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#1
How the hell do you go about doing that. Its so freaking awkward for me to do it. Do you do it over the phone or in person. What do I even say? Is it as simple as saying hey you wanna go out? When they say yes, then what? Thats awkward too. What do you suggest?

btw I am a pretty shy guy around girls but the few that I have liked always liked me back. I swear I hate being shy but I can't break it. I hate to say it because it makes me look like a prick but if I wasn't so shy I could have gone out with several hot chicks by now. I'm an idiot pretty much lol.
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#2
relationship thread lol!!


Crap now i feel bad

well do you two already talk??
if you two already talk just go ask her just get the courage up keep your back straight make eye contact and say:
Im gonna go watch a movie, would you like to go with me?

it doesnt have to be a movie just say it like that
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#3
If you know a chick that digs you just go up to her and say "hey wanna go out to the movies tomorrow night or something" or some line like that...and they`ll get your message, flirt with them etc etc etc to show your interested.
#4
After they say yes, you say the time and place and/or ask what they like.
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#5
Ask them out in person, if you can't then do the phone, but never ask out over IM,myspace,facebook,UG, ect. After she says yes, scamper away and jump for joy for about 10-15 minutes, then later you can call her and just be like "so you wanna chill/hang out." and then see a movie, go to her house vice versa, hang at the mall or something else. Just ask her what she wants to do. After being with her for awhile it should come naturally.
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Ask them out in person, if you can't then do the phone, but never ask out over IM,myspace,facebook,UG, ect. After she says yes, scamper away and jump for joy for about 10-15 minutes, then later you can call her and just be like "so you wanna chill/hang out." and then see a movie, go to her house vice versa, hang at the mall or something else. Just ask her what she wants to do. After being with her for awhile it should come naturally.


lololol i wonder how many ug relationships we have here

anyway, do it in person, i hate it when people don't do it face to face, same with breaking up

just work up the courage and do it
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Ask them out in person, if you can't then do the phone, but never ask out over IM,myspace,facebook,UG, ect. After she says yes, scamper away and jump for joy for about 10-15 minutes, then later you can call her and just be like "so you wanna chill/hang out." and then see a movie, go to her house vice versa, hang at the mall or something else. Just ask her what she wants to do. After being with her for awhile it should come naturally.



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#8
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But yeah, Relationship Thread ftw.
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#9
1. DON'T ask her out. it sounds wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too full on and they'll get scared away.

2. ask her in person.

3. start with maybe 'wots doing this weekend?' and eventually build up to saying 'well if ur not doing anything do you wanna get some coffee or something?'

4. if she isnt doing anything, say 'what about 2pm at.... (local area thats easy to get too for her)'

5. if she says no, or gives you an excuse try again next week, if she says no again shes not interested.

In my personal experience, when i was new to girls i'd try asking them out, it DOESN'T work, they take in way too full on, DON'T go to the movies, it's WAY too awkward for an initial meeting, and DON'T go into 'coffee' thinking its a date.
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#10
Definitely ask her out in person. She'll see that you're interested in her enough to make it that personal instead of on msn or facebook where it just looks like you're too lazy. As well, I think it's best to do when you're just talking to her about random stuff and you two are about to part ways. Instead of saying "cya later," say "hey are you doing anything tomorrow *or insert some other day here*" and go from there.
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Definitely ask her out in person. She'll see that you're interested in her enough to make it that personal instead of on msn or facebook where it just looks like you're too lazy. As well, I think it's best to do when you're just talking to her about random stuff and you two are about to part ways. Instead of saying "cya later," say "hey are you doing anything tomorrow *or insert some other day here*" and go from there.


i would ask over txt the rejection is too much and her pressure might make her say no. 10pm on a weeknight when she is tucking up into bed do it then.
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i would ask over txt the rejection is too much and her pressure might make her say no. 10pm on a weeknight when she is tucking up into bed do it then.


I am a sociopathic fat guy and even I have more balls than that

ask in person dude, it shows you care, and that you have enough desire to do it in person, if she says no, persist(to a point, but some girls think it's cute) if you still get rejected, it wasn't meant to be.
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#13
first off if your under 14 you shouldnt date anyway

secondly if you know her already and are friends just kinda pop it.. if not.. pop it

'hey you wanna go to the movies sometime?'

and make sure its in person, it seems less.. stupid

but do something stupidly funny after she says yes to make her laugh
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#14
lol Never text asking someone out haha that's hilarious LOL

Here is what you do. If you really want a girl to like to (a hot one that is), as crazy as it sounds, act like you don't give a s$$t about them. But not too hardcore. Don't go out of your way to talk to them, don't bring up dull topics or strain to find something to talk about to try to get your foot in the door. Don't flatter them, don't do anything that will stroke their ego or make you out to look like every single other guy out there (because they ALL do that!)

