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#1
So my father is very hard person to live with. I mean he's not sadistic asshole or alcoholic but sometimes I think he has some stupid ideology... So here's the thing. He always said that school first, and girls are not important. He always said that I'm to young for girls and the time will come. I'm 17 so I'm just pissed. I have a brother , and he is 19 an he's with girl for like a month. And my father is kinda happy with it? So I'm just wondering should I find myself a girlfriend ,and don't worry about my father's opinion, which probably should be nautral or even positiv? It was always the same with guitar and my band...

I really don't know why he was always so strict with going out...
Help
#2
Do whatever you want. Cuz in the end, the pit will always just tell you to throw a rape party.
#4
despite what you may think its not actually necessary...id say while he may be over reacting he isnt completely wrong either
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#5
Get a girlfriend if you want a girlfriend. Ignore your Dad. I had a girlfriend throughout the last two years of two (in UK, those two years are the only ones that actually matter) and still got good, higher than average grades.
#8
If you're doing well in school, and will be able to maintain that even with a girl and such, go ahead. Your not to young, my dad started grooming me to be able to talk to girls and be a good boyfriend and such when I was 12 (and still gives me pointers and such, and jokes around and **** when my moms not around. My dad owns)
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Do whatever you want. Cuz in the end, the pit will always just tell you to throw a rape party.


You mean thats not what he wanted?!
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#12
Girls are a waste of time at your age. Unless you find that one and smack dab want to get married to her, don't waste your time. Only trouble comes out of it, and you should be thinking about more important things.
#14
Do what you want- your dad shouldn't be an obstacle. It's better you know how to 'spit game'/pick up chicks at least by the end of high school. It's dependent on whether you want to or not though
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#15
He's probably trying to turn you gay.
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Girls are a waste of time at your age. Unless you find that one and smack dab want to get married to her, don't waste your time. Only trouble comes out of it, and you should be thinking about more important things.

That's exactly what my father thinks... and maybe it's kinda true
#17
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That's exactly what my father thinks... and maybe it's kinda true

I'm your age too. So don't think I'm saying this like I'm 30 and don't know. It's a real waste of time.
#18
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Girls are a waste of time at your age. Unless you find that one and smack dab want to get married to her, don't waste your time. Only trouble comes out of it, and you should be thinking about more important things.


No, its actually a good idea to get a girlfriend while in highschool. You learn how to deal with girls early on, and won't **** up as much later. You learn how to talk to them, the subtle pieces of romancing, all that jack in a time where it really doesn't matter. You're not a real human in highschool anyway.
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#19
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No, its actually a good idea to get a girlfriend while in highschool. You learn how to deal with girls early on, and won't **** up as much later. You learn how to talk to them, the subtle pieces of romancing, all that jack in a time where it really doesn't matter. You're not a real human in highschool anyway.

You don't "deal with girls". You don't understand how to really treat someone by "experimenting" and such. That's just an excuse.
#20
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I'm your age too. So don't think I'm saying this like I'm 30 and don't know. It's a real waste of time.

and it's not like I haven't hada a girlfriend. Anually (on holidays )I am tripping to camps and there i have no problem with picking up chicks so I don't know. It's atually about love cause my sexual needs(haven't done sex before. talking about kissing here) are done on holidays with no problem. Is it worth for love?
#21
dude u think u got problems

i got a girlfriend and she isnt allowed out coz her aunties a complete bitch


so start complaining AFTER u get a girlfriend
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#22
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You don't "deal with girls". You don't understand how to really treat someone by "experimenting" and such. That's just an excuse.


No, you learn how to communicate, both in general and in relationship terms. Its not an excuse. And yes you deal with girls just like you deal with everyone else, and you have to learn how to react to the nuances of everyone.
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#23
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and it's not like I haven't hada a girlfriend. Anually (on holidays )I am tripping to camps and there i have no problem with picking up chicks so I don't know. It's atually about love cause my sexual needs(haven't done sex before. talking about kissing here) are done on holidays with no problem. Is it worth for love?

No, especially if it's casual. People swap spit like it's just the thing to do, when it's supposed to be a meaningful thing. You don't need to date to "figure girls out" because that's something you can do without dating, and you don't need to know you really like some girl by dating her. Just let it all flow, and come whatever may.
#26
Kick him in the dick.

Its the only way.
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...haven't done sex before...


That made me laugh a little inside

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#28
I think he was right... I won't piss him off. For what? And I think i got what he meant all the time
#29
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No, its actually a good idea to get a girlfriend while in highschool. You learn how to deal with girls early on, and won't **** up as much later. You learn how to talk to them, the subtle pieces of romancing, all that jack in a time where it really doesn't matter. You're not a real human in highschool anyway.

That sounds rather like manipulating them to get in their pants for me. You don't need that once you're older and have some confidence. No offense to high school kids, but most of them can't talk to a woman and behave normally. They rather try to look cool and whatnot, to compensate for their lack of maturity. Don't need that once you grow up.
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No, especially if it's casual. People swap spit like it's just the thing to do, when it's supposed to be a meaningful thing. You don't need to date to "figure girls out" because that's something you can do without dating, and you don't need to know you really like some girl by dating her. Just let it all flow, and come whatever may.


You're missing my point. Dating in high school isn't just about making out and such. Like the rest of your teen years its a learning experience. It gives you an idea of what works and what doesn't.

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That sounds rather like manipulating them to get in their pants for me. You don't need that once you're older and have some confidence. No offense to high school kids, but most of them can't talk to a woman and behave normally. They rather try to look cool and whatnot, to compensate for their lack of maturity. Don't need that once you grow up.


I've had my parents friends ask me what college I was going to, and whither I was graduating that year. Maturity, for the most part, is not a problem for me. I have a good amount of self confidence, not as much as a had a little while ago, but more then most people would think I have. Maybe I'm not the typical high school student, but at the same time you're stereotypical high school student is also going to wind up making par-wag in a mediocre job.
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#31
you probably shouldnt get a girlfriend just because you WANT a girlfriend. guaranteed that it wont work out if you go out with that mentality.

you kinda just have to let things happen. and if you find yourself in a relationship, then go for it despite what you dad thinks. dont go out and try to find one just to spite your dad, or just because you want a girl.
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#32
Girls like me. because i'm not such a dick and work things slowly and don't play childish jokes
#33
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you probably shouldnt get a girlfriend just because you WANT a girlfriend. guaranteed that it wont work out if you go out with that mentality.

you kinda just have to let things happen. and if you find yourself in a relationship, then go for it despite what you dad thinks. dont go out and try to find one just to spite your dad, or just because you want a girl.

well said...
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you probably shouldnt get a girlfriend just because you WANT a girlfriend. guaranteed that it wont work out if you go out with that mentality.

you kinda just have to let things happen. and if you find yourself in a relationship, then go for it despite what you dad thinks. dont go out and try to find one just to spite your dad, or just because you want a girl.


Agreed. I'm not saying you should go and try and get a girlfriend, but if you spot someone and you have enough in common, get along well, and the mutual attraction is there, then it will probably progress naturally anyway, though you can put forth some effort on your own part to help it along.
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#37
Yeah dude, just listen to your dad on this one. You should be grateful, because he's not doing that to restrict you, but for your benefit. Most parents don't have the love to do that.
#39
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#40
rape your dad, then your brother


in that order


actually- just do what u want...after all u have free will and can do whatever u want...
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