Writing Songs & Lyrics Based On Experiences

Writing songs and lyrics based on your own experiences is a great way to write any type of music. This is a way that works for me whether I'm writing poetry, songs, or just individual lyrics.

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Ok, there are a few different aspects of writing I noticed while reading friend's lyrics and my own. I first realized that everybody has a certain style of writing. I know this is a pretty obvious statement, but then I thought about what caused different styles of writing. My theory is that certain style of writing first depends on what style of music you like. Obviously if you like punk rock, you are most likely to be writing lyrics to a punk rock tune. The second thing your style depends on is whether you're a guy, or a girl. To be honest, girls ARE more emotional than guys are. Sorry my fellow ladies but you know this is true. If writing feelings about a recent break-up, a guy's point of view would tend to have more anger than sadness, like a girl's lyrics may. (But luckily today, the genre "emo", short for emotional, has emerged. Male artists all over are able to express their feelings of sorrow and heartbreak through this genre.) The last thing I advise you to know and remember is that my song writing technique is truly spiritual. In other words, using my technique, a song will turn out to be just a piece of one's truest feelings, so don't even try to write a song in a room full of people. The best thing to do is to go to a place, alone, where you feel most comfortable. For most, this would be their bedroom, but for some who share a bedroom, the most comfortable place may be the bathroom, with locked doors. What ever floats your boat will work. The purpose for this is that a relaxed environment provides a place where it is easy to connect with your-self. Only you know your deepest secrets, and your truest feelings. Which means only you can write a unique song which is based on your feelings, thoughts, opinions, and point of views. After you have followed what I recommended to you, it is time to follow the lesson. To tell you the truth, the advice I gave you above is the lesson itself, which means we are almost done! 8^D! In the rest of the lesson, I would like to tell you how to write from your personal experiences, and give you some ideas. If you are having trouble figuring out what to write about, don't get frustrated. Start with ideas that you feel strongly about. Many amazing songs and lyrics can come from: a recent boyfriend/girlfriend break-up, a recent death in the family, moving away from home, a fight between you and your parents or a best friend, a divorce between your parents, or just feeling down. Well, since I gave you some ideas to think about, now I'll tell you how to write songs and lyrics based on your experience. This part is quite easy. First, clear your head of everything except that experience, whether it is good or bad. This should be easy to do, if you followed my advice and you're alone in a comfortable room. The next thing you want to do is start writing down everything you are feeling inside about your experience. Write down your emotion about it, what you think of it, why it makes you feel that way, and anything that pops into your head. Doing this could even open your mind to feelings you didn't realize you felt. That is why this is good to do when you're under stress, it relieves a lot of negative feelings, even the ones stuck inside of you that you couldn't see. After a few or more pages, reread what you wrote down. Look at that sheet, and say hello to the rough draft of your song! Now all you have to do is put things together. Here is an example: This is the actual list of emotions that I wrote after Brian broke up with me: I lived off your love for so long, that when you left me, it felt like nothing was holding me from falling every day. The hardest thing to see is the love of your life, leave you to chase after a girl who is already taken. I will always keep this letter because there will be a time I will have to look back and see how I got through the hardest thing that I've ever had to overcome in life. Some day I will look back at this letter with pride as I say, 'Wow, it was me who made it through that?!? Jeez, I can make it through anything' From this list of feelings came the lyrics to my first song... I used to think that I could never live without your love. But with time I realized I'd rise above. What I use today, Is all the heartbreak that you gave, To get over the things that keep me down. And now I know I'll never have to frown. I changed it up a bit and added a tune to it since I wrote it, but for my first lyrics, I'd say that it's not all that bad right? Well Now that I have given you some advice and a few examples try my way out! It may seem like a lot, but you'll realize that it's a lot easier than it seems. In fact it's the easiest technique I've ever used! Let me know how it goes for you!