When you are the one guy who acts like he isn't into the hottest girl around, she will wonder 'why doesn't he like me? aren't I pretty enough?' In a roundabout, semi-sneaky way, you've got the girl thinking about YOU instead of her brushing you off as yet another guy that is infatuated with her. Pretty soon they will turn to you, start talking to you, and when that happens, play it cool for a little while longer, then go in for the kill. I swear, it's crazy, but my roommate does this kind of crap all the freakin time. Works like a charm. It's unreal. In his words, the 'turnaround time' is between 2-4 weeks lol. Says if it doesn't work by then, you're doneski.


I don't really know why I posted that. Not really relevant to the thread I guess. But being that I wrote all of that I can't bring myself to delete it all hahahha. So here is my relevant response....


It's VERY simple. If you want to play the group thing (which is a great idea for an icebreaker to let her see you in your element), say somethin like

"hey, me an some friends are going so-and-so. You should come." If they say no, brush it off like it ain't no thang. Wait a while, try it again.
Don't pull the "do you wanna go out with me?" line. That just sounds pathetic (i've seen some guys pull it off with an air of humor and it worked, but rarely)
If you know her already just be cool, calm, and confident. Girls love confidence, but are totally turned off by arrogance. It's a thin line, and if you stay on the right sire, you are golden. Go up to her and ask something like "can I take you out this weekend?" Or the less direct approach of "you want to grab a bite to eat" or something nonchalant usually works. Honesty, confidence, and just being genuine will work most of the time, that is, if she is even remotely interested in you. If she's not, move on. There are PLENTY of fish in the sea. Don't waste your time with someone who won't waste theirs for you. Jeez, i've gone all dr phil.......oh well. too much written to delete this post...Kudos to those who end up reading this far LOL Good luck!!!
#15
Look straight in her eyes and say.. Yo Shawty, what your name is?
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lol Never text asking someone out haha that's hilarious LOL

Here is what you do. If you really want a girl to like to (a hot one that is), as crazy as it sounds, act like you don't give a s$$t about them. But not too hardcore. Don't go out of your way to talk to them, don't bring up dull topics or strain to find something to talk about to try to get your foot in the door. Don't flatter them, don't do anything that will stroke their ego or make you out to look like every single other guy out there (because they ALL do that!)

When you are the one guy who acts like he isn't into the hottest girl around, she will wonder 'why doesn't he like me? aren't I pretty enough?' In a roundabout, semi-sneaky way, you've got the girl thinking about YOU instead of her brushing you off as yet another guy that is infatuated with her. Pretty soon they will turn to you, start talking to you, and when that happens, play it cool for a little while longer, then go in for the kill. I swear, it's crazy, but my roommate does this kind of crap all the freakin time. Works like a charm. It's unreal. In his words, the 'turnaround time' is between 2-4 weeks lol. Says if it doesn't work by then, you're doneski.


I don't really know why I posted that. Not really relevant to the thread I guess. But being that I wrote all of that I can't bring myself to delete it all hahahha. So here is my relevant response....


It's VERY simple. If you want to play the group thing (which is a great idea for an icebreaker to let her see you in your element), say somethin like

"hey, me an some friends are going so-and-so. You should come." If they say no, brush it off like it ain't no thang. Wait a while, try it again.
Don't pull the "do you wanna go out with me?" line. That just sounds pathetic (i've seen some guys pull it off with an air of humor and it worked, but rarely)
If you know her already just be cool, calm, and confident. Girls love confidence, but are totally turned off by arrogance. It's a thin line, and if you stay on the right sire, you are golden. Go up to her and ask something like "can I take you out this weekend?" Or the less direct approach of "you want to grab a bite to eat" or something nonchalant usually works. Honesty, confidence, and just being genuine will work most of the time, that is, if she is even remotely interested in you. If she's not, move on. There are PLENTY of fish in the sea. Don't waste your time with someone who won't waste theirs for you. Jeez, i've gone all dr phil.......oh well. too much written to delete this post...Kudos to those who end up reading this far LOL Good luck!!!



that doesn't always work, at least not in europe. at least not in germany. at least not in my city. girls are very weird here. they need to fscking grow up.

okay enough self pity, if the advice this guy gives you doesn't pull on the girls in your area, you don't really want them, they're either only into guys in their circle, or just don't like you.
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#17
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that doesn't always work, at least not in europe. at least not in germany. at least not in my city. girls are very weird here. they need to fscking grow up.

