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#1
So heres a long story in short form.
my cousin killed himself and we are having a memorial for him on sunday. my grandfather asked me to play and sing a short (2 minutes) song while he gives people the opportunity to pray/bless/say their last wishes in whichever way they see fit. heres the problem. he asked that the song not be religious in any way as our family is very diverst regarding religion and obviously we dont want to offend anybody at this.

so im at a loss as to what i should/can play. please give me suggestions i need some help.

thanks
#4
Dude, I would sing Wish you Were Here. Funny story involved with that song though. I was at a bar and chatting up this girl who bartended there. After she got off at 10 we stuck around and and got blitzed out of our minds. She ended up driving me back to my buddy's place and we proceeded to drink more. We were kissing and fondeling and she was showing me her nipple rings so I was pretty confident that it was game on at that point.

I eyed my friend's guitar sitting against the wall. I thought it would be a good time to sing a song and I sung wish you were here. She got pale and looked instantly sobered up and then got up and started putting her shoes on. I asked what was going on and she said that they played that song at her dad's funeral last month (this acutally happened 3 months ago) and then she left. Usually that song is money in the bag with girls but I screwed it up on a fluke song. Anyways, yeah it's agood neutral song for you to play that is beautiful. Sorry to hear about your cousin BTW. Suicide is a difficult thing that unfortunately is much more prevelent than it should be.
#7
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who is wish you were here by. surely your not talking incubus

Uhhh.... Pink Floyd.
#8
While the situation fits, it might not be what you're looking for.

Adam's song - Blink 182

It's about teen suicide, it can actually be a pretty emotional song.
#11
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who is wish you were here by. surely your not talking incubus



this should be the person in place of the posters cousin.
#13
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this should be the person in place of the posters cousin.

was that necessary?
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#14
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this should be the person in place of the posters cousin.


because i dont listen to pink floyd? **** you eat **** and die
#15
dude opening 2 mins of stairway
except change lady to man or boy and guy
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#17
ill think about the iron and wine. i may just end up writing my own if it comes down too it.

please keep em coming i would love to find a good one
#18
Funnily enough, I was listening to some songs of Buckethead, and thinking that they would go perfect with a funeral. None of them have lyrics, so that might be a problem, but you might be able to think of something fitting. Some songs (they're really different):
Electric tears: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SkTXWWf2TJ8
Spell of the Gypsies: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZoFeTQmfs4
The Way to Heaven: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7equ9oM6H-o
Whitewash: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FYkh7ZiQmso
Watching the Boats with my Dad (title doesn't fit, I know): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lr4Ixrkz5Vc

I'd probably recommend playing either Watching the Boats with my Dad or The Way to Heaven.
I'm very sorry for your cousin, by the way. It's usually very hard to deal with suicide. Just don't blame yourself for it. My consolidations.
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#19
The Scientisy by Coldplay is an absolutely gorgeous song, simple and one of very few songs that cuts right to the bone
#22
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this should be the person in place of the posters cousin.


**** you .. stupid Insensitive prick.
#23
Dust in the Wind, by Kansas.

A simple acoustic finger-picking piece, with appropriate, but not outright religious, lyrics.

Sorry for your loss.
#25
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Love in an Elevator - Aerosmith

rofl

Maybe strawberry fields forever - the beatles?
do ya know what kinda music he listened to? if you do that might help.
#28
This may seem like a strange suggestion, but I would just write something. I've been in a similar situation, sat down and the song almost worked itself out, you'll find that you're able to express how you feel by just trying it out - plus, you'll make sure that the lyrics are entirely appropriate.

Barring that, "Winter" by Bayside would probably do the trick, that really got to me the first time I heard it.

My condolences for your loss, and hopefully you can find something that expresses what you're going through.

EDIT: If you're looking classical, maybe "Dee" by Randy Rhoads. It's only 40 seconds long or so but it's great.
Last edited by :-D at Mar 12, 2008,
#30
Quote by redvetteZ06
Dude, I would sing Wish you Were Here. Funny story involved with that song though. I was at a bar and chatting up this girl who bartended there. After she got off at 10 we stuck around and and got blitzed out of our minds. She ended up driving me back to my buddy's place and we proceeded to drink more. We were kissing and fondeling and she was showing me her nipple rings so I was pretty confident that it was game on at that point.

