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There definitely are other answers.
Telling someone to drink as advice to get over something is the stupidest thing I've ever heard. It's just a form of escapism and doesn't help with anything, especially when this guy has explicitly said he has emotional issues.
Ok so if there's a girl I don't talk to, but I see her in the hallways without saying anything, and I want to get to know her. Would it be awkward to just randomly add her on Facebook and start talking to her that way or should I wait for the right moment in person?
I'm sorry, what ? Are you serious ?
Or she's a cold hearted bitch looking to string him along just for fun.
Ive talked about mixed signals before. Heres the deal now.
Ive tried talking to her now and then at work or on facebook chat but it always feels like im making an effort and if i stop talking she wouldn't continue
She asked me to go see some band with her , asked if ill be around some weekends , asked if i missed her bla bla bla
It's all very confusing, she likes me but doesn't like talking to me?..
So, the turnoffs we've got so far are:
- Being slutty.
- High maintenance.
- Talking too much
- Bad kisser.
- Being too fake physically
Let's hear some more, I wanted to post it in the pit via poll to see what everyone things is the worst. One of the ones I consider to be a big turnoff is if they don't know how to handle their alcohol. Another one is smoking cigarettes, but I think that's a pretty common one.
Alright, story incoming:
Because I didn't want to go out to a bar or hang around town with her and her friends who I barely know, I explained this to her and she seemed fine with this.
Have to say I don't understand that I mean if I get a notification that someone has messaged me I will always check it and I would reply if I had the time which she it appears did if she was able to share youtube videos and post status updates.
Don't think she said that she would be busy she finished quite early for Christmas hence why I thought we'd be able to talk more but anyway. Going to leave it and see if she comes back online/texts me once she gets credit.
Ok so this girl I know really likes me and has been dropping loads of hints and I like her back but now she's asked me to be her +1 to this party. Now it'd be really cool to go and everything but I've never been in a relationship or anything before so I'm not really sure I'm ready? I didn't want to offend or anything so I've said that I'll go but I'm still kind of unsure about it. Am I making things worse for myself of should I just go for it and try to enjoy myself?
I appreciate these posts, but I still don't think the real differences between these parties are as minuscule as you claim them to be. Just take the US budget deficit as an example.
^I'm sorry but it no way "pretty much summed it up". Now please, pleeaase don't make me feel ashamed to share the same nationality with you... I beg you. :P
Hey RT. I recently started dating this girl. I'm an undergrad (18), and she's a grad student (22). The thing is, she grew up in China and is still a virgin (I'm not). So while I feel it's a natural part of a relationship, she admits that her body wants it, but due to her upbringing, there is something that makes her hold back at least for now. She has indicated that she will probably be ready in a few months.
I don't it magically happening though. Is there something I should do to somehow gradually push her in that direction? Also, I'm not at all familiar with Chinese culture (I'm ethnically Indian, but I grew up in the US, so that's the culture I identify with most ).
Here's one! Me and this girl were really good friends at my old school. I changed schools last year and stopped talking to alot of people. We have started talking again and we are getting fairly close, I've been out with her pretty much every weekend for the past five weeks and I want to ask her out.
I'm not sure wether it's a good idea to ask her out as she drinks alot. We're both 16 and I don't drink and don't really want to.
As well as all this I'm sort of worried that I've been friendzoned as I'm the sort of guy who gets friendzoned by everyone and doesn't try to get out of it.
So is it a good idea to ask her out? Any help is appreciated.
He's taking pride in self responsibility and passion to better himself. Someday with his mindset, he'll be in a better position in life probably.
Have you ever seen the movie "pursuit of happyness"? If you haven't I suggest it, it is a inspiring movie based on a real person. After you see the movie, I hope you would say, " that guy deserves to be rich".
no s**t man she's really intimidating for me. She DID like me once, she told me in person but damn she doesn't have to agree to go out with me and that's what puts me down
I saw her today and dammit I couldn't even say Hi!!!
If I can't say hi how am I gonna ask her out!?
The impression I'm getting from all this is that Facebook chat IS actually an acceptable place to start talking to the mysterious lass in question. What makes this different from, say, how MSN used to be? Never talk to girls on msn bla bla bla.
Long time lurker, first time poster.
Woah, woah. Hold the phone. I don't think I'm completely undesirable, I've just never made much of an effort to make things happen.
What I'm wondering now, do I ask her out on a date? Be more subtle? Cause a situation where I can go in for a kiss (I've actually done this once, but I'm not sure how...)
Why waste my time going to the gym when I like how I look now?
Tricky as in awkward.
No offence Dayman, because I'm not exactly in a position to criticize. But becoming an extrovert and hitting the gym seem kind of stupid unnecessary just for getting a girlfriend. I'm not looking to become a pickup artist here.
Explain like I'm 5. How do I flirt without being creepy?
