#1
Lately I've really felt distant and far away from the one person that I really trust and because of that, I feel like I have no one to confide in or talk to about anything. I used to be able to talk to them about anything and they really helped me when I was down but now it just feels like they're not there...which is sort of true in a way because I haven't spoken to them properly for quite a while.

Apart from that, I feel really lonely, I just want to be with someone, not to talk to, just someone who I can feel comfortable with and be around where I'm happier, but the problem is, I fear being dependent on someone because I think that if I become too attached, when they float away, I'll be worse off than the beginning. There's a girl I'd like to ask out in the near future, but without anyone to talk to about it if anything goes wrong, I'm also afraid of being rejected and having no one to go to.

What do I do, Pit?
#2
Hug them
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#3
get to know people? clubs, classes, just be THERE. soon enough someone will start talknig to you, recognising you, and itl get better.
#4
I have not read the post, but fap, it helps ALL the time.

Edit: After reading you're post, I need to know what's making you distant from the person you trust.
If it's a person, then become close to that person, which will bring you closer to the original person.
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#6
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fixed.


have you a job, a college course, school, a band. c'mon, more info.
#7
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get to know people? clubs, classes, just be THERE. soon enough someone will start talknig to you, recognising you, and itl get better.



I'm not old enough to go to clubs and no one in my school really cares about each other...

I'm not really comfortable with trusting new people, hence why I'm lost on what to do.

EDIT:

I go to school and I'm in a band, I don't go out much and the only person I could fully trust isn't there anymore.
#8
Stalk them, then when they finally spot you and ask just exactly wtf is that you are doing, hug them with a big smile, then walk off
#9
Get to know the girl you like, start talking to her, and when/if it feels right, then ask her out. If she rejects you, ask if you can put it behind you and stay as friends.
Also, why are you drifting form your friend who you could talk to? If it's something that's happenning in their lives, then they'll probably wnat a bit of time to themselves. If not, then just try talking to them.
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I'm not old enough to go to clubs and no one in my school really cares about each other...

I'm not really comfortable with trusting new people, hence why I'm lost on what to do.

EDIT:

I go to school and I'm in a band, I don't go out much and the only person I could fully trust isn't there anymore.



ok, trust is a bugger. im im the same boat. but you dont have to trust people to get along. not a lot, anyway.

all my friends are going to uni in sept/oct, so i underastand how **** it is to have so many people loose. Does your band play regually? if so, get into making things for the fans, talking to them over the internet or at shows, and getting to know some. so many band storys stared with them being close to the fans.
#11
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Stalk them, then when they finally spot you and ask just exactly wtf is that you are doing, hug them with a big smile, then walk off



I don't feel like you're helping, sorry.

EDIT:
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ok, trust is a bugger. im im the same boat. but you dont have to trust people to get along. not a lot, anyway.

all my friends are going to uni in sept/oct, so i underastand how **** it is to have so many people loose. Does your band play regually? if so, get into making things for the fans, talking to them over the internet or at shows, and getting to know some. so many band storys stared with them being close to the fans.



Our band is basically broken right now, the bassist left and he's being an ass and we don't have a vocalist, we can't play shows like this and we haven't even started doing it at all.

We don't have a fan-base either, not even a MySpace.

And I THINK I already have enough friends, I just want someone I can confide in and trust fully, it may sound stupid but, I think there's a difference between friend and trusted friend, if you know what I mean, it's strange, you can be friends with someone for several years but not fully trust them with your feelings but with other people, you only need to know them for a few months before you fully trust them...
Last edited by XianXiuHong at Aug 27, 2008,
#12
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Lately I've really felt distant and far away from the one person that I really trust and because of that, I feel like I have no one to confide in or talk to about anything. I used to be able to talk to them about anything and they really helped me when I was down but now it just feels like they're not there...which is sort of true in a way because I haven't spoken to them properly for quite a while.

Apart from that, I feel really lonely, I just want to be with someone, not to talk to, just someone who I can feel comfortable with and be around where I'm happier, but the problem is, I fear being dependent on someone because I think that if I become too attached, when they float away, I'll be worse off than the beginning. There's a girl I'd like to ask out in the near future, but without anyone to talk to about it if anything goes wrong, I'm also afraid of being rejected and having no one to go to.

What do I do, Pit?


Pfft, don't be afraid of rejection.

