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#1
ok, i remember a while back there was a thread about losing weight and getting into shape going on between some people. this wasnt the nutrition thread, it was something that was like a 6 week period and the same people just helped eachother out to become more of what they wanted to be.

this thread is similar, but for everyone who has something about themselves they dont like and want to improve on, from physical, emotion, financial and everything else. everybody has some things about themselves that they dont like and want to be better.

lets actually make a thread that is about becoming somebody better, instead of threads about spanking it, porn, getting drunk, and stuff like that.

this is how it works, say whatever it is that you dont like about yourself, what you want to become, and YOUR ideas of how to get there. other people just give you suggestions from personal experience or good ideas.

if this thread fails, which it probably will because many of you arent mature enough to help another person out, o well, i tried, but im working to make myself better and one year from now, i will be 100 times a better person.
#2
I wanna change how I react to stuff and how I control anger/sadness. Also, on how to get over my ex and date someone else.
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#3
Quote by RockGuitar92
I wanna change how I react to stuff and how I control anger/sadness. Also, on how to get over my ex and date someone else.


+1
#4
read the book "how to practice the way to a meaningful life" by the current dalai lama


its like 12 bucks, and it really helped me put things into perspective.
#5
Quote by RockGuitar92
I wanna change how I react to stuff and how I control anger/sadness. Also, on how to get over my ex and date someone else.


i think getting over your ex should be the easiest of these things to accomplish even though it may not seem that way. it's always been best for me to completely cut someone out of my life after a relationship, being friends just does not work, at least not immediately after a relationship. the main thing is to get your shit together for yourself and get comfortable in your own skin. it didn't not work out because of something about you, it didn't work out because of something about you AND your ex. you feel better when you can tell her that you miss her, but you don't miss us...

if i could change anything i would like to have a bit more realistic goals and a solid plan, but for the time it just doesn't seem like it is for me...
#7
ROCKGUITAR92.... i used to have anger problems and depression, its hard to overcome, but you can do it. some things i did to control it better... started going to the gym and working my a** off lifting weight, it take out agression and stress. start taking vitamins, vitamin b12 complex works well, it gives you more energy and relieves stress. ride your bike around the neighborhood when pissed off, it will help you vent. just dont stay in the house, solitude will drive you insane. try to be more healthy, a healthy body leads to a healthy mind....meditation also works, you can find that stuff on the internet.

as for you ex, dont wait for someone to make you happy, they never will, it sounds corny but you can only make yourself happy because you have mroe control over your thought and actions than you do another person. just start chasing the women
#8
i wanna get better grades and actually be pretty good at playing guitar
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#9
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i think getting over your ex should be the easiest of these things to accomplish even though it may not seem that way. it's always been best for me to completely cut someone out of my life after a relationship, being friends just does not work, at least not immediately after a relationship. the main thing is to get your shit together for yourself and get comfortable in your own skin. it didn't not work out because of something about you, it didn't work out because of something about you AND your ex. you feel better when you can tell her that you miss her, but you don't miss us...

if i could change anything i would like to have a bit more realistic goals and a solid plan, but for the time it just doesn't seem like it is for me...



I didn't talk to her for a year after we broke up. I just started again and she is like my best friend now. I don't wanna give that up.


How old are you? My guess is if you aren't that old don't worry about it that much yet. Just kind of think about it a little bit to try to get to an idea or plan instead of all at once. Plans change anyway.
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#10
oh, another thing that helps...... dont just post thing about yourself and look for answers, help other people in the pit, a lot of people have the same problems and its true what they say, you learn the most when you teach
#11
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i wanna get better grades and actually be pretty good at playing guitar



For the guitar all I can say is practice and try to take it at the right pace. For better grades just pay attention in school and maybe study if you have to.
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#13
TONA107...... read my first long reply for stress and anger.... as for liking yourself, what is it that you dont like? what is it you want to become? what do YOU think you have to do to get there?
#14
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i wanna stop getting stressed out over small things....

And get a bigger body...



This may be the solution to both problems....work out. Trust me it helps a lot. If you are underweight then just eat. I know it can be hard if you aren't hungry, but do it.
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#15
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I didn't talk to her for a year after we broke up. I just started again and she is like my best friend now. I don't wanna give that up.


