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#1
So...
my Grandma died the other day. She's been ill for ages so it wasn't a surprise, tbh we were kind of waiting for the news. I didn't really know her at all, I mean I saw her a couple of times a year, or maybe just every other year, but I didn't really have any emotional attachement to her. Just kind of the relative you had to go and see. So I didn't really feel sad at all when she died. I kinda feel bad for my mum, who will have to look after my Grandad, but I kinda feel like I should care more...

tl;dr: I'm wondering, does anyone here also feel like they lack an emotional attachement to alot of things?? Lack of sentiment?
#2
If you didn't know her i don't see any real reason to be overly sad about it.
#5
Yeah i know i won't be sad when either of mine die, i'll just have to fake it to make my parents happy
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#6
I'm the same way with my grandma.
I visit her all the time, and i know her and stuff.
But she can't even pick up a pen and write her own name, i feel like when she dies, I wont care that much, because i know Its going to happen soon.
#7
same thing happened to me TS, i rarely saw my grandmother, maybe once sometimes twice a year
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#8
same with my great grandma. She died when i was about 10 years old... and she was sick about 65% of my whole life 'till then... and i just came to see her in the nursing home when she was sick.... i was kind of sad when she died, but i didn't like bawl my eyes out or anything...

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#9
Yeah, I guess it's normal.

But I'm the same way with objects. I mean, I don't ****in look over old photos or toys and think "Ahhh remember when....." I'd just rather throw that shit away lol.
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Yeah, I guess it's normal.

But I'm the same way with objects. I mean, I don't ****in look over old photos or toys and think "Ahhh remember when....." I'd just rather throw that shit away lol.

I like my old toys and photos....
#11
not really, she lived out her full life, old people die, its just what happens.
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#12
Hey, why make yourself sad? Better than not being able to be happy.
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#13
This reminds me of my great grandpa.
Before he died, he couldn't remember my name or who I was, and I've known him all my life.


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#14
I'm the same way, my grandpa passed a couple weeks ago. I knew him, but we weren't very close. It was an awakening, since it was my first relative that died, but I wasn't very sad. It was more saddening to see my dad's reaction, since he was pretty down and he hardly ever shows emotions like that.
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#15
This reminds me. My grandma died about a year ago. I think I could've been a little more respectful to my mom that week. I mean I was playing my guitar like usual, loud and such, a couple of days after like nothing happened.
#16
Yes, I am a cold hearted prick too, TS.

Both my grandmothers and my one grandfather (the other died 5 years before I was born) died within 2-3 years. Didn't cry once (almost at the first funeral, because it was the first one I've ever been to).

And we lived very close. My grandmother (first funeral) was across the street from me my whole life and my grandfather (third, small funeral) and grandmother (second, cremated) only lived a few blocks away. Only felt close to my first grandmother, but I really don't "miss" any of them. I'm 20, they died when I was in high school.
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#17
It makes perfect sense that you wouldn't be emotionally attached to someone that you only saw once a year or so. The fact that she was your grandmother doesn't mean anything emotionally significant if she wasn't an active part of your life to begin with.

People aren't growing less emotional, or losing interpersonal connection skills, the traditional idea of family has just fallen apart.
#18
Well, I guess shit happens.
I live away from home at school so I ain't exactly a big family kinda person lol.
#19
yeah, i'll probably feel sadder for my parents by proxy when by grandparents die... i barely know them, and rarely see them. i don't get upset about old people passing though... gotta happen sometime... i say once you're 60, you better be ready to kick off at any time.
#20
I feel like I should be closer with my grandparents, but I have nothing in common with them and we barely see them. I also feel like I should have a slightly deeper connection with my immediate family. I'm not emotionally disconnected from them, but I think I could have a much stronger bond with them.
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#21
I think as a medical student I sometimes look back and reflect on how callous medical students can be. We spend our time in the Dissection Room with up to 20 dead bodies lying on metal tables exposed and opened up, yet we rarely consider them as human beings, and more just as something which is quite soft and slimy that resembles what we need to learn. It's extremely surreal. I also wonder if we empathise enough when meeting actual patients. I don't want to become a careless doctor who sees everyone as another disease.
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This reminds me of my great grandpa.
Before he died, he couldn't remember my name or who I was, and I've known him all my life.

