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#1
I've got a problem. Only makes sense that I should ask the pit for advice.

As you all probably know, as I do make it clear around her, I am a bisexual gentleman. But I'm starting to have some doubts.

There was this girl I thought I liked... I went out with her last night, and we kissed (well technically, she kissed me) several times.

Now that should feel good, shouldn't it?

Nuh-uh. It felt wrong and unnatural. And against my politeness and manners, I'm finding myself trying to avoid her now. I think I convinced myself that I liked her.

So now I'm looking back over everything- it feels so much better when I kiss guys. I still check out girls, but I'm just thinking 'oh, she's hot', and when I check out guys, it's just so much different. And gay porn is just, mhmmm.

Maybe it isn't such a bad thing. Gays like me more than girls do. There is nothing wrong with being gay. But I want to go back to the way I was before. I kinda liked liking girls aswell.

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#4
who cares? go find two people (male and female) who are happy to share you. cant go wrong then can you?
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#5
hmm, well....

Maybe you just didn't like the particular girl you went out with and now you're questioning that you even like girls at all. Perhaps you just greatly prefer men over women. Or perhaps you took comfort in the fact that more opportunities arise when you are open to both sexes instead of just one and thats the only reason you want to like girls or thought you liked them in the first place. Or maybe you're just a full-blown gay dude.


Sorry I'm so awful at giving advice.
#6
You can't really "logic" the way you feel, you know? you are who you are. Plus, just because you didn't like kissing this girl doesn't necessarily mean you're gay, it might've been the girl; some girls are pretty terrible sometimes. Then again, you might be gay; but either way, does it matter?
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#7
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And gay porn is just, mhmmm.




Stopped giving my attention here. You are clearly too hungry for it.
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#8
Well if the kissing feels unnatural that doensn't mean you're all of a sudden not into chicks anymore. Sometimes it just feels wrong for 100% straight people too.
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[quote="'CrystalMeth[od"]']hmm, well....

Maybe you just didn't like the particular girl you went out with and now you're questioning that you even like girls at all. Perhaps you just greatly prefer men over women. Or perhaps you took comfort in the fact that more opportunities arise when you are open to both sexes instead of just one and thats the only reason you want to like girls or thought you liked them in the first place. Or maybe you're just a full-blown gay dude.


Sorry I'm so awful at giving advice.

Better than the other posters.

Nah, it's not just this particular girl. It's all of them.

And what do I say to her?
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#10
you just need to keep experimenting until it becomes clear to yourself what your true sexual orientation is.
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you just need to keep experimenting until it becomes clear to yourself what your true sexual orientation is.


But I'm 18 years old- surely I should know by now?
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#13
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I've got a problem. Only makes sense that I should ask the pit for advice.

As you all probably know, as I do make it clear around her, I am a bisexual gentleman. But I'm starting to have some doubts.

There was this girl I thought I liked... I went out with her last night, and we kissed (well technically, she kissed me) several times.

Now that should feel good, shouldn't it?

Nuh-uh. It felt wrong and unnatural. And against my politeness and manners, I'm finding myself trying to avoid her now. I think I convinced myself that I liked her.

So now I'm looking back over everything- it feels so much better when I kiss guys. I still check out girls, but I'm just thinking 'oh, she's hot', and when I check out guys, it's just so much different. And gay porn is just, mhmmm.

Maybe it isn't such a bad thing. Gays like me more than girls do. There is nothing wrong with being gay. But I want to go back to the way I was before. I kinda liked liking girls aswell.



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#14
Well, that's a bit like the way I discovered I was a lesbian. I mean, I though I liked guys but when I was only with them or approaching them I was feeling a very different thing, not as good, as when I was with girls, I don't mean I didn't liked guys as well. I realised I was more attracted by girls than guys and I though I was not normal or something. If you really feel better with guys, don't try to convince yourself that you don't, it could be bad for you, and for the girls you will go out with, thinking you were straight but in reality you were gay.
#15
It's much easier if you don't insist on knowing who you're attracted to, and just go with whatever is happening. Seriously. Human attraction is hardly a huge deal.
Just tell the chick you're not interested, she'll get the hint.
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Better than the other posters.

Nah, it's not just this particular girl. It's all of them.

And what do I say to her?



hmm. Well. When I go out with a girl that I just find out that I don't like in that way I usually just tell them that I had fun hanging out with them but I just don't have those feelings for her.

Or you could go the completely honest way and tell her you're confuzed about your sexuality but she might get upset about that but I don't know. She definately has feelings for you if she kissed you a lot so let her down easy if you can.

And it sounds like you might just be gay but thats my insight, you're the only one who really knows.
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But I'm 18 years old- surely I should know by now?


Well some people discover themselves very soon, some other discovers it later, at the age of 36 as example. There's no age for that.
#18
Why struggle with labelling yourself? The hard part is accepting you like guys, there isn't really any more to it.
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#19
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And what do I say to her?