How old are you? My guess is if you aren't that old don't worry about it that much yet. Just kind of think about it a little bit to try to get to an idea or plan instead of all at once. Plans change anyway.


Yeah that's tough. Even though it's terribly rom-com, if you are going to be together, you will be together. I often find with relationships i think if someone is with someone, they will marry that person, that is not the case, things will change, maybe even your own feelings. As for myself, I'm 23, which I know isn't old, except on this site. It's just since I have graduated college it has been one idea to the next with nothing ever developing. I actually just dropped out of law school after getting a full scholarship, so i'm just in one of those retrospective stages where i need to unwind. I'm not worried, but people tell me i should be. But to tell you the truth I will be fine with a part time seasonal job, my guitar, my girlfriend, and obama getting elected.
#16
Quote by bmac85
Yeah that's tough. Even though it's terribly rom-com, if you are going to be together, you will be together. I often find with relationships i think if someone is with someone, they will marry that person, that is not the case, things will change, maybe even your own feelings. As for myself, I'm 23, which I know isn't old, except on this site. It's just since I have graduated college it has been one idea to the next with nothing ever developing. I actually just dropped out of law school after getting a full scholarship, so i'm just in one of those retrospective stages where i need to unwind. I'm not worried, but people tell me i should be. But to tell you the truth I will be fine with a part time seasonal job, my guitar, my girlfriend, and obama getting elected.


Well I know I won't ever be with her again(she has a boy friend and what not) and I am ok with this. I just wanna be able to get over her because if I lose her as a best friend then I really won't have anyone to talk about stuff with. She tells me stuff and I tell her stuff. Most people would say it's the friendzone, but idc.

Yeah only go with what you want. Not with what other people want or think.
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#17
Quote by RockGuitar92
For the guitar all I can say is practice and try to take it at the right pace. For better grades just pay attention in school and maybe study if you have to


but i have no idea what to practice (chords, songs, scales, etc.) since i am not all that good i can a couple little things but thats it
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#18
Quote by RockGuitar92
This may be the solution to both problems....work out. Trust me it helps a lot. If you are underweight then just eat. I know it can be hard if you aren't hungry, but do it.

Yeah i know...
And i realise, that eating many frequent small meals (like 5 small meals a day) is better than eating a large lunch or dinner... cuz if you're like me, you won't be able to take in all the nutrients you need in just 2 servings... You'll get full too soon and won't be able to take in as much as you need to grow.
So many smaller, more managable meals through the day is better to match your daily nutrients requirements!


And yeah, i did hear regular exercise helps with getting rid of stress... I really need to start doing that!! I hate stress, but i overthink things a lot and end up stressing myself out over silly little things!!
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Quote by af_the_fragile
Yeah i know...
And i realise, that eating many frequent small meals (like 5 small meals a day) is better than eating a large lunch or dinner... cuz if you're like me, you won't be able to take in all the nutrients you need in just 2 servings... You'll get full too soon and won't be able to take in as much as you need to grow.
So many smaller, more managable meals through the day is better to match your daily nutrients requirements!


And yeah, i did hear regular exercise helps with getting rid of stress... I really need to start doing that!! I hate stress, but i overthink things a lot and end up stressing myself out over silly little things!!


Just tell yourself that it really isn't gonna make a big impact on your life and worry about something more important.
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#20
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but i have no idea what to practice (chords, songs, scales, etc.) since i am not all that good i can a couple little things but thats it


Well this is what I did/do.

Practice chords first so that you kinda build up a speed. Songs help you get started on that stuff so you have something to practice. Then when you can do chords well move onto scales/lead guitar. Try to learn some solos so you can work on speed and what makes scales sound good and what works. Try to practice often. Try to have fun though when doing it. Once you get better you will enjoy playing more. Trust me.
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#21
I wanna get over my alcoholism, try to be able to get along with my ex girlfriend, get out of counselling, find some help for my bipolar, stop losing friends, stop smoking, lose weight, clear my head up and become a better person with how I talk to people, and learn how to handle stress.
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Quote by Internal Chaos
I wanna get over my alcoholism, try to be able to get along with my ex girlfriend, get out of counselling, find some help for my bipolar, stop losing friends, stop smoking, lose weight, clear my head up and become a better person with how I talk to people, and learn how to handle stress.