-hug-

I see my grandparents maybe once every two years, since they live in China. My paternal grandmother has heart disease now, and my maternal grandfather doesn't recognize anyone but his wife. I love them because they're part of my family, of course, but I know I'll never be very close to them.
#24
I couldn't even talk to my grandmother (she spoke Cantonese which I don't speak) yet when she died I was really sad. I didn't really feel much until I saw her inside her coffin and that's when I started to cry.
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I think as a medical student I sometimes look back and reflect on how callous medical students can be. We spend our time in the Dissection Room with up to 20 dead bodies lying on metal tables exposed and opened up, yet we rarely consider them as human beings, and more just as something which is quite soft and slimy that resembles what we need to learn. It's extremely surreal. I also wonder if we empathise enough when meeting actual patients. I don't want to become a careless doctor who sees everyone as another disease.

I think if I ever were to become a doctor, that would be the main thing I would have to try not to succumb to. I wouldn't want to be so un sensitive.
#26
I lived with my grandad for the first 15 years of my life and when he died I didn't feel anything (aside from feeling bad for my mum) until about...a year and a bit later? when I just started crying all the time about it.

lol
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I lived with my grandad for the first 15 years of my life and when he died I didn't feel anything (aside from feeling bad for my mum) until about...a year and a bit later? when I just started crying all the time about it.

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the lol was just cause I thought the situation was odd my self. I had know idea why it suddenly hit me so hard such a longer time afterwards and it was strange.
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I like my old toys and photos....


so do i, i cant bare to get rid of them

and i remember when my grandma died, i cried really bad, because she had just become ill and she died a month or so later.

but my grandad is now 94, and hes a lonely man, in pain. i will be sad when he goes, but in a way i wont. i'll see it as a relief for him
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#30
tl;dr: I'm wondering, does anyone here also feel like they lack an emotional attachement to alot of things?? Lack of sentiment?


A lot of things.
#32
I'm along the same lines as most of the people here, emotionally detached from family. I would be more sad if my friends were to die than my parents I think. Then again I just got a new stepfather like 3 years ago and we're not very close.

But I think I'm just emotionally detached in general. Last night one of my best friends was having a hard time. She used to do all sorts of drugs and alcohol, but then stopped, 6-7 of her friends from high school have died this year, and her mom brings it up like every time they talk. This girl was bawling, and I felt bad for her, but I couldn't make my face show it. It was like I was a freaking statue. I wanted to cry for her or something, just show something, but I couldn't. I'm such a calloused person
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#33
My Grandma died this summer and I felt nothing. We were pretty close, I maybe saw her every other week. Everyone else in my family was crying (except me and my brother). I just felt bad for my Grandpa. Then again, I can't even remember the last time I actually cried.

Desensitization ftl.
#35
I'm not empathetic.
If you barely knew her, how could it be any sadder than the thought that the fellow at your local supermarket, who you've probably talked to a fair bit over the years, will soon die?

One thing I often find funny is, next time you pass someone on the street, think about them. You could go the rest of your life never seeing them; statistically, if you're in a crowded place, say, 250 people in a town square, I would guess one of them would be dead within the next few days.
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#36
Yes, and I love it.

I mean, look at the average teenage slut who cries over nothing, knows nothing and expects everything.

I am cold as ice with good grades and zero expectations.



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#37
my uncle Grandfather died when i was ten, but i didn't feel anything. i saw him, what, 2 times a year?
#38
There are less then 3 people that if they died i would cry. Not that i don't love / care about my parents but I guess it just isn't the way I am.
#39
I have to admit I am totally unattached to things & people. The few people I do care about really are all that would merit more than a shrug if something happened to them. The rest I just fake to appear more normal
#40
ive seen my grandma maybe 6-7 times in my enitire life but i deeply love her, and my grandpa on my mom's side i only met when i was four, but i was devastated by his death.
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