I eyed my friend's guitar sitting against the wall. I thought it would be a good time to sing a song and I sung wish you were here. She got pale and looked instantly sobered up and then got up and started putting her shoes on. I asked what was going on and she said that they played that song at her dad's funeral last month (this acutally happened 3 months ago) and then she left. Usually that song is money in the bag with girls but I screwed it up on a fluke song. Anyways, yeah it's agood neutral song for you to play that is beautiful. Sorry to hear about your cousin BTW. Suicide is a difficult thing that unfortunately is much more prevelent than it should be.


For future reference, any time a drunk girl is in the process of getting undressed with you, that is NOT a good time to stop and play ANY song on a damn guitar, especially not some somber hippie song.
#31
FYI, several good songs listed on my thread here:

https://www.ultimate-guitar.com/forum/showthread.php?t=781283&highlight=grandfather%27s+funeral

All I can say is that you should do a hard look at the lyrics of these songs, and get an idea as to the background of it... why it was written, etc. I've seen several suggestions that are just really weird. That "wish you were here" song for example... except for that one line, what in the world does the rest of the song have to do about a funeral or anything like that? It was written about an ex-bandmember who walked into a studio and had changed so much due to poor lifestyle and drugs that the other bandmembers didn't even recognize him for a long time. That song was their way of saying "what the hell dude"? There's even worse examples than that.

I think you really have to ask yourself if these lyrics would be comforting to the audience, because they're going to be upset and will cling to your every word, you're not just jamming for them.

Personally, I'd recommend "Let it be" by the Beatles.
Last edited by corndogggy at Mar 12, 2008,
#32
How about Home by the Foo Fighters, it's a Piano song but theres a tab for guitar on here. It's one of my favourite songs. So sorry to hear about your cousin.
#33
I think that "Don't Fade Away" (The acoustic version) by Whitesnake is a beautiful song, as is "Eternity" by Robbie Williams. Both are very moving and emotional yet look forwards rather than back. Good luck with your search and sorry to hear about your loss.
#35
In The Aeroplane Over The Sea by Neutral Milk Hotel.

I actually played this at the funeral of a school friend who died in a tragic and senseless car accident. The parents said they really appreciated it.
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#36
This thread is making me so sad, just thinking about these songs and imagining what you and your family are going through (on whatever level you're at in the grief). I'm so, so sorry. :-(

A song just popped into my mind but I'm not sure it wouldn't make parents feel bad. It's Mad World by Tears for Fears (the beautiful slowed down version you've probably heard on the radio over the last year or two). Here are the lyrics:

http://www.chordie.com/chord.pere/www.ultimate-guitar.com/print.php?what=tab&id=53816

Edit:

Here's what I'm talking about!:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K4lIj6aEqAI

Here's the video of the song (the nice version) which is the Gary Jules version:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4N3N1MlvVc4
Last edited by Theresse at Apr 21, 2008,
#37
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This thread is making me so sad, just thinking about these songs and imagining what you and your family are going through (on whatever level you're at in the grief). I'm so, so sorry. :-(

A song just popped into my mind but I'm not sure it wouldn't make parents feel bad. It's Mad World by Tears for Fears (the beautiful slowed down version you've probably heard on the radio over the last year or two). Here are the lyrics:

http://www.chordie.com/chord.pere/www.ultimate-guitar.com/print.php?what=tab&id=53816

I'd steer clear of that. Honestly, that's not a message of hope, it's a message of despair. I'd think that's the last thing that a loved one of the recently departed wants to hear.
Sincerely, Chad.
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#38
"In Loving Memory"-Alter Bridge
"Angel's Son" - Sevendust
"Nothing Else Matters"-Metallica
"Forever Young"-Bob Dylan
#39
I remember this guy in my school in died a car crash and he was a real fun loving guy always joking about and stuff...
Anyway after the funeral we all went to eat and talk at this big open are where his best mate who was in a band played

Ha Ha your dead by green day....It was risky but it came off because he was that kinda guy
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#40
Yeah Chad, you're right. It would be so appropriate one one level (maybe honoring his cousin, and that's only if his circumstances were anything like the feelings portrayed in the song) but it wouldn't make the survivors feel good. It is a really pretty piece though isn't it? (see my edited notes above)
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