Getting Permission To Buying Gear

A practical guide for GAS sufferers whose loved ones just don't understand why they must buy that next piece.

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Getting Permission to Buy Your Gear: A Practical Guide for Guitar Addicts Most of us suffer from various degrees of GAS (Gear Acquisition Syndrome) and, like any itch, you'll have to scratch it eventually. Unless your significant other is afflicted with the same issue you'll find that they aren't always very supportive of your habit,' telling you to spend it on things they care about instead. Don't let them fool you into believing they have your best interests at heart. You are an axe-slinging fiend who deserves a different color for each room of the house! This is a guide for pathetic guys (and gals) like me who have to find a way to convince their partner to let them take home that new beauty. Obviously this applies to anyone whose parents or guardians are curbing their expenditures as well. Step One: Identify the Problem If a new acquisition is on the horizon and you're getting heat from your partner, try to find out what exactly the problem is. If you share your finances and/or you're already in rough shape with your bills, the answer should be fairly clear: It probably isn't a good idea until you can afford it. On the other hand, sometimes when they complain they're hinting that they would rather you spend your money elsewhere. This could be stemmed from the fact that they simple aren't interested in guitar gear and can't appreciate updates to your rig. It could also point to a gift they were hoping you'd purchase them or funds you would save towards a trip. The goal here is to learn where they're coming from so that you can make any necessary adjustments to your plans and move forward with getting that shiny new axe through common-law customs, if you will. Step Two: Explain the Benefits Once you've addressed the problem and decided to move ahead, it's time to spell out why you should be buying it. Just saying you want it because it's gorgeous and awesome isn't really going to make your case. Even saying it just sounds better or feels right won't help. This is where you have to get practical and justify your purchase order. Are you in a band? You have many advantages here by pointing to flaws in your equipment. Maybe you need a backup or another guitar for alternate tunings? Perhaps finally having that single coil strat is going to round out your tonal pallet after sitting on five Les Pauls? And don't forget that if any gear is broken or hinders you from standing out in the live mix it's going to need to be replaced or updated. If you're recording, there's no reason you can't justify an expansion in pedals or amplifiers. If the studio doesn't have it, what's going to provide that trademark sound? Without the finishing touches of that special chorus pedal, is that outro on Track 4 going to leap off the album? This is your career, after all! While not always the best solution, the significant other will respond well to any propositions of the sale of your old equipment. This diminishes the cash being moved and makes the purchase seem smaller than it is. If you particularly care about that vintage acoustic I'd recommend you just hold on to it instead of selling it and regretting it later on for whatever reason. Something I've done is explain that the new song I wrote for them just doesn't sound as good without the help of this new piece of equipment. It's always a lie, but the eyes light up. But it's like buying things on credit you'll have to pay that off as soon as you get it in your hands. I hope you're good with lyrics! Hopefully you've made your case at this point and they can understand that you'll be much happier with the new gear. If everything up to this point has failed, it's time to play hardball. Last Resort: Wear em Down or Just Do It Talk about the gear day and night. Have sound samples looping on YouTube. Leave open reviews on the coffee table. Unleash the hounds on this one! You don't need to beg. Eventually they're going to get really sick of you dropping the hints, and more often than not they'll decide it's more important for you to get what you want instead of daydreaming about it. If you're impatient or you don't think they'll ever give in, you can just run out and get it with the understanding that you'll suffer a short period of chastising and screaming, or you can take advantage of that stockpile and make it work for you. There's an old trick that collectors will use to get by: Get a new case for the guitar while you're at it, but have a buddy hold onto to the guitar for a couple weeks. Show your loved ones the fancy new empty case and how it fits your guitars so well. Eventually you can bring the new guitar home in the decoy case and they may just assume you've had that one for a while. See why this is only useful for collectors? You have to already have more guitars than they can keep track of! Conclusion GAS is a condition that often goes under appreciated by those who love you. You must build a support network of trusted guitar techs, sales personnel, and like-minded individuals who will truly understand why you need just one more 12-string or a second pedalboard. You are not alone. They will eventually forgive you.