"I'm gay"
...Perhaps.
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#20
18 isnt that old?
if you still find girls attractive (dam shes hot i want to see her naked)
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your not gay but you nmight be bi
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#21
Don't label your sexuality. Just go to whoever feels right, wether it be guy, girl, or a bit of both
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#22
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"I'm gay"
...Perhaps.


I don't want to hurt her. Maybe she will think it has something to do with her.
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#23
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I don't want to hurt her. Maybe she will think it has something to do with her.


Give her signs that you're not interested, perhaps. Maybe if you act blatently camp you can steer her away. People who are homosexual sometimes discover that after believing they're Bi (I think that's right). She may get the message.
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#24
Just tell her you don't have romantic feelings for her. Its the truth, and maybe it won't hurt her feelings too much.
#25
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But I'm 18 years old- surely I should know by now?



no. it depends on what experiences you have had in the past. age doesnt matter, its just your own ability to sort out for yourself who you are.

i dont suppose you have had tons and tons of experience with men or women, since you are only 18, and at your age it is a time of enjoying life and finding things out about yourself. i know it sounds cliché but just be honest with yourself. try to find out who you are by experience. some people have always known "i am straight, or gay, or bi" and never question their orientation; others dont really know and the only way to find out is to do it.
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#26
Funny i went through a similar thing, one point where i was convinced i was bi, ive been with a few guys, but none of them ever felt right, i just avoided them, i felt absoloutely nothing when kissing them waited for them to dump me then ultimately felt alot happier once they did.

I just came to terms with the fact i dont want a relationship with a guy, and that eventually just lead to me not feeling attracted to them at all.

It jsut takes some time to work it out, luckily for me, I was 15 or so when I came to terms with it completely. I mean i didnt like it, and id still mostly much prefer to be straight, or at least bi again, but its not something you control really, let the girl down easy, I told my last bf I was gay, he didnt take it well, just turned into a big emofag "I loved you! Did I turn you gay?" etc.
#27
Don't tell yourself that you're bi or gay or whatever, just do what you want. Date guys if that's who you're attracted to, but if you meet a girl who you genuinely like, you could always try and start something with her.

Just because you tell yourself now that you're gay doesn't mean that from now on you can only be with other guys, and just because you tell yourself that you're bi doesn't mean that you HAVE to date women. Bottom line, screw the labels and just do what feels right to you.

As for the girl, just tell her you're sorry but you don't have as strong feelings for her as you thought you did.

Hope I could help.
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#28
You just don't like her.


Doesn't mean to say you're gay, or whatever lol. I've gotten with girls, and then been like meh, don't really like her / that, and I don't think I'm gay. I just didn't like the girl.

You're over-reacting, you don't need to 'decide' about your sexuality. Just go wit' the flow.
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I don't want to hurt her. Maybe she will think it has something to do with her.

She'll feel better about it if you say you're gay, wouldn't she? Then she'd know that she's know doing anything wrong.

In regards to your OP, who cares? As other people have said, don't bother labeling yourself, just be whatever.
#32
There is nothing wrong with it. I'm gay too just I'm scared of coming out of the closet cause' my dad is a homophobe.

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#34
So, what's the problem? You want to go back to liking girls as well as guys? There's nothing you can really do besides maybe just finding a girl you can actually connect with on more than just a physical level because that's what's important in any sort of relationship is just being able to be with a person who you get and who gets you. I'm not saying physical attraction isn't important but what's the point if there isn't any other sort of connection else where?
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#35
If you truly are gay and not just bi, then this girl has likely already had her suspects about it. Either way, it doesn't matter what you are and you shouldn't try and place yourself somewhere underneath a sexual category.

Whatever you do, it's always going to be better to tell her straight that you would prefer a friendship than to lead her on.
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#36
Maybe you're just gay? Nothing wrong with it, and there's nothing you can do to make yourself like girls.


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#37
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I've got a problem. Only makes sense that I should ask the pit for advice.

As you all probably know, as I do make it clear around her, I am a bisexual gentleman. But I'm starting to have some doubts.

There was this girl I thought I liked... I went out with her last night, and we kissed (well technically, she kissed me) several times.

Now that should feel good, shouldn't it?

Nuh-uh. It felt wrong and unnatural. And against my politeness and manners, I'm finding myself trying to avoid her now. I think I convinced myself that I liked her.

So now I'm looking back over everything- it feels so much better when I kiss guys. I still check out girls, but I'm just thinking 'oh, she's hot', and when I check out guys, it's just so much different. And gay porn is just, mhmmm.

Maybe it isn't such a bad thing. Gays like me more than girls do. There is nothing wrong with being gay. But I want to go back to the way I was before. I kinda liked liking girls aswell.


Either this video will ressurect your interest in girls, or nothing will.
Either way, do whatever(or whoever) makes you happy.
#39
Stop worrying about which box to tick and how to better label yourself, and just do what feels right for you. Eventually you'll know....
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#40
Call me conservative, but if you are lucky enough to be attracted to girls, i'd pursue that.

No other way to reproduce, and i find old guys with no kids are pretty tragic.

Eh, your choice.
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