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Yeah, I understand what she's said about it. She told me that she saw cutting herself as better option than taking an entire jar of sleeping tablets. I kind of feel that she needs professional help and that she's certainly not in a position to be in a relationship.
By constantly pursuing a relationship she's setting herself up to be disappointed more, making it a vicious circle. There's clearly a lot of issues but I'm not a professional and I'm not in a relationship with her so it really isn't my prerogative to help her deal with it all, as harsh as that sounds.
I told her that she really should go to a doctor's and talk to them, while trying to remain kind and on her side. Definitely going to have to cut it off pretty quickly though now, I don't want her getting attached to me and then being upset.
Edit: she just responded with "I'm not telling anyone"
Hey guys, girlfriend doesn't know what she's feeling. Aka is having doubts... I'm thinking she wants to go into the school year single (she hasn't said anything like that). She is not a relationship person and the fact that I've held onto her for 9 months, including an entire semester when she was in NY, is kind of amazing.
She just told me she feels like she's faking the relationship when we're long distance, she lives about 2 hours away from me but we go to the same school and will be returning in less than a month..
But other than that, all she's said is she's having doubts and is being very general. So obviously I can't help her.
My question is: Do I put the ball in her court or do I put a little pressure on to keep it going? I don't want to lose her now, because I know when we hit the school year everything will be great. Even if it isn't, at least we tried.
Ok guys need some advice
I've known this chick for a bit and I've definately picked up. On some vibes she was into me. And when I get that instinct I'm usually right. It doesn't happen very much so I'm not trying to sound cocky but when it does I can usually tell.
Now I've had my suspicions but haven't really followed through. But now I've heard from. Ie of her friends guys and girls that she has said she's into me.
So I figured now was the time to pursue her. So I've basically just getting a little flirty in text but she hasn't really got into it. She takes forever to respond sometimes and occasionally just doesnt. Im kinda confused cause I definately got some vibes which I don't get very often.
So what do y'all thinks up?
Hi, I've come here because I'm not sure where to go.
I'm 22 and never really had sex. I didn't make a lot of friends in college but even more so I was never great at pursuing girls. I had a one night stand once when I was completely wasted a little over a year ago. At first I couldn't get it up and the girl was very understanding, she hand't done it in a long time. Eventually I ended up getting hard and she went on top for a bit but I never finished, I didn't have a condom. I know how extremely stupid this was, but I was really out of it and I 21 year old virgin so I was exactly thinking straight.
Lately I've found a bit of a decreased sex drive, I don't really get hard unless I actually am stimulating myself. It's like I almost don't believe I'll ever get laid so its hard to be excited about it. I watch porn fairly often, it used to be everyday but I haven't been watching as much lately, still probably 5 times a week at least though. I also smoke pot almost everyday, and drink on the weekends (not sure if this is important but thought I would share just incase).
I don't really find porn to appealing anymore, if I stop touching myself I often will loose my erection.
Where do I go from here?
I often have issues with anxiety and nerves just socially in life, although I've gotten much better over the last couple of years. I'm probably over thinking this whole thing which doesn't help, but I just don't know what to do anymore.
Sorry for the long post and sorry if it doesn't fit in with this thread.
Bit of a weird one.
Me and my gf were having sex on Saturday and both enjoying it. I had to go to the loo, so i popped out and came back. When I got back, she tried to put me back in and she'd tightened up pretty quickly and I just couldn't get it. My dick isn't massive, probably above average. And she's a petite girl. Any reason for it just to close up (sorry at the crudeness) like that?
I need to add that she kept trying to put me back in, so I wasn't pushing her into it.
Hey guys, long time lurker, first time poster on any forum ever...
so i have a bit of a dilemma going on at the moment.
my girlfriend and i have been going out for almost 2 years now. we're both mid 20's (in case age is a factor for helping me).
when we were getting to know each other we had the "what's you future plans" conversation and i always said i was going to go to australia to work (i'm a New Zealander and i get $10/hr more in oz than what i get in NZ).
she seemed really receptive to the idea and keen to join me when i eventually go, her hatred of her job and the town we live in helped convince her also.
fast forward to a couple of months ago and we are madly in love with each other and due to my job situation i felt it was prime time to make the move overseas finally. she wasn't overly keen to move over immediately because she got a new job she liked, but said she would still move over eventually (3-6months or so after i leave), so with that in mind i trundled off overseas to chase the $$$ thinking it was all good.
we skyped regularly and it was hard for the first month or so, not knowing when we'd truly see each other etc.
i kept getting emails from her saying how heartbroken she felt and how much she misses me etc and then the other day i get a email saying she doesn't think she can be with me anymore because she doesn't think she'll move over for another year (or if ever).
to really complicate things the dude i thought was my best mate (and band mate!?!??) has messaged me saying he's falling for my girlfriend, he says he hasn't done anything out of respect for me but he says he can't help the feelings and it's hard for him to see my girlfriend so upset about me leaving them in NZ.
so basically i'm asking for advice on whether i should go back to New Zealand (to a town I thoroughly dislike and less wage) and try patch things up with her and continue what will possibly be a very awkward friendship with my "best mate/former jam buddy" or whether i should stay and try move on from that whole section of my life……
i just wish i'd found this forum/thread before i left
I'm in the middle of a pregnancy scare and shitting my pants. My period is going on 2 weeks late. I did a test yesterday, which came up negative, but apparently false negatives are common so I'm doing a second test in a couple of days. ****
We did use condoms, so I'm likely to be safe (as far as I know none broke or anything either). But still. Haven't told the guy yet, I'm going to wait til the second test. I'm a nervous wreck right now. shiiiiiiiiiiiit
thanks for the replies guys. To answer the question she's 21, I'm a bit older than her. but she seems to be totally.
