#1
So I've been thinking about family and friends lately. I've come to realize that when it boils down to it, my good friends mean more to me than most of my family. Let's take my sister, for example. We have a pretty good relationship I guess. At the same time though, I don't have much interest in her life or what she does past what I would have for anyone elses'. A few weeks ago I posted a topic asking if people thought it was wrong that I didn't want to be involved in her upcoming wedding. I talked to my dad about that situation, and he asked me if this guy who's a close friend of mine got married and asked me to be in it if I would do it. The conclusion I came to is yeah, i would.

So I guess my thought is this: what is the big deal about family? I couldn't care less about who you came out of or what genes we might share. In the end all that matters to me is the role you take in my life and how you deal with me.

Do you feel as if that's wrong?
#2
Nope

Its your idea of family

Not mine
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well, think of it like this, friends come and go, but you'll always have family


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well, think of it like this, friends come and go, but you'll always have family


This. My family are the only people I trust to not **** me over. We're very loyal to one another. I guess your family isn't that tight.
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well, think of it like this, friends come and go, but you'll always have family

Well that's the thing. Why should I care more about someone who is there for me because of a societal obligation than someone that is there for me because they actually care about me?
#9
Well.....I kinda view things the same way. My friends are a lot closer to me than my family, but when all is said and done, you always have your family.

Unless you're an orphan, then you have nothing.

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Nobody chooses their family, so you dont' know if they're right for you Everybody chooses their friends, so you know they're right for you
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what if your an orphan?

then your screwed in life....i hope you're not a orphan
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Nope

Its your idea of family

Not mine

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hmmmm, sometimes i prefer my friends to family, then i think, its really i prefer my friends than my mum
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what if your an orphan?


the people in your orphanage could be considered family, i guess
#15
Everybody has their own opinion of a family. To me, I kind of count my closest friends of family, because we're good mates, and how we'd probably be happy to help eachother out as normal family members would... But if you don't want to be involved with your sister's wedding, that's fine! It's all your decision because it's your idea of family.
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#16
i dunno, i see my mates as family, i spose wot evry1 else calls family, i call relatives. so no it aint a messed up view
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#18
Spamwise, I believe the same thing. It's just a matter of fate that depends on what family your born into, and there is no way around it, but you actually choose your friends and if their assholes to you then you get new friends. Ancient proverb: You can pick your friends, you can pick your nose, but you can't pick your family.
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#19
I agree only in terms of family members like cousins, aunts and ****, i know what u mean, i dont talk to my cousins at all, and i dont give a damn about their birthdays, but they ARE still family


but it doesnt matter their title or postition relative to you, people are people and so is ur family

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hmmmm, sometimes i prefer my friends to family, then i think, its really i prefer my friends than my mum

Well, I care a lot about my parents. Not at all because they gave birth to me, that doesn't take much. It's how the've loved me and done so much for me. I would feel the same about pretty much anyone that did that much for me, regardless if they were my biological parents or not.
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Well, I care a lot about my parents. Not at all because they gave birth to me, that doesn't take much. It's how the've loved me and done so much for me. I would feel the same about pretty much anyone that did that much for me, regardless if they were my biological parents or not.


true, i love my dad, dare i say it, i love him more than my mum, for the past like, several yrs, she has been pissing me off, more frequently, i cant wait till i get away from her
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#24
I love my family, but we have such differing views and interests on so many things that I find my friends know me better and understand me more. So in a way, I'm closer to them. But that doesn't mean I'll start treating my family like shit.
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I love my family, but we have such differing views and interests on so many things that I find my friends know me better and understand me more. So in a way, I'm closer to them. But that doesn't mean I'll start treating my family like shit.

Yeah, that's basically how I feel.
#26
I feel the same, my sister is just someone who is in the same house as me til. . I think the end of summer, score, however my parent's are more than that.
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Yeah, that's basically how I feel.


Well then no, you're not messed up. Although I think you probably should try being more than just civil to your sister. Someday one of you will have kids and they'll want an aunt or uncle.

But really, she had to share with you for a large portion of your life, so you can't just dismiss her as a stranger.
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Well then no, you're not messed up. Although I think you probably should try being more than just civil to your sister. Someday one of you will have kids and they'll want an aunt or uncle.

But really, she had to share with you for a large portion of your life, so you can't just dismiss her as a stranger.

Well I never said i'm uncivil. except when we fight, of course..
#29
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Well I never said i'm uncivil. except when we fight, of course..


I said "MORE than just civil". Because naturally you're civil to just anyone, but just being civil connotes a very distant relationship. Which is just wrong for such close family, although I can understand if you choose to believe otherwise.
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#30
I realized that my family will always be there for me. You never know when one of your friend will screw you.
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#31
I appreciate my family and everything they've done for me, but my friends have more of an impact on my life, I've only ever had 3 circles of friends in my life, the 1st one fell apart when my best friend left town, the second one is slowly mophing into the one I have now, as in, a lot of the friends I had in the second circle are coming to hang out with me and the four others in my current group, it's great. Friends are literally what makes life worth the grief, that and music.
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