#1
so me and one of my friends I've known forever are the only two people from our class of 8 to go into a school of over 1000. We both have new friends and are still good friends, but there is a problem. He has no motivation, never does his homework, and just wants to drink his life away in a storage container(yes, a large metal storage container.) as a snowboard instructor. Hes 14. I have a 4.0 GPA and plan to go to college and be a Game Designer. (no 'omg ur such a nerd lolollololz!!!1111!!!' comments please) I try to help him realize he is smart and doesn't need to live his life like this, but it falls on deaf ears. Ive been thinking about just dropping our friendship, but hes a good person at heart. I don't know what to do!!! HELP ME!!!!

P.S. I'm a little confused rite now cause i just got put in 'the friend zone' by the 2 girls i had the best chance with. My life rocks. *sob*

EDIT: Did i mention i got put in the FZ by the girls ON THE SAME DAY. I felt like shit. Like shit that had just been raped.
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#2
good luck convincing him to do that...

(oh, and get used to the friend zone as a game designer)
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if you were really his friend you wouldnt care if he wants to do something you dont think is sufficient and would help him none the less
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Take away his booze and replace it with apple juice. And then just tell the girls you want to have intercourse with them. It will change their minds, trust me.
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#5
I have a friend like this. He is perfectly content with only making enough money to pay rent for a shitty apartment and to get his weed everyday.

He sits in a shitty drywall container, oblivious to the world around him, stoned as ****.

The thing is, it is his decision.

If you don't like hanging out with him, then don't, but don't try to make him change his life. If he is happy, then leave him be.
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#6
you only think you are in the friend zone
girls do that and it never is true
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#7
Its not necessarily up to you how he lives his life. I know you care, but you can't change him. The most you can do is show him you care about him and let him know how you want him to live his life(or not fuck it up, but you can't force him to do anything.
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so me and one of my friends I've known forever are the only two people from our class of 8 to go into a school of over 1000. We both have new friends and are still good friends, but there is a problem. He has no motivation, never does his homework, and just wants to drink his life away in a storage container(yes, a large metal storage container.) as a snowboard instructor. Hes 14. I have a 4.0 GPA and plan to go to college and be a Game Designer. (no 'omg ur such a nerd lolollololz!!!1111!!!' comments please) I try to help him realize he is smart and doesn't need to live his life like this, but it falls on deaf ears. Ive been thinking about just dropping our friendship, but hes a good person at heart. I don't know what to do!!! HELP ME!!!!

P.S. I'm a little confused rite now cause i just got put in 'the friend zone' by the 2 girls i had the best chance with. My life rocks. *sob*


If your friend doesn't want to go to college, that's fine.

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people take different paths in life and that's just the way it is. Most of my closest friends are people that I met in college and the only school friends I'm still close to went to college themselves too. We enjoy our geeky science conversations and other people just wouldn't get it.
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#9
you'll learn at some point that its not about how clever you are or how good your job is, it's about how happy you are... That or you'll get some sort of management job. If he's happy and your his friend then be his friend and leave him to it
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#10
lol
yeah there is nothing you can possibly do to help your friend but be there for him
yes other people say that people can change give them a while
yeah.....
that doesnt work
you can try shocking him into reality by
and unfortunately this is bad
show him pictures of what will happen to him
get him to talk to someone that this has happended to
best thing to do is bring him one early morning to a soup kitchen or whatever your equavilient is and have him talk to the homless
have him hand out the bowls (thats normally the job they give noobs) to the homless
and they normally talk
if you talk to a few of them beforehand they will be happy to help "shock" your friend back into reality
if that doesnt work
nothing will
until its 2 late.....

