Frances Bean Cobain to Lana Del Rey: 'Death of Young Musicians Isn't Something to Romanticize'

"I'll never know my father because he died young and it becomes a desirable feat because people like you think it's 'cool,'" Frances adds.

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Following Lana Del Rey's comments about wishing she was already dead while discussing her musical heroes Kurt Cobain and Amy Winehouse, Nirvana frontman's daughter Frances Bean Cobain addressed the singer via Twitter.

In a series of tweets, Frances told Lana that romanticizing about the death of young musicians isn't something "cool."

"The death of young musicians isn't something to romanticize," she said. "I'll never know my father because he died young and it becomes a desirable feat because people like u think it's 'cool.'

"Well, it's f--king not," Cobain added. "Embrace life, because u only get one life. The people you mentioned wasted that life. Don't be one of those people. You're too talented to waste it away."

Finally, Frances pointed out that her post shouldn't be interpreted as an attack, saying, "I'm not attacking anyone. I have no animosity towards Lana, I was just trying to put things in perspective from personal experience."

In the original Guardian interview, Del Rey stated, "I wish I was dead already. I don't want to have to keep doing this. But I am. That's just how I feel. If it wasn't that way, then I wouldn't say it. I would be scared if I knew [death] was coming, but..."

@LanaDelRey the death of young musicians isn't something to romanticize (cont)

- Frances Bean Cobain (@alka_seltzer666) June 23, 2014

@LanaDelRey I'll never know my father because he died young & it becomes a desirable feat because ppl like u think it's "cool"(cont)

- Frances Bean Cobain (@alka_seltzer666) June 23, 2014

@LanaDelRey Well, it's fucking not. Embrace life, because u only get one life. The ppl u mentioned wasted that life.Don't be 1 of those ppl

- Frances Bean Cobain (@alka_seltzer666) June 23, 2014

@LanaDelRey ur too talented to waste it away.

- Frances Bean Cobain (@alka_seltzer666) June 23, 2014

 

@alka_seltzer666 it's all good. He was asking me a lot a out your dad I said I liked him because he was talented not because he died young-

- Lana Del Rey (@LanaDelRey) June 23, 2014

I'm not attacking anyone. I have no animosity towards Lana, I was just trying to put things in perspective from personal experience.

- Frances Bean Cobain (@alka_seltzer666) June 23, 2014

@alka_seltzer666 it's all good. He was asking me a lot a out your dad I said I liked him because he was talented not because he died young-

— Lana Del Rey (@LanaDelRey) June 23, 2014

@alka_seltzer666 the other half of what I said wasn't really related to the people he mentioned/ I don't find that part of music glam either

