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#1
ok, so been with my girlfriend for a really long time now, and I really love her and could definitely marry her when I'm done with college, but anyways, I was at a party once, got kinda drunk and slept with someone else, next morning woke up...oh ****, what happened. My gf has been cheated on before and says that if I ever cheated on her and she found out, she would leave me, and I really don't want her to leave, so I'm torn between telling her and not. I know I probably should...but...what would you guys do? https://www.ultimate-guitar.com/forum/newthread.php?do=newthread&f=11#
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but it was odd, we didn't have anything overly important stolen

and among the stolen items: Bananas

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#3
ya, that's what I thought...
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Yes

but it was odd, we didn't have anything overly important stolen

and among the stolen items: Bananas

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Some guy stole one of my pants and the plastic bottles.
#5
idk why there's a link...but it was like a month ago, I've been tearing(like ripping, not crying) up about it, and figure I have to do something.
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Yes

but it was odd, we didn't have anything overly important stolen

and among the stolen items: Bananas

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Some guy stole one of my pants and the plastic bottles.
#6
I wasn't trying to be harsh with my post, but you should tell her, you shouldn't hide stuff if your like me it will just eat at you until you tell her anyway. Also its better to hear from you than possibly someone else.
#7
what she doesnt know can't hurt her.... just don't do it again
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#8
wow you must really love her you got 'kinda drunk' and slept with someone else. i've been completely blind and still known exactly what i was doing and wouldn't forget about a partner i loved. i'd give you advice but i don't feel sorry for you at all.
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#9
Don't tell her, but if it was me I would tell her. I wouldn't be able to live with it. If you tell her she might tell you about the night she spent with another man and you'll be even.
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#10
ok...that's what I'll do, what's really weird and awkward is this girl who I was drunk with is like my best friend, who now has a boyfriend, and we go on double dates and stuff all the time.
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Yes

but it was odd, we didn't have anything overly important stolen

and among the stolen items: Bananas

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Some guy stole one of my pants and the plastic bottles.
#11
being drunk is no excuse for cheating. You deserve whatever negative comes your way.
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#12
why not become swingers with other couple and solve the problem?
#13
i don't think i would tell her...alcohol was involved, you immediatly regreted it, you've spent over a month worried about it

the only reason you should tell her is if you think she would find out otherwise...in that case it's much better if she hears it from you

if not, it's probably best left unsaid

still...i have no respect for those who cheat
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#14
well look at it in this point of view, you tell her now, she leaves, you cry, you get drunk and get laid
marry her, she finds out, takes alot of your money, leaves, you get drunk, and puke all over some other chick you were trying to boink.....i'd just tell her, but don't say you "slept" with someone else, say you got a little intimate but nothing happend
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#15
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wow you must really love her you got 'kinda drunk' and slept with someone else. i've been completely blind and still known exactly what i was doing and wouldn't forget about a partner i loved. i'd give you advice but i don't feel sorry for you at all.


+1


1)Don't get so drunk.
2)I've never got how people lose ALL self-control when drunk. I lose it a bit but I wouldn't go and fuck someone else if I intended to marry my current girlfriend. That's a bit stupid.
#16
Honesty is the best policy, basically, you telling her is much better than her finding out from somewhere else
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#17
She sounds like a nice enough girl. She doesn't deserve to be lied to. And you'll go to hell, too.
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#18
well, I am kinda dumbassy at times...well...a lot of the time...
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Yes

but it was odd, we didn't have anything overly important stolen

and among the stolen items: Bananas

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Some guy stole one of my pants and the plastic bottles.
#19
tell her, i will hurt both of you now, but it would be nothing compared to if you hide it from her and she finds out later
#20
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Honesty is the best policy, basically, you telling her is much better than her finding out from somewhere else


+1 to this as well. She will find out somehow, you have a better chance if you come clean and apologise. A LOT.
#21
well the longest relationships are based on lies, you see if you are always truthful, then youre screwed,but if youre not then your screwed as well, its girls man, try this approach, tell her, that you did this, if she dusnt take it good tell her that youre kidding and burst out saying "psych"


and i donno man...youre between a rock and a hard place(is that a real proverb?)
#22
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well, I am kinda dumbassy at times...well...a lot of the time...


