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#1
Hello everyone.

I’ve got a situation that I hope to get at least a few respectful responses to.

Here it is:

I am 19 years old, in college and have never had a girl friend. Never kissed, never been on a date; none of that stuff. I have been home schooled all my life (well… since second grade) and raised in a very Christian home (my father was a pastor). It’s not that my parents forbid dating, it’s just that being home schooled; I never really got much of a chance. I had a few friends, and knew a few girls, but dating in high school was frowned upon by the Christian community I was a part of.

So I’ve been dateless all my life.

Although I am very quiet by nature, I’m not the obnoxious, thick-headed douche bag that some homeschoolers tend to be. I wear normal clothes and played sports. I’m not completely sheltered, as I’ve worked many jobs and had exposure to normal people. Lots of people are surprised when I tell them I was home schooled.

I don‘t consider myself to be terribly unattractive. I am no super model, but don’t think I’m too unpleasant to look at. I’d post some pictures, but that’d be over doing it a little bit. :P

Since I’ve been at college, I’ve had a few girls make it known they were attracted to me… That feeling wasn’t mutual so that obviously didn’t go anywhere. There are some girls I’m interested in, and lately I’ve picked up a few subtle hints that one of them might be interested in me (the hints being nothing really more than a glance, a smile, and a look away), but I really have no idea how to go about asking her out.

As I said, I’m pretty quiet by nature, and would not do well at all just walking up to her and striking up a completely random conversation. I’d like to get to know her better before asking her out, but I have no idea how to do so.

But my main question is pretty broad: How would someone like me go about finding dates? How can I at least be moderately sure she’s not already seeing someone? If you could try and relate it to my situation, that’d be great. I suppose a large part of it would just be getting over myself and just ask her out, but hey - I’m new to this.

I suppose it’s worth mentioning that for the past few years, I’ve no longer considered myself a Christian, and obviously dating a Christian girl is not mandatory.

Anyway… Any advice would be very much appreciated. Thanks.
#2
Advice: if u are american, you should probably be circumcised caus chicks there are particularly harsh towards anteaters
#4
find a girl, and do the cliche thing, get her number ask her out.. wing it all and dont worry
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#5
Well just a hint...you're not gonna get any girls if you're not meeting any. There are other places besides school to go check out once in a while. I know I'm pretty quiet myself and I'm no '10' either...meet a bunch...law of averages says one of them will like you eventually
#6
I just read the entire story,

seems to me like you need to step up and do something. Sitting on your Ass isnt getting you anywhere.
Chat with her (first aquire her mail adress of phone nr for texting or whatever) and get some info on what she's all about.

when you think you both can talk well, get a little mote personal, and ask if she's seeing anyone. This is the first step into letting a girl know that you're interested

just work from there..

main point: talk to her/them or it'll be gone before you know it.

I hope it helps a little, it does for me anyways
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#7
Finding dates? Don't think about it as long term quite yet. Even if you think you aren't into them, ask them on a date just for the sake of learning. Obviously you want to be friends first, so try to notice their interests.
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#8
Get out of the pit...get out more...meeting people. And wing it like was said before, half the fun is being spontaneous - so BE spontaneous!
#9
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Advice: if u are american, you should probably be circumcised caus chicks there are particularly harsh towards anteaters


Because the first a girl will see is his penis, right?

Him: "Hello"
Girl: "Hi"
*whips penis out*
Girl: " you're not circumcised, I would have totally dated you if you would have been."
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#10
girls love comedians so do a few jokes, or if your not that funny be around people that are less funnier than you this will make you seem more funny if you are compared with them
#12
pics or it didnt happen
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#13
Well... I used to be a quiet person myself, but the random conversation thing is pretty fun once in a while now, thats how I met a lot of people, actually, some are interested, some, not so much.

And to find out if shes single, you could always facebook-creep her, and check herr profile, if its open to the public (assuming you kno her name)
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Because the first a girl will see is his penis, right?

Him: "Hello"
Girl: "Hi"
*whips penis out*
Girl: " you're not circumcised, I would have totally dated you if you would have been."


made me lol
#16
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Because the first a girl will see is his penis, right?

Him: "Hello"
Girl: "Hi"
*whips penis out*
Girl: " you're not circumcised, I would have totally dated you if you would have been."




Anyway, I'm in the same situation as you buddy, hopefully lady luck will be on our side in the near future .
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#17
Punch her in the head, if you knock her out she's all yours. Drag her home buddy, you win.
#18
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#19
If I was a woman and read that I'd be all over you like a rash. Nothing better than a guy whose quiet, wears normal clothes, works normal jobs with normal people, is normal looking and was home schooled in a christian community - is it just me or does this scream excitement.