— Lana Del Rey (@LanaDelRey) June 23, 2014

72 comments sorted by best / new / date

    Crofty89
    So she publicly says "I wish I was dead" and no one thinks "maybe she needs help"?
    TheLiberation
    I'm wondering how much of this is honest and how much is just trying to maintain her "dark" and "depressive" image, but if true, then definitely agreed.
    gorkyporky
    I'd bone her to death, oh yeeeee
    Mephaphil
    Yea, this is an issue. But to blame something she said on a reporter isn't cool. I suspect she just didn't articulate what she meant properly. Hopefully.
    mattjamesrenn
    yeah man, you aren't thinking in a general healthy way even if you say those things for image reasons. I remember being in that mind set and still do, takes a lot to get through.
    Dynamight
    Probably because people have enough sense to know you only wish for something if you can't directly make it happen, otherwise you're a liar.
    telephonebear
    didnt she just turn 28, so now that she missed the 27 club she might as well stick it out for another 50-60 years
    Oraznatac
    You go girl! The 27 club is not worth dying to become a member.
    GodzillaRAWRRR
    Does it really count if you do it voluntarily? (suicide)
    AlexGreat123
    Frances looks so much like her mum with a sprinkling of her dad it's weird. As to what she actually said. I agree with her. Everyone goes on about Kurt Cobain (and others) being awesome because he died young and there's his daughter who probably doesn't have a memory of him at all. You can romanticise the deaths of celebrities all you want but nobody really thinks of the lasting impact their deaths have on their loved ones.
    Pretelethal
    "Frances looks so much like her mum with a sprinkling of her dad it's weird." Genetics. It's not weird.
    AlexGreat123
    Nah it's just I find her attractive yet I see Kurt Cobain's face a little bit which is what I find weird
    Brandon1993
    At least she didn't get any of her mom's crazy or acts like a complete idiot just for attention....
    ounceler
    But thank god she got her mom's sharp tongue and wit. I bet that would have made Kurt proud. I like how she sticks it to these popular faces on twitter every now and then. (remember the kendall jenner thing?)
    seance
    Every girl resembles her father to some degree. Are you afraid you think you're gay or something if you're attracted to a girl who looks like her dad? I think it's weird that you think it's weird...and that's weird.
    buddy1991
    I've never heard someone say Kurt Cobain was awesome because he died young. He was awesome for his music. It would be incredibly awesome if he was still alive and continued making music that people loved.
    cyclonus
    Apparently she claims the newspaper misquoted her or something. Either way, wanting to die young is just retarded
    Mephaphil
    She claims it, but when you hear the interview they literally just printed what she said. No leading, no back stabbing, she said that she doesn't like performing and sometimes wishes that she was dead and it was all over.She's a bit of a prick for saying that and for then blaming someone else for stupid shit that she said. http://www.theguardian.com/music/musicbl... http://www.theguardian.com/music/musicbl...
    Jacques Nel
    Didn't Kurt do exactly that? He wanted to get out of being famous. People walk around saying "I wish I was dead" all day long, she does it and people want to reprimand her for it.
    Mephaphil
    The guy was depressed, it wasn't just about not being famous. He appeared to dislike a lot about celebrity, but he was a serious drug addict with a lot of unresolved issues, and had made an album that he seemed to be repulsed by because of the way that it had become an anthem for jocks riding around in SUVs, as he once put it. If the girl is depressed and feels suicidal, that's one thing and she should get all the help she needs. But to then say you didn't mean it when you realise that you might not of meant it and to then blame it on the reporter is pretty bad.
    Lord_Doku
    But then many people look up to her, or think they should, so when she does it she's setting a bad example all of a sudden. Still, sounds like a lot of fuss over nothing.
    filipe26
    Kurt was a whole other thing. He was depressed, bipolar, and who knows what else. She is clearly not sane for saying it, but obviously she wants to call attention for herself (perhaps a bit histrionic?). Either way people who want to die die, don't say they want to.
    filipe26
    Sounds like those lame famous people who try and look like they're victims of their fame/success. If you don't like performing, just get another job or become a session musician/jingle composer.
    eddiehimself
    No, it's a disease. You don't call people with cancer or TB "Retarded", so why would you call someone with depression a retard?
    ounceler
    Because she's not depressed. If she was she wouldn't be saying this. Kurt was almost always defending himself in interviews saying how happy he was and how he was managing his depression. Those are the kinds of things depressed people say, she draws attention to it because she wants it to be her image. Perhaps you're the retarded if you cant see that.
    cyclonus
    Depression is not a disease, it's a state of mind. Cancer is a disease
    eddiehimself
    No it's not just a "state of mind." trust me, I've tried to be as positive as possible, but when you're in full-on anxiety mode, there is NOTHING you can think that will make it go away, except the thought of suicide. That is literally the only thing that will make the pain go away. I've started thinking a lot more positively in the last few months, but for me trying to be positive all the time just seems to make the anxiety worse. So don't ****ing sit there and tell me I just need to think more positively or any of that bullshit.
    whitebeaner
    If Kurt was alive he might be doing Superbowl halftime shows with Bruce Springsteen or infomercials for laxatives. 'with Activia, my poop is no longer hard as a rock' at least he'd still be alive.
    jackal0138
    Frances hit it dead on. It's good to know the problems her and her family has gone through hasn't warped her mind like a lot of other celebrities. Love her even more for that. Idk what Lana's back story is but she probably hasn't had to deal with some of the things Frances has
    yaronbeery
    you got to take your hat of to frances for her attitude, and positive thinking, willing to discuss something so private for the sake of another.
    Chickendirt
    so people start dissing her and giving her a hard time when she suggests that her death might be a good thing for her? I'm a fan of Lana, but she does need help. She isn't in a good place, you can feel it in the music
    Jacques Nel
    Death is a very touchy subject, some people admire death for a variety of reasons. If Lana wants to die at 27 let her die. There will always be a number of people who find romance in death, you're not going to change their minds with a twitter rant.
    ounceler
    Lana is clearly playing up her image. She probably was told to say stupid things like that from her advisers in marketing meetings. Frances saw right through her bullshit, and she can speak with authority on the subject.
    filipe26
    I don't know any of her songs, and for sure as an artist wouldn't miss her.
    NorCalLos
    Good for Frances. That's such a blowhardy thing to say. If you want to die, just die. Or maybe you'd feel better about yourself if you stopped acting like such an attention-monger.
    jackdude500
    "Too talented to waste it away" bear in mind she can't sing live and doesn't write her own songs
    iommi600
    Lana Del Rey comes across as a typical scene kid who likes to slice her own wrists every now and then just to fish for attention. Bores the shit out of me. Depression is ****ing serious. Half the kids out there who think that being depressed is a fashion statement wouldn't stand the pain if they were actually depressed.
    buddy1991
    Hurting yourself for any reason (including attention) is also a disorder that should be taken just as seriously as depression. Major Depression isn't the only mental disorder where these sort of acts are common.
    mattjamesrenn
    exactly, it's not a fashionable thing in reality. I'm less alert at work don't turn up to social things, lost friends and often bask in my own pathetic-ness. In reality when people know or assume you suffer it becomes awkward and you are seen as less or weak and to be honest it's the real truth.
    Benign94
    This is probably exactly what she wanted, "lana's so dark, lana needs help." Maybe she truly does but i call bullshit
    TheForthcoming1
    Amen Frances! Well said. Also I love her twitter page, Lana's as well though what she said about dying was rather dumb.
    what.you.doing.
    I liked where this gal was going until the last tweet saying "ur too talented to waste it away". Don't get me wrong, I don't want anyone to die here, but honestly, Lana has no real talent. My dog could produce a better album.
    Absurder22
    If Amy winehouse is your musical hero than yeah, you should probably just kill yourself now.
    Eissari
    Amy had great voice, maybe you should take your head out of your power ranger ass and show some respect.
    siamesedream777
    Well said Frances. And Lana del Rey has a great voice but i find most of her songs rather boring or similar all of them
    GenerationKILL
    You hear that people? Kurt Cobain's daughter basically just said what I've been saying for years: He wasted his life and talent by killing himself and doesn't need to be put on a pedestal.
    buddy1991
    No one puts Kurts suicide on a pedestal. People admire him for his talent. Is that hard to understand? I see these comments all the time about Kurt and as a Nirvana fan i find myself constantly explaining to non-fans that his suicide has nothing to do with the reason why people love their music. It was a tragic thing to happen, and that sucks, but it doesn't detract from the music in any way.
    grizzzzly_adams
    If it's tough just stop singing. Fall off the radar. People will move on and your life can be what you make of it. Jesus Fucking Christ.