Well to lose weight and to handle stress you can work out.

To get along with your ex maybe you have to think if you have feeling for her that keep you from having a peaceful relationship. It will be easier if you don't.

Maybe someone else can try to help you with the other stuff. It's to hard for me to try to help you with.
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#23
Quote by RockGuitar92
Just tell yourself that it really isn't gonna make a big impact on your life and worry about something more important.

Aah, yeah...
Thanks mate!!


This is a pretty cool thread!
Not a fail at all!!!
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Aah, yeah...
Thanks mate!!


This is a pretty cool thread!
Not a fail at all!!!



Well I can't tell sarcasm very well on the internet so I'm going to say thanks anyway....haha
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#25
INTERNAL CHAOS..... alchoholism is a hard thing to overcome. when you are with your friends or whoever you drink with and they hand you a beer, just tell them you want to cut back and eventually stop, if they are really your friends, they will understand and respect you for it. if they keep pressuring you, dont hang out with them. dont surround yourself with people who want to drag you down. if you drink alone, then the biggest thing you need is will power, and respect yourself enough to not do that to your mind and body.

for the friends, if they are bad friends, burn bridges. if they are good friends, then start goin out of your way to be there for them and soon they will do the same, show respect, earn respect
#26
I show respect to too many people, thats the thing. I drink too much at home, it's my escape, I just can't find the will power.

I dunno, fuck it. People have overcome this before.
#27
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I show respect to too many people, thats the thing. I drink too much at home, it's my escape, I just can't find the will power.

I dunno, fuck it. People have overcome this before.



Well instead of drinking why don't you find something else to be your escape like music? I mean you come here so you more than likely play guitar. Take your emotions that you would normally get over with alcohol and put them into your music. It will make your music sound way better then you ever thought possible too. Trust me I have had it happen myself.

EDIT: Then why exactly do your friends and you have issues?
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but i have no idea what to practice (chords, songs, scales, etc.) since i am not all that good i can a couple little things but thats it


Pick out a song that you love, and just start from the beginning. It's so much easier to learn something as a byproduct of learning a song than it is to make yourself sit down and learn it. Ex: I learned the pentatonics accidentally while i was learning some allman brothers stuff. Don't try and force yourself to become better, or you'll just get frustrated. Just keep playing, it'll come naturally.

As for me, I want to get my life back together, get over my depression, and stop living my life for everyone else.
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well, if you are a good person to people and they treat you like sh*t, dont be around them. there are plenty of people out there who will show you the same respect you show them, you just gotta find em.

next time you want to escape wit alcohol, just put it down, get your shoes, and go for a jog. the trick is finding something to replace it for your escape. but you have to want to stop before you actually achieve anything
#30
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Well instead of drinking why don't you find something else to be your escape like music? I mean you come here so you more than likely play guitar. Take your emotions that you would normally get over with alcohol and put them into your music. It will make your music sound way better then you ever thought possible too. Trust me I have had it happen myself.

EDIT: Then why exactly do your friends and you have issues?

I quit guitar a few months ago. I'm now only a composer, and I play every now and then. I tried doing the whole emotion thing will my music, but the day after, more happened, and I have no ideas for a song. I tried to write complex music, and raise the bar for myself instead of the standard teen angst cliches.

I have two friends who I will always want there. They are the best mates I can possibly have. But that's just it, they're the only two people I can call my friends. They have other friends, so they can go out and see them all the time, and I feel miserable at home by myself. I was at a party two nights ago, talking to a couple of girls who seem nice, but I seem to flirty. I just don't know how to make friends.
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Quote by guitarslutxxx
well, if you are a good person to people and they treat you like sh*t, dont be around them. there are plenty of people out there who will show you the same respect you show them, you just gotta find em.

next time you want to escape wit alcohol, just put it down, get your shoes, and go for a jog. the trick is finding something to replace it for your escape. but you have to want to stop before you actually achieve anything



Hey I think it would be easier to use the "Quote" button. It would probably help this thread go smoother. I know you created it, but I noticed it in other threads similar to this.

Anyway we need more posters and helpers!!!! lol
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Well I can't tell sarcasm very well on the internet so I'm going to say thanks anyway....haha

nah, no sarcasm there... Don't worry.