i don't think you know what love is.

at least be honest with her about it now, you've been unfair enough to your girlfriend already.
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#23
Just tell her, and why weren't you with her whilst you were drunk.
Peiople that say alcohol was the cause of their actions make me angry, its your fault for getting drunk.
#25
dude, girls cant be relaly stubborn sometimes, as soon as they hear slept, they get mad, and this dude loves her, so man, all i can say is all the best, i really hope it works out for you, and i think you shud tell her, itll be better to hear it from you than hearing it from some1 else...and how old are you?
#26
How long exactly have you been together? If your idea of a really long time is like 6 months or something, then you really need to reconsider your feelings towards this girl. Otherwise I'd just come out and tell her, it'll tear you apart from the inside otherwise.
#27
I'd probably tell her. You wouldn't want to go on with a relationship if you have such a feeling of guilt all the time. You pretty much butt-****ed yourself on that one.
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#28
First off dont drink and you wont have this sort of problem. Drinking always leads to bad things. Its gonna be hard, but you should tell her and as much as you dont want her to leave, you dont deserve to be with her anymore anyway. She needs to know. Its hard to say how to tell her, but you should maybe start with,"I want you to know that i love you and i cant imagine life without you, but i did something that i regret and i dont know if i even deserve to be talking to you right now because of it." or something like that. I know that i would be crying through the whole thing so if you really love her like you say you do then you might cry as well. Who knows, maybe she'll forgive you. and remember, if she doesnt find out about it, she wont know, but you will and the guilt will smother you like so many wet blankets.
#29
i agree with the ppls saying its better to hear it from you than someone else
lying isnt good.. and my girls been cheated on (the BF before me) and she says if i ever cheated on her she doesnt know if shes leave me or not..
but the point im trying to get through is that if i were in ur shoes right about now, id go prepair some kind of lead in that'll ease it out instead of a big BANG
well.. if all of thats possible that is
oh and another thing dude.. do it IRL, and start to cry halfway through.. it'll convey more of the 'im a douchebag and i dont deserve you but i love you anyways so please forgive me' thing
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#30
Ask your self if it was really the alcohol that caused it.... or it was just you... I have been black out wasted before (twice in the period i have been dating my current gf) and chicks have hit on me and I have never done anything with any of them. Completely faithful to my girlfriend, but I don't get that drunk anymore because I wouldn't want anything to happen. If you care about her that much don't put yourself in jeopardy.

since it already happened... you can look at it 2 ways: telling her the truth would be noble and she deserves to know, but she will always remember that and it may mess you guys up. If you don't tell her you will still know, but she won't so she won't feel different about you, however if she finds out from someone else you would really be ****ed.
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#31
sometimes it's best that people don't know but it is best to tell her
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#32
she's gonna cheat on you; even if you dont tell her. karmas a Bi***
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#34
We all got skeletons in our closet we'll carry to our graves.
Tell her...if she really loves you she'll forgive you...but you may never have her trust again. Then she'll call you all the time to see where you are. Or she'll just go EVERYWHERE with you to make sure you don't screw up again. She'll be like a siamese twin that was surgically seperated but just can't seem to be apart.
Or, she'll totally ditch your ass and you can cry in your beer for awhile and get over her. Then move on and find someone else. And don't screw up this time.
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ok...that's what I'll do, what's really weird and awkward is this girl who I was drunk with is like my best friend, who now has a boyfriend, and we go on double dates and stuff all the time.

dude that must suck.
But if you do tell your gf, tell her the love part aswell from the first post. It might sway her your way
#36
Tell her....................... but if she cuts your **** off don't come crying to us
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#37
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i don't think i would tell her...alcohol was involved, you immediatly regreted it, you've spent over a month worried about it

the only reason you should tell her is if you think she would find out otherwise...in that case it's much better if she hears it from you

if not, it's probably best left unsaid

still...i have no respect for those who cheat


Well, if you think your relationship's going to stay long-term and your friendship with this other girl's gonna stay, then chances are some random event will occur that makes your friend blurt it out.

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#38
TELL HER YOU ****FACE!!!

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#39
i like my answer better
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#40
Seriously... Tell her, if she leaves you, then she wasnt ment to be. But it just sounds like she's insecure because she cheated on you first.
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