#1
Whats the best way to do it safely? i AM not messin with the truss rod...Way too risky for me..I played my mates tanglewood today(the first different acoustic i played in ages) and its action was so much better it wasnt funny.
Damien Rice === Legend
#2
Good that your not messing with the truss rod as thats NOT how you change the action. So people, please don't come and say that he needs to adjust the truss rod! (end rant)

You have to sand down the saddle.
Check here
http://www.frets.com/FRETSPages/Musician/Guitar/Setup/LowerAction/loweraction01.html

You probably want to take it to a tech/luthier though. Maybe see if you can watch them do it before you have a crack for your first time.