hope that helps
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#11
drop your friendship


the REAL problem is with those two girls who've just put you in the friend zone. you need to focs your attention on that not your loser friend
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lol
yeah there is nothing you can possibly do to help your friend but be there for him
yes other people say that people can change give them a while
yeah.....
that doesnt work
you can try shocking him into reality by
and unfortunately this is bad
show him pictures of what will happen to him
get him to talk to someone that this has happended to
best thing to do is bring him one early morning to a soup kitchen or whatever your equavilient is and have him talk to the homless
have him hand out the bowls (thats normally the job they give noobs) to the homless
and they normally talk
if you talk to a few of them beforehand they will be happy to help "shock" your friend back into reality
if that doesnt work
nothing will
until its 2 late.....

hope that helps
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i know what you mean dude, i have my cousin who smokes like a pound of weed a week, and hes done acid 3 times and hes 14.
hes been drug tested so many times but he just wont stop smoking and doing drugs and drinking.
hes my cousin and before he did all that shit me and him were BEST friends and we have so many good memories, but now all he cares about is getting f***ed up.
im not trying to sound dumb or anything, but its wicked depressing.
i miss the old him, not the new drug addict him.
the worst part is that you cant force them to stop, cause then he'll just smoke more and drink more to piss you off.
hopefully he'll either realize its bad, or he'll hit rock bottom and almost die and THEN realize its bad to drink your life away.
just support him and try to help him. (and i DONT mean buy him booze and shit)
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#19
Dude don't drop your friendship over something that trivial. He's probably just going through a phase. Hell, you guys are 14, he might just be drinking because he thinks it's cool.
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#22
As one said before you are too young to be worrying about this kind of thing. I am a college grad and my best friend ahs his GED. Way too trivial to destroy a friendship.
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I have a friend like this. He is perfectly content with only making enough money to pay rent for a shitty apartment and to get his weed everyday.

He sits in a shitty drywall container, oblivious to the world around him, stoned as ****.

The thing is, it is his decision.

If you don't like hanging out with him, then don't, but don't try to make him change his life. If he is happy, then leave him be.



He sounds like a good man.

Who cares? Though really, maybe he just found out that there a more important things in life rather than worrying about material things or what others deem important. Or what others think about him for that matter.
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so me and one of my friends I've known forever are the only two people from our class of 8 to go into a school of over 1000. We both have new friends and are still good friends, but there is a problem. He has no motivation, never does his homework, and just wants to drink his life away in a storage container(yes, a large metal storage container.) as a snowboard instructor. Hes 14. I have a 4.0 GPA and plan to go to college and be a Game Designer. (no 'omg ur such a nerd lolollololz!!!1111!!!' comments please) I try to help him realize he is smart and doesn't need to live his life like this, but it falls on deaf ears. Ive been thinking about just dropping our friendship, but hes a good person at heart. I don't know what to do!!! HELP ME!!!!

P.S. I'm a little confused rite now cause i just got put in 'the friend zone' by the 2 girls i had the best chance with. My life rocks. *sob*

EDIT: Did i mention i got put in the FZ by the girls ON THE SAME DAY. I felt like shit. Like shit that had just been raped.


how about you stop trying to mold your friend into what you think he should be. and maybe stop being a girl.
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how about you stop trying to mold your friend into what you think he should be. and maybe stop being a girl.


Stop flaming. How is he being a girl? And how can you classify anything he's doing as being of the opposite gender?
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#26
I feel like yhe friend on the other side. I'm smart, but i really don't want to go to college or be successful. I just want to make enough money to live and write music. My friend, on the other hand, doesnt understand why anyone would want to be a professional musician because they "hardly ever give you any money". Of course I tell him I don't care that much about money, and he gives me the "you're crazy" look.

I'm not saying you're a bad person, you sound pretty cool, but I can relate with your friend a little more.
#27
Don't worry about that stuff right now. You guys are young and have time to think about things. Just be a good role model and be there for him in the present. If you go on different paths later, so be it. People learn more from example than from someone nagging at them I'm sure you have good intentions but people rarely listen to other when they feel they're being criticized. It can be really aggrivating on both sides, so I'd say you just let things happen as they are for right now and hopefully he'll see for himself that he's got more in him. Don't ditch him if you really care about him.
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