Saying what I said will work, though.
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#18
Asking a girl out isn't the hard part. Finding stuff to do and getting to know her better, is.
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#19
Do you mean going out as in

'going steady'

or

going out for dinner

???
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#20
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#22
Well I'm shy too, but I don't think you should just randomly pop on girls ''hey wanna go out???''. When you get to know her etc, it just happens. Me thinks.
#24
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1. DON'T ask her out. it sounds wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too full on and they'll get scared away.

2. ask her in person.

3. start with maybe 'wots doing this weekend?' and eventually build up to saying 'well if ur not doing anything do you wanna get some coffee or something?'

4. if she isnt doing anything, say 'what about 2pm at.... (local area thats easy to get too for her)'

5. if she says no, or gives you an excuse try again next week, if she says no again shes not interested.

In my personal experience, when i was new to girls i'd try asking them out, it DOESN'T work, they take in way too full on, DON'T go to the movies, it's WAY too awkward for an initial meeting, and DON'T go into 'coffee' thinking its a date.


i have to quote this... what if they are not excuses and are genuine reasons?
for me, last week it was "sorry i got work" (she did have work, i know where she works)..
this week she's had an operation so she said she needed to rest yesterday (hasn't been at college all week either), she is on crutches though.. do i wait until she's off the crutches?
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#25
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How the hell do you go about doing that. Its so freaking awkward for me to do it. Do you do it over the phone or in person. What do I even say? Is it as simple as saying hey you wanna go out? When they say yes, then what? Thats awkward too. What do you suggest?

btw I am a pretty shy guy around girls but the few that I have liked always liked me back. I swear I hate being shy but I can't break it. I hate to say it because it makes me look like a prick but if I wasn't so shy I could have gone out with several hot chicks by now. I'm an idiot pretty much lol.


bring it up casually.

strike up convo, chat for a bit, make up some excuse (busy) that you have to leave, before leaving ask her what she's doing this weekend, ask if she wants to go for a coffee or hit a movie.

she'll either say yes or no. nothing to lose, and everything to gain.
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#26
What works for me. "Wanna catch a movie or something? I'm totally bored."

If she has any interest she would say yes. If not, push your luck/skill a little harder or give up without having to take as much humiliation as asking straightfoward..
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#28
"listen, i was just wondering if you'd like to go (enter place) with me (enter date & time)".

You just gotta do it mate, you're gonna get rejected at some point by some girl, it happens to everyone. And when it does simply reply, "fair enough, was worth a shot" and leave.
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i have to quote this... what if they are not excuses and are genuine reasons?
for me, last week it was "sorry i got work" (she did have work, i know where she works)..
this week she's had an operation so she said she needed to rest yesterday (hasn't been at college all week either), she is on crutches though.. do i wait until she's off the crutches?



let her come too you, if she doesnt try one more time once she has recovered from the operation.

if she gives you another genuine reason, by now she would of had to of noticed that you're keen to see her, so leave her be and let her initiate it. Even if it is another genuine excuse trying again afterwards will make you seem too clingy and too full on, so let her make the next move.
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In the mean time, do your absolute best to become a stone, loose all your emotional attachments too her, the less emotionally attached to her, and every other girl the better. If there is no emotional attachment, everything that happens between you and her is a major plus.

Also dont hold out for her, go party with other girls, if the oppurtunity arrises. but if you dont like the other girls as much as her, dont get their numbers.

lastly, don't EVER have expectations, of her, or anything in life. If you do your best not to have expectations you will never be disappointed.
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#30
What's with the people who are like "well rejection sucks, so its not worth it" Rejection isn't really all that bad, if she says no, you so " Oh well, it was worth a try" And then you move on.. .

Anyway I got a question myself, where do you go about asking her? I'm in school all day and there aren't very many parties around here. I'd prefer if she wasn't around her friends, but any suggestions would be great'
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#31
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lastly, don't EVER have expectations, of her, or anything in life. If you do your best not to have expectations you will never be disappointed.


