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#1
I was hanging out with this girl the other day and we talked for well over 5 hours. We have a lot in common and I don't mean strictly taste in music, movies, etc. I was all stoked about how she could be the perfect girl but when I woke up this morning I feel guilty and terrible but I don't know why. I have no clue why I feel this way but I just get the idea that somehow I've done something wrong. This girl is everything I have every looked for in a soul mate and yet I'm afraid of something. Maybe my mind is just still trying to take it all in, or maybe I'm just a douche and need to relax. I have a tendancy to over analyze everything. I just wished this guilt would go away and I can pursue a relationship without distraction.

Has this ever happened to any of you pit monkeys out there.
#3
Calm down so you don't blow it. Don't feel guilty, but also try not to put so much into the "she's the perfect girl" business. Just relax and take it as it comes man.
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#4
You're a douche and need to relax.
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#5
Oddly enough, yes. Not necessarily with talking to a girl, but a couple of times I have woken up and felt extremely guilty the whole day, without ever figuring out what it was. Maybe it's just mild depression?
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Maybe my mind is just still trying to take it all in, or maybe I'm just a douche and need to relax. I have a tendancy to over analyze everything. I just wished this guilt would go away and I can pursue a relationship without distraction.

Has this ever happened to any of you pit monkeys out there.


same here man

i hate that bitch, but i think i like her
#7
Yeah i'm very neurotic and tend to overanalyze things too; sounds to me like your subconscious is trying to sabotage this relationship, but that's just a guess.
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#9
Maybe you're just low on sugar levels. Happened to me sometimes.
You feel depressed and like shit and don't know why.
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#10
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That's what ****ing scares me. But if I pass her up I'm going to be even more pissed at myself for not taking the chance.
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That's what ****ing scares me. But if I pass her up I'm going to be even more pissed at myself for not taking the chance.


I know it's difficult... but the key is you have to not think about it. I used to excessively overthink too and it just sets you back.

It's the tragic flaw man, think Hamlet. Don't think, just do.
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#14
AIDS+Rape=Guilt+Jail time!
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#15
The only time I ever feel guilty with a girl is when I bang one while wasted and wake up next to her the next morning to find out that shes a fugly. Sad but true.
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#16
You've caught cooties. eww yucky.
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#17
maybe you are afraid to commit or something.
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#20
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Indeed. I love how a whole bunch of these angsty threads pop up here on the pit.
Its like the kids don't know how to deal with their emotions and have to ask others opinions...

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#21
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#22
low confidence dude. i tend to hate myself after i do something quite good. you did well, and got lucky, but you dont feel like you deserve it.

i know, it sucks
#26
Relax man. I had the EXACT same thing with the first girl I really liked (I lost 10 kilos in a month). I liked her for well over a year. We would talk for about 3 hours everyday and I'd sit for an hour everyday after that and read over what we said and analyse (severely over analyse) everything we had said and what it might mean. I couldnt sleep. Every waking hour was spent in thoughts of her, mostly stressing that I'd screw up the relationship. Dude, all I can see from my personal experience is that you like her a heap. If you want to get rid of the feeling, then calm the **** down buddy.

And hey, I know this isn't the best thing or what you want to hear, but relationships very rarely ever work, especially if your so worked up about her. I spent a year chasing her and I screwed it all up in 3 months because I was too into her and over analytical of everything she did. Screwed around with her head and she didnt like it. Calm down mate. Cool it.
#27
My mind also does that. If I every stumble across something that could be good, I overanalyze it and find each bad part, to keep myself from it. I've done it with many things, girls included. It's very annoying... I don't know what to say, lol. The ONLY girl whom I have never done that to (and, ironically enough, the only one that likes me at the moment) lives a good 2 1/2 hours away. She's as perfect as can be, in my opinion haha. So it's one of those unfair things where we both like eachother (quite a bit), and if we DID live in the same place, there wouldnt be air between us to breathe, but that just isn't the case. That one fact that she lives too far away keeps me from overanalyzing it, because there is no point. But, I'm 15, what do I know?

Just do this, maybe itll help. Get a piece of paper, and write down all the good and bad things about this person. This can help you see which one outweighs the other. Since you see her as perfect, you may have a lot on one side. But now, do this with ANOTHER girl you know. If they have many of the same qualities, and you don't feel guilty after talking to the other one, then why should you with this girl?

Sorry if that confused you, haha.
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Just do this, maybe itll help. Get a piece of paper, and write down all the good and bad things about this person. This can help you see which one outweighs the other. Since you see her as perfect, you may have a lot on one side. But now, do this with ANOTHER girl you know. If they have many of the same qualities, and you don't feel guilty after talking to the other one, then why should you with this girl?

Sorry if that confused you, haha.


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#30
Sounds like some underlying issues as in maybe you dont think your worth being happy well sir you are wrong everybody deserves happiness except for furby's (creepy bastards) i say go for this girl dont over pursue her and just sit back and enjoy the ride!
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#31
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Just make sure they don't find it, cuz that happened with Ross about Rachel on friends and ya, not pretty


Haha, I remember that now. I forgot about that. Yeah, definitely don't let anyone find those.
#32
Quote by blackphoenix86
I was hanging out with this girl the other day and we talked for well over 5 hours. We have a lot in common and I don't mean strictly taste in music, movies, etc. I was all stoked about how she could be the perfect girl but when I woke up this morning I feel guilty and terrible but I don't know why. I have no clue why I feel this way but I just get the idea that somehow I've done something wrong. This girl is everything I have every looked for in a soul mate and yet I'm afraid of something. Maybe my mind is just still trying to take it all in, or maybe I'm just a douche and need to relax. I have a tendancy to over analyze everything. I just wished this guilt would go away and I can pursue a relationship without distraction.

Has this ever happened to any of you pit monkeys out there.

Maybe, you dont feel guilt. Maybe its fear, that you have found your soul mate and could lose her easily. Going on whats near the end it seems it to me.

Just calm down, look at the situation (Never over analyse) and see what can happen between you.
#33
it's normal, it's called nerves. talk to her, enjoy it while it lasts.
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#35
i've been in the same situation as you. Give it time and you'll prolly lose the terrible feeling. If you don't go out with her or something, you're going to look back and regret it.

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#36
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EDIT:

Calm down. I think I might be going through the same thing at the moment. There's this guy that I really like personality-wise that I'd like to go out with but it might be kind of awkward since he's not much of a looker and smokes on occasion (bad breath) and I'm not even sure if he likes me like that. OK, I'll stop over analyzing before I spill all my thoughts all over the place in the pit.

Anyway, I say you should go for it, but ease into it, like flirt a little and see how she recieves it before continuing.
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#37
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#38
Maybe you feel guilty because subconsciously you think you don't deserve her. I really can't find another explanation other than nerves perhaps.
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#40
I feel its just realization of what transpired. Everything you've been looking for in a woman just popped up and smacked you in the face. Its just like getting ina car accident, your shook, it'll calm down bud.
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