#1
So it's my senior year at high school and i feel it's about time i started taking some chances. Not a whole lot of people know me very well even though i've spent 4 years with them. I'm not very talkative or anything either. I'm wondering if I start saying hey to people i haven't talked to since forever and being outgoing and ya know, ask them how they're doing and stuff even though i normally would never talk to them, will that make me look like a "weirdo" and too needy of a friend or will it seem like i'm a nice friendly guy?

opinions would be appreciated.. ^_^
#2
Well, I can't really give you sound advice because I'm not all that great at making friends either. The best advice I can give you is talk to everyone you meet and strike up conversations which you both seem interested in. People like pleasant people but keep in mind that not everyone will want to stick with you. For the most part, there will be people who will like you and start to ask you out.
When you mention, "haven't spoken to for ages", may I ask why? If these are people you haven't spoken to because they "abandoned" you some while ago, I don't recommend going back to these people but rather start off fresh.

You may come off as too needy if you're very persistent so I would just give them a chance to ask you out or see you. If they don't come back, chances are they don't really give a damn about you (harsh, I know but truth). This is a sign to move on and stop wasting your time with people who don't seem all that bothered with forming a friendship with you.

EDIT: About being nice: be warned, the vast majority of people won't return your kindness. There are a lot of assholes out there who are just self-centered so again, if they don't come back to you, just forget them.

Oh and @ the question: Outgoing people are all relative. You can't really say that all outgoing people are jerks. Some are and some aren't.
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#4
Do it, its your senior year, I used the excuse that I was never gonna see most people again and I did as much as I could, seriously, have fun and be outgoing and be the life of the party sort to speak.
#5
Well if you can be funny its a huge help. doing funny shit is always fun.

Just start talking to people about stuff.


EDIT:

to answer ur question, ya u could come off as a jerk, theres a fine line between teasing and being a total asshole that you need to avoid crossing.
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#6
Nope. As long as you don't ask in that sarcastic, dickish tone you'll be fine.

Nice people = win.
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#8
I'm outgoing and a jerk. I'd guess it's possible to just be one of those.
#10
The quite guy who is trying to be outgoing always comes off as creepy and awkward. You can't fake being outgoing. Wait til college then re-invent yourself.
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#11
if you talk to people and ber nice chances are they'll talk and be nice back. if they dont then they are assholes and no one likes an asshole anyway so no worries
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#12
who cares what people think of you?
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who cares what people think of you?


Everyone cares no matter how hard you try to tell yourself otherwise. It's human nature.
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to answer ur question, ya u could come off as a jerk, theres a fine line between teasing and being a total asshole that you need to avoid crossing.

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#16
i particularly dont mind, i mean i get along with a shit load of people, but then theres the people that dont like me and it doesnt bother me, i mean why waste time out of your day worrying about what people think of you when you could be doing something else, if they dont like you thats their problem
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The quiet guy who is trying to be outgoing always comes off as creepy and awkward. You can't fake being outgoing. Wait til college then re-invent yourself.


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#19
If you're genuinely nice, people will like you. It's impossible to dislike someone who's really outgoing; it's like kicking a puppy.
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The quite guy who is trying to be outgoing always comes off as creepy and awkward. You can't fake being outgoing. Wait til college then re-invent yourself.

nah, not always. the tendency is there, but it doesn't have to be that way.


just be pleasant and polite, and move on. don't wait for a response, just be open to it.
don't be afraid to enjoy it when people take the time to talk with you.
that comes through in your facial expressions.
people respond to that.
and be sure to listen to what they have to say.


don't try to be popular.
do try to be the kind of person other people like to have around.
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#21
well if someone was outgoing towards me I would be more than happy to converse or whatever even if I don't talk to them much normally, but you can definitely over do it. If you have tried talking to them a few times and it doesn't feel like you get a good response then don't be afraid to stop talking with them or else you start to become "that annoying guy I don't like that wont leave me alone".
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