Seriously though, man up and have a dig. Whats the worst that can happen ? 'No thanks'
or even if they are extremely harsh, you can always turn that into a good story, i know i do.
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If I was a woman and read that I'd be all over you like a rash. Nothing better than a guy whose quiet, wears normal clothes, works normal jobs with normal people, is normal looking and was home schooled in a christian community - is it just me or does this scream excitement.


I'm just telling you how it is.
#21
Yeah, and notice the little bit at the bottom ? Besides anyone here isn't going to have good advice, most of us only have imaginary relationships not me though...whats that Carmen Electra? Come to bed ? Ok.
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#22
im 19, same romantic situation as you (meaning, nothing at all) but i have a better excuse: im fat, hairy, and i have a crude sense of humor. so when it comes to being a loser:

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#23
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Yeah, and notice the little bit at the bottom ? Besides anyone here isn't going to have good advice, most of us only have imaginary relationships not me though, my girlfriend carmen electra just stays at my beach house.

Dude, I'M dating Carmen Electra. Ha, caught you lying red handed. Now if you'll excuse me, I have to prepare my acceptance speech for Biggest Testicles in the Universe award at the Galactical Awesomeness Awards tomorrow.
#24
i agree with whoever said it first. You see a girl you like, just go over and wing it.
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#28
Yup just get out there and talking to girls. They want it as much as you do (well maybe not that much, but still), so just chat up as many girls as possible. You don't need a stupid pick up line, "Hi, I'm X, how are you?" is the best thing you can say to a stranger. Like they say in the 40 Year Old Virgin, you gotta just get out there and start slaying hoodrats. Once you get like 20-30 of them under your belt you can think about doing it with a girl you like, otherwise they'll think you're weird for being so crap at sex. Don't worry, you gotta start somewhere so just do it. Don't wait or it will just get worse.
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#29
SilenceIsGolden -
I'm in a similar space, I'm 21 soon to be 22 and no real GF...never had much time to get one and even if I had all the time in the world, I'm the quiet type that wont just walk up to a girl and start talking...
It doesn't bother me much being alone but theres times when I wished I had someone.

For now I'm just sticking with college work and a job starting next year.

and probably as you...I'm not model but I'm not ugly either.
I'm sure theres someone out there for me...I just have to wait.
#30
Find out if she's not in a relationship... well you could try asking

Join a society at your school, good way to meet people (if by school you mean uni, that is)
#31
mr bill0ws is right, no point being romantic about it, you just hae to get some practice or when you find a girl you really like it will be a lot harder and you will have much less of a chance with her.

Last year a girl really liked me but she had never kissed anyone before in her life; not because she was ugly, she was very good looking, but because she ignored people who liked her and focused on one person without ever making a move. In the end I did end up kissing her at a party but for the wrong reasons. I had lost a girl who I had really liked so I just decided to go for this other girl. A month or so later she asked me out and I said no because the girl I thought I lost turned out to actually like me. Of course this left her vulnerable so I tried to help her but in the end she stopped being so picky and, although at first I thought I'd messed her over, in the end I think I broke down barriers for her and she now has a boyfriend who she is happy with. I am convinced that despite hurting her through my actions I paved the way for her to have a relationship by breaking the barriers that kept her from kissing/ dating other guys.

Funnily enough she is a Vicars daughter and went to a catholic school.
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#33
societal pressure tends to think that not dating early is a bad thing, however some people are just late bloomers. Just excercise a little bit, have good hygiene, don't dress like a moron and don't worry too much.
#34
at least ur excuse was ur home schooled. idk wtf mine is. i think just tend to ignore everyone not relevant to my needs. aka im a ****in dick.
#35
You said you know a few girls who have made it known they are attracted to you. Well, even though you might not share the same feelings, if you are having so much trouble talking to girls that you must ask advice on UG, then maybe you should go out with one who is already interested in you. Getting a girl to like you and not think you are creepy is the hardest part. If you go out with a girl who already is into you, then the hardest part has been eliminated. Now you can relax and just focus on developing your ability to talk to women. You will eventually feel more comfortable and conversation will come more naturally to you. I think this is a good way for you learn some experience.
#36
I love threads like this, cause I love looking at how UGLY they are on their profiles!.!.!

Just joking, man, relationships are rubbish!! Go live downtown and get cheap daily hookers, who cares about AIDS and that crap..

ps. get a profile picture
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#37
ahaha ugly is the root of all virginity???

Yeah dude talk to the girls that dig u alrdy. Its a good way of getting urself out there and getting used to talking to females. Beggars cant be choosers lol.
#39
your asking the pit? what are you , stupid?

sorry, that was a little harsh, but your asking the PIT!

id say make a move. ive got the same trouble, apart from im 17. but i focus moreon the band tbh, so it isnt as much as an issue.
#40
Simple solution. Little box on the top-right, it has an X in it, click that.

Now, go socialize. Do it every night. Don't stay in. Get a job if you don't have one, hang out with everyone you know, time at your house alone is time wasted!
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