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    Cobainliveson
    HEY ya that was an ok article and those techniques are good n' all, but im sorry that song is lame!! It has to much crappy rhyming. Like that frown part, not everything has to rhyme, im sorry but that part was really lame!!everything else is good tho
    Nacho2006
    that was really helpful, and yeah, guys get emotional too, and now we're learning to express that with sorrow rather than waling and anger.
    flobotone
    tanks so much you have realy helped me relise a fue new things about my experiences and helped me write a nice slow song as a apology thanks
    Eddy1612
    Hey don't every stereotype guys as not emotional cos it doesn't work that way. Many guys are emotional it's just they either find it hard to write their feelings clearly or they don't want other people to look at it and judge them!
    Td_Nights
    Personally,i write about the sometimes awkwardly placed sarrows in my life,but other than that,i often pass "spacing out" and feel as if i sometimes lose hold on reality at points,in which i can write about nature in an extravagant way.I don't know if that's a plus or a minus...
    Td_Nights
    Oh and i live in a smaller town,so with the street lights on at night i just walk around backstreets and the main roads with paper and pens,waiting for what comes to me.
    pgfan92
    A great band, Genesis, did many amazing songs based on historical influences, yet did draw from their personal lives, however, it was well hidden. I'm talking about 70s Genesis, to those who know of the band.
    red_hots_fan
    That is some good damn advice there! I haven't tried it yet but I'll tell you how i went when i try it. I absolutely suck at writing lyrics but I'm really good at writing music! I'm open to all ideas bout how to write lyrics as I have always wanted to write my own song! Once again thats really good advice! Thanks!
    Artix
    GOD DAMMIT Y DO U PPL HATE PPL IF U THINK THEY'RE EMO AND THEY ARENT EMO THE MUSIC IS DUMASSES (EMO MUSIC RAWKS!!!)
    Oasis-fanatic
    Artix wrote: GOD DAMMIT Y DO U PPL HATE PPL IF U THINK THEY'RE EMO AND THEY ARENT EMO THE MUSIC IS DUMASSES (EMO MUSIC RAWKS!!!)
    go to hell
    ihatethisgame
    I actually have one more thing to say.....the lyrics didnt have to be about anything in the days of good music becuase the guitar was sweet so it didnt really matter, but today u can hardly EVER come up with a GOOD guitarist.
    gonzaw
    I think writting lyrics doesn't always have to be about feelings, or people, or depresion, etc. cause that's what everyone is doing nowadays, so in a way it doesn't make you fell so special about your songwritting. Writting lyrics has limitless boundaries, so you don't have to get limited in certain points, you can write about anything (a city, a math problem, or even a duck) but you have to do in your special way, you can even write about a topic thinking about another one, conecting both in your lyrics.
    woodlandsclose
    this is a good lesson but gonzaw u are correct man
    gonzaw wrote: I think writting lyrics doesn't always have to be about feelings, or people, or depresion, etc. cause that's what everyone is doing nowadays, so in a way it doesn't make you fell so special about your songwritting. Writting lyrics has limitless boundaries, so you don't have to get limited in certain points, you can write about anything (a city, a math problem, or even a duck) but you have to do in your special way, you can even write about a topic thinking about another one, conecting both in your lyrics.
    NandoD
    I think this article is pretty inclusive with political lyrics or "happy" lyrics or whatever you want to write really. See the point is that you write down everything you think and then just pick the best lines, yes it's an old technique but not everyone knows it and if you find it doesn't work for you it's only because you haven't practiced enough. This is pretty much how I write my lyrics and I've gotten much better over time.
    hystericmonkey
    this is defenitly the best way of writing lyrics but the hardest part is writing the music to go with it.
    minefreakx9
    Oasis-fanatic wrote: Artix wrote: GOD DAMMIT Y DO U PPL HATE PPL IF U THINK THEY'RE EMO AND THEY ARENT EMO THE MUSIC IS DUMASSES (EMO MUSIC RAWKS!!!) go to hell
    roflmao i agree with this guy . . .
    minefreakx9
    minefreakx9 wrote: Oasis-fanatic wrote: Artix wrote: GOD DAMMIT Y DO U PPL HATE PPL IF U THINK THEY'RE EMO AND THEY ARENT EMO THE MUSIC IS DUMASSES (EMO MUSIC RAWKS!!!) Oasis-fanatic wrote: go to hell
    roflmao i agree with this guy . . .