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    richjguitar
    smokedhamtaro wrote: I'm only 18 and still living at home, so i have to justify my spending to my mum. Lol, i hid my jackson RR3 under my bed for about a month. I told her that it was on 3 month layby. So i would pick it up in maybe two months instead of spending 1500 NZD on it in a day.
    hahaha i am 19 and have to justify too now how can i hide a new 100W amp under my bed
    Tijmenb
    sewoo55 wrote: I have been playing with 1 guitar, 1 amp, for 4 years. I don't have any pedals. jesus christ you guys really can't keep your pants up can ya?
    So then you are obviously very limited in what you can and can't do. I own an acoustic fender, semi-acoustic ibanez and a Gibson LP but still can't get every sound I'd like since I only have 1 amp (still gotta get me an acoustic amp) and 1 basic multi-effects pedal.
    Leather Sleeves
    I was a worried about how the wife would react to me getting a new guitar just days before our first baby was born, but I got it and she didn't seem as worried as even I was.
    bartzebrat
    Thank you for "brightning" my day! Wife Acceptance Factor sure can be painful but the longer you wait for buying stuff the less important you make it look like for your other half: if it's so darn important for you, how come you're waiting so long to get it?? Them gals don't linger so much to get that 120 euros tank top that will make them look good once a year... you nailed it! Still it's a bit disturbing to wonder if we're copromisisng or just acting as doormats...? ahhhh therapy here we come!!
    ikarian-pride
    My dad's a musician. He helped me pay for my Fender Tele Deluxe last month. When my mom first saw it, she thought i had modded an old guitar. Eventually, she found out and won't let me or my dad live it up. At least someone in my family understands my GAS
    lfcagger
    Finally got my parents to agree that I should get a Vypyr Tube 60 for Christmas if I pay half (I know it's early, but still) and I used this haha. Thanks.
    xevious1
    i got a guitar and an amp. i plug it in and i dont need to spend thousands at guitar center. although the signature james hetfield esp would be nice haha
    jungkvist
    jungkvist: Get her angry enough, and Anything Goes! And, when Anything Goes, Evyerthing Goes...Good Bye Gear! Parents: Learn some Bach! Mom & Dad will run to the neighbors and Brag! The Wife: How much wiggle room do you have you Banked, since the Last Time? If your are wondering, I sure do miss my Strat Plus!
    eyalcisv
    There's a simple solution. If it's your money, you can do whatever you want with it, and they can **** off. Also, in most cases they won't tell the difference if you got yourself a new distortion pedal, or even an amp.
    irollemphat
    sjones wrote: Learning to make use of the gear you have, and know it's capabilities and limitations, is key.
    then buy a bunch of other stuff to break your old stuff's limitations...i might have to hit up GC on the way home today
    RockRolla
    Just buy it,it's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.Besides you'll have the gear you want and she can't stay mad forever.What is she going to do withold sex or something,I've been married 15 years,not gettin much anyway!!!
    BillR87
    Or you could make your own decisions instead of letting others tell you what to do no offense but relationships where one half doesnt support the other in what you quoted as "This is your career, after all!" are the relationships that usually dont work out in the long run I do like you quote 'You must build a support network of trusted guitar techs, sales personnel, and like-minded individuals who will truly understand why you need just one more 12-string or a second pedalboard.' musicians are happiest around other musicians trust me on that But yeah obviously spend whats in your budget of course bills still have to be paid ae haha
    smokedhamtaro
    I'm only 18 and still living at home, so i have to justify my spending to my mum. Lol, i hid my jackson RR3 under my bed for about a month. I told her that it was on 3 month layby. So i would pick it up in maybe two months instead of spending 1500 NZD on it in a day.
    sewoo55
    I have been playing with 1 guitar, 1 amp, for 4 years. I don't have any pedals. jesus christ you guys really can't keep your pants up can ya?
    PsiGuy60
    sjones wrote: Learning to make use of the gear you have, and know it's capabilities and limitations, is key.
    This.
    sjones
    Learning to make use of the gear you have, and know it's capabilities and limitations, is key.
    elvor0
    sewoo55 wrote: I have been playing with 1 guitar, 1 amp, for 4 years. I don't have any pedals. jesus christ you guys really can't keep your pants up can ya?
    Different guitars sound different, different amps sound different. It's doesn't sound too good playing Blues or Softer rock on an EMG loaded guitar, or an amp with awful cleans when you're trying to play clean stuff.
    Keiraw
    I've found the best way is to make a system of how much gear you're allowed to have. Start out with a number equal to your current amount of gear. Every time you do something really nice (and I mean really nice) for your significant other, than the total amount of gear you can have increases. Surprise getaway for her/his birthday equals a new guitar or amp for you when you get back (as long as you can still afford it). Otherwise you've got to sell or trade to work within your current gear limit. In this case I was only considering gear to be the guitars or amps as those usually are the big ticket items. The system can be manipulated for pedals, mics, etc though.