And I do genuinely believe this was a pretty cool idea for a thread!
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Quote by Internal Chaos
I quit guitar a few months ago. I'm now only a composer, and I play every now and then. I tried doing the whole emotion thing will my music, but the day after, more happened, and I have no ideas for a song. I tried to write complex music, and raise the bar for myself instead of the standard teen angst cliches.

I have two friends who I will always want there. They are the best mates I can possibly have. But that's just it, they're the only two people I can call my friends. They have other friends, so they can go out and see them all the time, and I feel miserable at home by myself. I was at a party two nights ago, talking to a couple of girls who seem nice, but I seem to flirty. I just don't know how to make friends.


Other alternatives to making music would be listening to music, drawing, exercising, and even coming on here to vent it out. Not everyone on the internet is a jackass.

It's not really something you are bad or good at when making friends because you just have to be yourself. You were probably flirty because they are girls. Try being friends with some guys too. You don't really need a lot of close friends so don't worry about working on it too hard.
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It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything.

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#35
Quote by guitarslutxxx
i honestley dont know what the quote button is...... help me out here



It's at the bottom right hand part of the box thing. (next to edit)

EDIT:
This
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#36
Quote by RockGuitar92
Other alternatives to making music would be listening to music, drawing, exercising, and even coming on here to vent it out. Not everyone on the internet is a jackass.

It's not really something you are bad or good at when making friends because you just have to be yourself. You were probably flirty because they are girls. Try being friends with some guys too. You don't really need a lot of close friends so don't worry about working on it too hard.

I don't want close friends though, I already have them. I'd just like some normal friends that I can hang out with every now and then, male or female. But I dunno how to have friends, I dunno what to talk about. I'm a huge metalhead, and I know that theres two other metalheads at my school.

I dunno, friendships make me wanna give up. I have friends from overseas on line, but I don't hang out with them so it doesn't matter what we talk about.
#37
If you're trying to overcome any sort of addiction or keep your mind off drugs, exercise a lot. The endorphines will make you feel great, you can get to sleep earlier (this helps me since I usually do drugs late at night). Good luck with the alcoholism Internal Chaos, since its such a common vice you could always try AA or some other support group. Or perhaps go through the twelve steps on your own.

As for changes in my life, I don't want to quit any of my habits but keep them in a better balance. I want to increase my social skills, towards both men and women. I want to keep a diverse group of friends and I want to do better in school. I think most of these problems are ones that I can only solve by simply meeting them head on.
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#38
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I don't want close friends though, I already have them. I'd just like some normal friends that I can hang out with every now and then, male or female. But I dunno how to have friends, I dunno what to talk about. I'm a huge metalhead, and I know that theres two other metalheads at my school.

I dunno, friendships make me wanna give up. I have friends from overseas on line, but I don't hang out with them so it doesn't matter what we talk about.


Even if you are a metalhead it doesn't mean you can't be friends with other types of people. Just be yourself. Talk about funny things you have done or ask them what they like to do. A lot of people listen to metal, but don't look like it or act like it. So ask about what music they like. Besides that if the people are really worth it then your musical tastes shouldn't affect them.

The most important thing is that people like you for YOU. That's all that matters and trust me there is always more people that will then you think.
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#39
Basically, I want to be better at the things I do. Which goes for the running, the working out, the music related stuff, the skiing related stuff, the academic stuff, and the social stuff.

Pretty much the same stuff I've been doing for years. And I have no problem with that.
There will probably be a signature here at some point.
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Quote by RockGuitar92
Even if you are a metalhead it doesn't mean you can't be friends with other types of people. Just be yourself. Talk about funny things you have done or ask them what they like to do. A lot of people listen to metal, but don't look like it or act like it. So ask about what music they like. Besides that if the people are really worth it then your musical tastes shouldn't affect them.

The most important thing is that people like you for YOU. That's all that matters and trust me there is always more people that will then you think.

Okay, cheers. I just dunno how to talk to people other than music. There's more to people than just that. That's why I've always stuck to my good mates. I can't remember how I became friends with them though... I guess I'll talk to some of the girls I was talking to at the party.

Also, do you suggest I talk to people I see everyday, or maybe at a party, talk to the person I don't know?
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