I think it's not only her beliefs as much as her fear of doing it. I mean she's also afraid that we won't be together all the time so she's afraid to do it with me knowing I'm not gonna be her husband
the interesting thing is that she's having some really psychological things too. I mean I really dont insist on sex, but when you're making out then you're making out you know, at least you can have your way around her body (dude at least hugging her under her T-shirt) which seems to be ok by her for a moment, and the other moment she's all scared yelling No!. I'm not sure how to really tell her that no sex is gonna happen whatsoever and it's just making out.
Already am. It still seems a bit out of place in a conversation with a 17 year old though, I mean usually they don't get really open until their twenties or so. It's gotten a bit more in depth since that part of the conversation either way. It seems I might have a chance with her when she comes out here.
So, me and my gf broke up. And i thought i would feel better. But goddamn, i have never felt more like shit in my entire life. I have no idea wat to do with myself, i feel empty and all i want is to call her up and get her back. I even cried! What the hel pit, what am i suposed to do? I have never felt like this in my life.
The only way science (or anything else) could undermine atheism is by providing evidence for gods. Is science doing that? No. So science is not undermining atheism.
Minor problem RT....
So me and my GF are together a lot. We're both fine with that, not smothering. We hang out separately from time to time but mostly we are together...and we're happy.
The problem is that more than quite a few times now, we've made a plan (let's say like go to a movie, something other than just hanging out), for like the next day or something, and then later on she'll make a plan with on of her girl friends that will either postpone or totally over ride the plans we've made previously.
I've called her out on it and she just says I'm being unfair...
What do you think?? I understand she wants/needs to be with her friends, that's not the problem. I'm fine going our separate ways for a bit. But it's just when we have plans and then she overwrites them with other plans, it kind of pissed me off, even more so because it's happened a handfull of times...she just says I'm being unfair, that we're together all the time, and she wants to hang out with her friends. I just say that it's different when we actually have plans and it's not cool to opt out of set plans to do something else.
Do I have a right to be ticked, or am I just being a bitch?
Sounds like she thinks you guys should hang out less and you think you guys should hang out more. This is a huge conflict of interests. Obviously if she feels like you guys need to hang out less(or she needs to hang it with friends more, whatever), then she isn't going to be happy if you insist and basically pressure her into hanging out with you more.
I don't want to sound pessimistic, but all you can really do is give her the time away that she needs and hope that this isn't the start of her losing interest in the relationship.
Atheist simply means 'not theist', it says nothing about whether a person definitely thinks there is no God, or simply does not think there is sufficient evidence to believe there is. Most people are the latter, and indeed I would say that anyone who affirms 100% that there isn't a God is simply claiming to have knowledge they can't have. The latter, however, is often confused for agnosticism, which is not the same thing. Agnosticism is the believe that whether or not there is a God there is no way of humans knowing the truth of the matter.
The fact that God hasn't or cannot be proven is irrelevant (to this specific argument). Until something is proven then it is not scientifically accepted as fact, and until it has been proven (or at least there is sufficient evidence to suggest it may be true) then saying that it most likely isn't is the correct approach. No scientist worth their salt would say that we can prove that the deistic God does not exist, but they don't need to. Until there is evidence that one does there is no logic in doing anything other than saying that it most likely does not.
The proposition of there being a God is one which has no evidence to back it up, therefore saying that there most likely isn't a God is the logical conclusion. Russell's teapot is an argument against just this. There is no evidence that there is a teapot orbiting this planet, but that does not mean that chance of the teapot actually existing is 50/50.
You misunderstand what being an "Atheist" means.
I am an Atheist, however I don't assert that a God does not exist. It's entirely possible, but I've yet to see compelling evidence.
^yeah, listen to Todd, he knows what's up.
I already miss my high school.
Actually, I even miss junior high school.
This phase of my life is already over. It's like I'm going through a quarter life crisis.
The goal of a scientist is to test hypotheses using the scientific method, not to piece science together to try to prove that a God exists.
By your logic, should people that know there to be a God also never be scientists?
The other night I was sleeping over at my girlfriends house and I had a dream that I cheated on her with one of my former crushes. After I told her, she flipped shit and told me that she also had a dream about cheating on me, but only because I had cheated on her in her dream. Is this just a coincidence or should I be worried about something happening?
I don't mind about not getting or giving head, it would be nice but it doesn't bother me too much. I was more asking about how to make her come without head.
In a bit of a predicament....
Recently split up with my gf a few weeks ago and been speaking to other girls etc, theres one who's pretty interested in some hanky panky but im away to be 23 and shes only just 17...
Too young? Feels a bit weird but she is "legal" as far as the law goes... just I dont know!