    Gunsandammo90
    this actually kinda helps, i'm thirteen and a bad lyricist. i'm in the middle of writing a song i got inspired after see Pirates of the Carribian 3 here's what i got, i'm trying to put a fun,punk feeling to it: Life of a pirate Yar matties I be a pirate and proud of it Well Theres Sailing all the way to the setting sun Fighting with the boys for the last barrel of rum Drinking up all that up until all your brains are numb Oh yes The life of a pirate is for me A pirate one day I shall be Id be taking my crew straight into town And go pick up a las I just found
    rising_against
    there are alot of aspects to songwritting, u have missed out alot of them, and for people reading, this is ONE method or writting songs, i wood rely on this for every song u write. and really, wot u sed is right, style is important, as if we all had the same methods of songwritting, music would be pretty boring. some of the aspects of songwritting in this article are ok, would help more newcomers to songwritting. using views/opinions/situations that you feel strongly about it is a gr8 idea (not always nessisary), yet i dnt beleive lyrics must come from negative experiences in life such as PEOPLE DYING?! there are many songs written from the things in life which make people fulfilled, like the love of there life, traveling the word, things that they may acheive. as well as this, song writting duznt nessisarily have to be so direct with all the aspects of the situation, good idea's for lyric writting metaphors or taking on a different persona... for example: if u feel u are trying to live up to every1s expectations, u dnt have to say that in ur song word for word, u could take on a new persona, such as in the song Superman by Five For Fighting.
    darkiii
    the hardest problem is to find a place where you feel safe and relax.. and where you can leave your feelings freely there..
    doomnight
    I tried your way of writing songs. I could only write about one verse. I've found that if I listen to some songs that I don't know the lyrics to, then I start producing lyrics effectively. And after about 10 minutes of using your technique and listening to music at the same time, I've got myself a page and a half xD Thanks for sparking my song ideas.
    Robbertto
    i dont really like emo music because it always gets you down (plus i dont like the guitars in all of the songs ive heard). i like upbeat rock and happy lyrics because they almost always get you in a good mood. plus metal is always fun lol well thats just my opinion
    iggy pop
    A girlfriend of mine wrote a song 4 my band once. it sucked donkey kong. to unreal. peace out y'll
    claptonisgod21
    cheers was gud helped me loads have had trouble gettin my emotions into a song but this really helped. thanx
    Amy2201
    Hiya this was quite helpful but it kind of stated the obvious. But its a good article and gives good advice so i applaud u! lol! and all of u sayin its stupid and worthless, all i have to say to u is shhhh run home little child, tell ur mother about ur issues dont take it out on innocent people who are tring to help. well done to the author
    iggy pop
    Songs can be about anything. In my band i wrote a song in german about Bilbo Baggins
    theghostofme
    can i just say why is everyone dumping on the writer?? so some of you may think this lesson thingy is total crap, but some of us dont'. so next time, keep your opinions to yourself. and btw, anyone who thinks emos are stupid and sing about meaningless crap you're wrong. we sing about things that matter to us, and if you don't understand that then you seriously need a life. i think this article is amazing, and if you think you could do better, you should write one of your own instead of critisizing innocent peoples work.
    tafxkz
    [quote]WhoanessDude wrote: How come female writers suck? Janis Jop is a great song writer
    patmann3
    can i just say why is everyone dumping on the writer?? so some of you may think this lesson thingy is total crap, but some of us dont'. so next time, keep your opinions to yourself. and btw, anyone who thinks emos are stupid and sing about meaningless crap you're wrong. we sing about things that matter to us, and if you don't understand that then you seriously need a life. i think this article is amazing, and if you think you could do better, you should write one of your own instead of critisizing innocent peoples work.
    I agree totally!!
    doomnight
    Thanks Xtreme. But all the lines I write seem to be the same and have "day" or "away" on the end. Its really annoying. There's probably some song minorly stuck in my head.
    nadialeatz_4272
    so why didn't you say anything about writing songs about something happy?? All of your examples are sad. xx
    fretmaster01
    this helps but..
    nadialeatz_4272 wrote: so why didn't you say anything about writing songs about something happy?? All of your examples are sad. xx
    what about the happy ones?
    fretmaster01
    wait... lemme answer that question... blaR! well.. i think all you do is think about the good experiences instead of the bad ones.. then you can use it and also apply these advices, except switch the emotional feeling around.. i guess...