It's the only thing that will help you progress.

Anyway, don't be afraid of anything. The Pit is here for you .... I mean
#13
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Pfft, don't be afraid of rejection.

It's the only thing that will help you progress.

Anyway, don't be afraid of anything. The Pit is here for you .... I mean



But I don't have anyone to fall back on if anything goes wrong, if something goes wrong, I fear that without someone to talk to, it'll only get worse and worse.
#14
i don't have anyone to confide in or trust, just be happy you had someone like that in the first place.
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I have not read the post, but fap, it helps ALL the time.

Edit: After reading you're post, I need to know what's making you distant from the person you trust.
If it's a person, then become close to that person, which will bring you closer to the original person.



lmfao talk about a total 180... rofl...

and yea
just go out
hangout with friends
go drinking and partying!
lol but seriously
meet new people
and if anything,talk with the person you trust
tell them that you miss them or w/e
it'll work.
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#17
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i don't have anyone to confide in or trust, just be happy you had someone like that in the first place.



That's difficult to do when you feel alone, I do realise that they were there for me, but they're gone and knowing they WERE there isn't helping my state of mind right now.

EDIT:

The person I'm drifting away from is away on holiday right now, but way before then, they didn't speak to me as much, I don't know why and they don't live near me, they live in another state, so I can't just find them and talk to them.
#18
msn? if you just need to get **** of your chest, talk to someone 300 miles away who can never interfere with your life or acvtually hurt you.
#19
shovel -> rape yourself or them
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#21
Whatever you do...don't turn emo.

If you do turn emo, figure out how to properly kill yourself.

Before you kill yourself the right way, show every other emo you can find how to do it, because they can't seem to figure it out.
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#22
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I don't know anyone like that.


your on UG. just read the posts, find someone that aint a jerk and get there msn address.
#23
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Whatever you do...don't turn emo.

If you do turn emo, figure out how to properly kill yourself.

Before you kill yourself the right way, show every other emo you can find how to do it, because they can't seem to figure it out.



I don't know if you're trying to cheer me up or insult me, but please, I'm not in the mood for jokes right now, I tried cheering myself up with the Asian Face thread but I couldn't even crack a smile at any of the pictures.

EDIT: I'm going to sleep now...thanks for the honest and true replies so far
Last edited by XianXiuHong at Aug 27, 2008,
#26
It's clear that the problem here isn't that there is no one for you to confide in, it's that no-one wishes to confide in you. This may sound harsh but let me explain.

Several people have offered genuinely good practical advice to you in this thread (especially soulfly) and each time you've come up with reasons why they're wrong and that that piece of advice wouldn't be able to help you. It's obvious that your outlook is negative from the start and you aren't EXPECTING to find anyone you can trust. In order to recieve a given value in our society you have to recipricate that value e.g. if you want to get to know a funny person that you can have a laugh with then you have to show them that you can have a laugh with them and be funny.

Anything we lack in other people only reflects what we lack in ourselves, like the orange advert "I am the people that surround me". So start listening to the people around you and being interested in them, ask them how they are and project the feeling that you like them and want to be close to them.

You may come up with another negative "I've tried that and it doesnt work" style response but that will only proove my reasoning. Good luck.
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#27
All my mates are goin uni this year, like ALL of them.

So im gonna get a job work **** loads, sing with my band, meet new people, make new friends.

Only people you can fully depend on in my case are my family, friends say they love each other but its all bull**** in MOST circumstances, like they love you for now hahah, people change, you meet new people ect its life.

And to the people that say WERE GONNA BE FRIENDS FOREVER THOUGHHH.....your in for a shock.

Learn to be independant cus you'll need to be at certain times in life.

I mean i lost my best friend nearly two years ago, we used to go everywhere together, tell each other everythin ect.

But when he died it really hit home that things change and you need to embrace it rather than cower from it, i learnt that the hard way.

Who said lifes easy?
#28
Why cant you be normal and just bottle up your emotions until they eventually drive you mad and cause you to kill people?

Seriously though, just talk to lots of people and eventually someone will want to get to know you
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#29
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I have not read the post, but fap, it helps ALL the time.

Edit: After reading you're post, I need to know what's making you distant from the person you trust.
If it's a person, then become close to that person, which will bring you closer to the original person.

dude your insane rock on hahaha. the TS is a girl by the way..