And if you don't even bother trying, you're guaranteed not to fail! j/k

But seriously, I agree with this guy. The ask twice thing not only gives them time to think, but it also shows your interest without having to be overbearing (ie. don't go knocking on her door to ask the second time, and don't try to talk to her a lot in between.)
Once she knows you're interested, if she has the balls, she'll come up to you. The only thing is that if she's showing signs of interest in the time after (read for MORE than a couple weeks,) then maybe try again. But don't force it, because if she's not interested, she'll think you're a creep, then her friends will think you're a creep, and I will also think you're a creep.\

EDIT: Rejection sucks if you put all your eggs in one basket, and that basket gets turned upside down. Sure it's not you who turned the basket upside down, but you did put them all in there yourself. It's just a matter of not obsessing over the person.
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#33
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lol Never text asking someone out haha that's hilarious LOL

Here is what you do. If you really want a girl to like to (a hot one that is), as crazy as it sounds, act like you don't give a s$$t about them. But not too hardcore. Don't go out of your way to talk to them, don't bring up dull topics or strain to find something to talk about to try to get your foot in the door. Don't flatter them, don't do anything that will stroke their ego or make you out to look like every single other guy out there (because they ALL do that!)

When you are the one guy who acts like he isn't into the hottest girl around, she will wonder 'why doesn't he like me? aren't I pretty enough?' In a roundabout, semi-sneaky way, you've got the girl thinking about YOU instead of her brushing you off as yet another guy that is infatuated with her. Pretty soon they will turn to you, start talking to you, and when that happens, play it cool for a little while longer, then go in for the kill. I swear, it's crazy, but my roommate does this kind of crap all the freakin time. Works like a charm. It's unreal. In his words, the 'turnaround time' is between 2-4 weeks lol. Says if it doesn't work by then, you're doneski.


I don't really know why I posted that. Not really relevant to the thread I guess. But being that I wrote all of that I can't bring myself to delete it all hahahha. So here is my relevant response....


It's VERY simple. If you want to play the group thing (which is a great idea for an icebreaker to let her see you in your element), say somethin like

"hey, me an some friends are going so-and-so. You should come." If they say no, brush it off like it ain't no thang. Wait a while, try it again.
Don't pull the "do you wanna go out with me?" line. That just sounds pathetic (i've seen some guys pull it off with an air of humor and it worked, but rarely)
If you know her already just be cool, calm, and confident. Girls love confidence, but are totally turned off by arrogance. It's a thin line, and if you stay on the right sire, you are golden. Go up to her and ask something like "can I take you out this weekend?" Or the less direct approach of "you want to grab a bite to eat" or something nonchalant usually works. Honesty, confidence, and just being genuine will work most of the time, that is, if she is even remotely interested in you. If she's not, move on. There are PLENTY of fish in the sea. Don't waste your time with someone who won't waste theirs for you. Jeez, i've gone all dr phil.......oh well. too much written to delete this post...Kudos to those who end up reading this far LOL Good luck!!!


what the eff were you thinking with the first part?
thats one way to get a girl to NOT like you.
but the second part would work.
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#34
How come when americans want a girlfriend they ask them to go to the cinema or something??? It confuses me. Over here, (england) up to a certain age its just "hey will you go out with me?" if its a yes then result you have yourself a girlfriend.
#35
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How come when americans want a girlfriend they ask them to go to the cinema or something??? It confuses me. Over here, (england) up to a certain age its just "hey will you go out with me?" if its a yes then result you have yourself a girlfriend.

American guys are apparently scared of girls..
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#36
first dates should never be a movie, you hardly get to talk. Take her out to eat or mini golf or something. As for pickup lines/ ice breakers start off with the class line " Does this smell like Chloroform to you?"
#37
lol if your just going out with whatever girl over in europe, what do you do once you are "going out"
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#38
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How come when americans want a girlfriend they ask them to go to the cinema or something??? It confuses me. Over here, (england) up to a certain age its just "hey will you go out with me?" if its a yes then result you have yourself a girlfriend.


"will you go out with me" is the most pathetic phrase ever and should never be used by anyone over 13/4 years of age

hmm..this should be added to the man laws... "she`s allowed to kick you in the nuts if you use that question"
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#39
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Say this, it's guaranteed to work. You can have my virginity if I'm wrong.

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lol i just quoted that to one of my friends and she said "lol i would date any guy who said that to me"

haha, but yeah TS i think you have more than enough info to make a move now JUST DO IT
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#40
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lol if your just going out with whatever girl over in europe, what do you do once you are "going out"


Are you seriously asking that question? It isn't obvious to you? You just go buy a house and start having kids. These Americans really are clueless.
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