    I_Dont_Know
    memories are a good gateway for writing. and you do need a hook like The world is a vampire
    Random dude
    or u could write about something about something possitive insted of only writing about the bad things that happen to u.....
    stukes 04
    k first off i have a question. someone up there said you have to have a good hook or chorus or something to have a good song. But i would have to disagree. Bob Dylan, the greatest writer of all time, didn't use a chorus/hookin many of his songs. Especially if your telling a story in your song. it's just like in a tv show when u wanna get to the end to see what happens but you keep getting those commercials that interupt. I agree it is still good to have a ctachy chorus but it is not a prerequisite to a good song. and second. Why do people knock on what other people like. Personally i'm not a fan of emo, )i like old rock and newer stuff like audioslave and stuff), but if a guy likes emo than let him listen to it. the world would be a better place if we didn't classify music into different names. Because the truth is everyone likes certain songs that they don't want other people to know they like. For ex. I don't mind the song sexy back by justin timberlake b/c its got a good beat and my g/f likes to grind to it. i dunno all i have to say is that we should stop beaking the people who like *emo*. Just becuse they listen to it doesn't mean you have to. Anyway, about the writing everyone here left pretty helpful advice because the truth is different things work for different people. Personally, i usually just think about something i feel strongly about until i get pissed off, happy, or sad about it an then write down what i'm thinkin. it doesn't have to ryhme or make sense to anyone else for that matter because writing is an expression of your own thoughts and it doesn't matter if anyone else gets it or not.
    ihatethisgame
    Wat is this? Last time i checked rock wasnt about feelings....it wasnt really about anything and thats y people like the older bands these days becuase today rock SUCKS becuase of all the feelings that r sopposed to be in country and pop music...so next time u find urself writing a rock song like that remember that it will suck.(and also that song u wrote was horrible expecially those rhymes)
    doomnight
    ihatethisgame... Just saying, It could've helped if some of the old rockers went to school, maybe they WOULD have the brains ABOUT something. Because, as you said, rock wasn't really about anything. And on this subject, its spelt especially.
    xxemo_kittyxx
    great article, its cool how you mentioned that it's hard to write in a room full of people-because it really is.
    the tnt men
    I im having a problem finding a spot to write music I live in a town its Junee they is lots of people ever way. my house is loud with music all the time if you live in Junee or no a place with no people please tell me at zzz_nick@hotmail.com ...and the article is good the best
    smalltimehero
    ok, this article and almost every comment makes me sick! first off...emo! this means someone expressing there emotions, erm.....thats every songwriter of the last 50yrs. thats what song writing is. emo is a made up term that pigeon holes artists who are doing nothing that writers before them haven't already done. secondly, to say that guy's cant express themselves as well as women is a relationship term not a writing one. Im not being sexist but if you think of successful songwriters of the last 50yrs men out number women but about 20 to 1 if not more. I dont know why but its true. So saying men dont get there feelings out as well as women in writing is an absoulte joke...XD! Last of all, if your wanting to write something original instead of the same poor arse subjects and cheesey lines, i have two words for you....Bob Dylan. You dont have to like the guys music or even his lyrics, but get his first 6 or 7 albums and listen to how he deliver's his words, it does'nt sound dated 40 years on. Jim morrison is another good example. Also listen to Tupac for telling stories. again, you dont have to be into hip-hop, just listen to the man's lyrics. Hope that helps...
    oakn
    a recent boyfriend/girlfriend break-up, a recent death in the family, moving away from home, a fight between you and your parents or a best friend, a divorce between your parents, or just feeling down.
    You know there's good feelings to. Like: *Recently got a girlfriend/boyfriend. *You won a competition. *You or someone close got rid of their drug addiction. *Just something that makes you happy like, summer, messin' around with your friends...