I guess no advice? I guess I'll make a tl;dr
There's a girl I like. Ended up friend zoned. I'm trying to get out of the friend zone. A dance is coming up that i can't go to. I fear if i stop talking to her for a bit to start over without the friend zone, i may lose her to whoever asks her to the dance. What should I do?
Dude, I've been thinking the same exact thing this whole time but I could never bring myself to just stop being her friend :/
We've been friends for years before we started dating. I dont wanna lose her but i also dont think she should get that nose ring. There's gotta be a way to convince her without causing too much trouble
I'm disgusted with myself.
I'm in serious need of a relationship, I've never wanted one more in my life. And today I missed the prefect oppertunity to talk to that danish chick I've had my eye on.
I really don't kno what's wrong with me. I usually have no problems talking to chicks but I've noticed I havn't seriously talked to a single woman this year since school started. I'm angry at myself and I don't know why I'm having so much trouble. I've scouted out several women who would be easy to talk to but for some reason I spend more time scouting them out than i do talking to them and I'm enraged at myself for letting two whole weeks go by without seriously talking to any women.
Is there something wrong with me?
that does seem to make sense indeed, but from what i've read on here you have to pretend like you don't give a shit anymore to win someone back around because knowing they have you in the bag devalues your attention .. hmm. what would you do in my situation? do you think i should just be like:
'i'm still into you and wouldn't refuse a chance to give something casual a go again, but if we're done, i'd like to keep as much as distance as possible so i can get past this.'?
the other option i guess is just 'play it cool' and not bring anything up. i confess i kind of ****ed up the first month or so with ultimatums and nagging so bring it up is kind of a cringey place to go because she'll be like 'oh no here we go again'. but i haven't contacted her or gone dramallama mode in about 2 months now. so yeh. i guess i'm just thinking out loud. it is quite therapeutic haha
i find it a shame that you only seek advice once you've messed everything up and all it does is point out how and where you messed it all up. i guess there's no denying it is useful in the long run though, even though it just makes you feel like an ass after reading how badly you played it. they should scrap sex ed in schools i think and get you or vad in to teach people how to handle relationships
i stated that too man but it doesn't seem to make her take it any better.
i know i keep banging on about my shit in here but seeing as it's not that busy tonight i thought why not haha
the reaction i'm getting is that i'm being really dramatic and harsh and being too drastic and childish. meh. even when i explain completely why. and when i explain to her how i'll just end up going for her again she doesn't seem bothered, as if it wouldn't be an issue.
i'm just kinda starting to freak a bit now. i've been anticipating this whole 'round 2' thing happening for a while now (moving back in to same flat as ex who split with over summer break).
i think it's added an odd twist on my situation .. as both of us know this isn't over by a long shot .. we know we're going to end up back together, if only in the physical living sense come the 16th .. gah. the closer the date gets the more tense i feel and i have no idea what seeing eachother in person for the first time in 3 months will do to me emotionally.
and this whole cut contact idea is kind of shit on too. like, do i tell her straight i don't want her hanging around me or coming out on night outs with me or do i just lie and make excuses for shit?
One more thing, heres the kicker, im gonna have to call her, cuz i cant drive, and shes two years older than me, but she knows all tht, so should i still do it?
Hey, i know this sounds really dumb, but what should i say, just, "hey ___, my schools homecoming is coming up, would you like to go with me?"
Sorry, i forgot to say that we go to different schools, shouldnthat make a big difference?
Alright, fellas(and ladies, but lets be serious, hearty laughter and so on),
i have a pretty bad dilemma right now, my schools homecoming is coming up and i need a date. There is this one girl i was "talking" with not long ago, but that kind of ended due to different things.
But anyways, we dont really talk too much anymore, and i saw her the other day and she seemed to not think of me badly or anything. Im thinking about just calling her up, kind of out of the blue, and just asking her to be my date, but i dont want to be a "ew, creepy" type of thing. I'm hoping it'll be a "yes, id love to!" type thing.
Im really beating myself up over this, so if someone could help me out, thatvwould be cool. And i have about 3 weeks to ask, if that helps.
Okay. I think I can do this.
I'm sorry for everything, really. Things are just so so ****ed right the **** up right now. I'm heart broken. We had plans for her to move here in May.
What do I do about the things I've given her? I gave her a ring. It was 400 dollars. There's no ****ing way I'm losing that.
How do I find happiness and confidence when I've never, ever had it?
I just want things to be okay again.
@blesseddead But what if I can make things better and she takes me back?
I'm torn. I want to end it with her and get on with life, but I don't because I'd have no one, and I still love her.
But I've given so much in this relationship. I don't want it to be all for nothing.
I'm being very stubborn, I know. I realize everything you guys are saying, and I'm scared. Tomorrow, we are gonna talk one last time, and she's having a bit of time to sort everything out with her feelings, about the things I've done to her.
I'm scared to say it's over. She's the thing I look forward to everyday.
Find your own happiness and the women will come naturally.
That is the truth
But I love her. Literally, my goal is life is to die with someone I love, while having a family. I wanted to start a family with her. How can I just leave someone I love? There is no one else.