him back asking whats up. Basically he explained to me that my grandfather (who lives in Australia too) had passed away this morning. He told me instead of my dad because I was never really that close with my grandfather, he always lived in Australia. I've only seen him Twice in my life. But this is the guy that raised my dad, and my uncle thinks its best if my dad hears it from someone in real life rather than over the internet.

We all knew it was going to happen sometime in the next few years, he was 79 years old and in bad health. But I still dont know how to explain it to my father in a way that will cause as little pain as possible.. It's hard enough for me to think about, so I cant imagine what it's going to be like for my dad.

Basically what I'm asking for... i guess i need to know the words to use, what to say, and when. I really have no idea.


Also, this is not my dads birth father, but he did raise him since he was a baby. My dads real father died before he knew him.

R.I.P ROBERT WINTER 1928 - 2007


So sorry for you dude. R.I.P

I lost my last grand parent about a year ago, so I definitely know how you feel. (Actually maybe, not. I knew them pretty well. Except the ones one my moms side, my grandad there died before I was born and the grandma died when I was two.) Well, the best you could do is not hold it in for long. The longer you wait the worse it's gonna be. Just tell him that you have something to tell him and that he needs to sit down. It will hurt for him, but just be there for him. That's the most important thing, and exactly what family is for.

When my grandad died is one of the very few times I've seen my dad cry, so prepare for a bit of a shock, be strong for him. I wish you and your family the best of luck.
#31
im sorry man. i very recently lost my grandad and my best friend within 2 weeks of each other so i know how it feels to lose someone. just keep reminding him that you love him and remember that he loves you too xx
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#32
all I can say is don't be sad, 79 years is a decent length for life. Just tell your Dad straight, he'll be upset but he will never be angry at you for telling you it.
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#34
Well I know you've told him now but that must have been a very strange situation to be in.

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#36
Get your uncle to call your dad: he's passing responsibility and putting you in an unreasonable position. You shouldn't be the one to tell your dad, imo.
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#37
I'm sorry to hear that mate. It's not really my position to try and tell you how you should break news this personal to your dad.
#38
^^ I agree, he'd probably rather hear it from someone who actually knew him anyway.
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#39
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If anybody is interested, it went well =) Basically i said that i have something he needs to know (straight away he said "you're not gay are you?" so I told him everything, he seemed upset as you would expect, but lke i said, we all knew it was coming. So he said he wants to have some time alone for the rest of the night and made sure i would be ok too, then we hugged and went our seperate ways. Which is pretty cool cause we never hug or anything.

/my emotional story

Thanks for the support by the way guys.

Congrats. Sounds like you did a good job.

It must have been hard telling your own father that.
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