Lita Ford Not Allowed To See Her Kids

Lita Ford has a song on her new album written to her kids but her former bandmate husband won't let them hear it.

Lita Ford Not Allowed To See Her Kids
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Lita Ford has a song on her new album written to her kids but her former bandmate husband won't let them hear it. "Living Like A Runaway" is her first record since splitting with Jim Gillette, a prominent force in her comeback release "Wicked Wonderland". She later said that album was too much about Gillette and not enough about her and now they've split up, her latest work is closer to the music she wants to create. But one track, called "Mother", is a personal message to her two sons with Gillette and Ford is worried they'll never be allowed to hear it. She tells: "My kids are with their dad. He brainwashed them and took them from me, telling them, "Oh, you don't want to go with Mommy. Mommy's bad." He put the entire weight of the divorce on my kids, which is the worst thing any parent could do to their child. "It's like losing your child to some sort of freak, like in the mall, or somebody hanging out in bushes or at a bus stop. You hear all these horror stories. Only, I know where they are that's the only difference." Talking about the track she wrote for her children, Ford says: "He won't let them hear it. He won't let them have anything to do with me. He won't let them look at any photographs. It's the worst thing that's ever happened in my life. "I wrote this song to tell them how much I love them, that I didn't mean for this to happen and it's not my fault. I didn't do this to them although they think I did." Ford says her older son James has a knack for guitar. She explains: "We did this tour in 2008. They didn't go to school I was their teacher. When we came back from these shows I was in the other room and I heard my guitar solos coming out. Firs thing I thought was, "They're listening to a tape or a performance on YouTube." But it was James he was playing my solos. I couldn't believe it. "I bought him a gold-top Gibson Les Paul for his tenth birthday. My ex-husband was saying, "He doesn't want that. You're buying that for yourself." And I said, "No, I'm buying it because he's going to play it." Sure enough, he picked it up and he was playing the solo to "Close My Eyes For Ever". It blew me away." Reflecting on her situation, Ford says the biggest lesson she's learned is: "If you ever get angry at your spouse, don't take it out on your kids. Keep them out of it. They don't need to know. Just let them be a kid." Thanks for the report to Classicrockmagazine.com.

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    tennesseehild
    I legitametly feel bad for her. Not sure the whole back story but I hope her kids dont get treated like Michael Jackson did with his controling father especially with her son having a gift for guitar.
    JFRules
    There has to be a reason why she can't see them? She could just go to court and get visitation rights??
    Zan595
    Why am I getting that "Courtney Love"-esque sense of crazy from this? There has to be more to it than that, if she was really innocent of doing anything, she could get visitation rights.
    Bati
    "They didnt go to school I was their teacher. When we came back from these shows I was in the other room and I heard my guitar solos coming out (...)It was James he was playing my solos. I couldnt believe it". Hahah sure, big surprise. I can picture her classes: "Ok Jamas, today on Math class we'll start with the basics: pentatonics".
    guitar7masta
    PeenieMcGee303 wrote: The only thing that's offensive is your stupidity. READ WHAT I WROTE! "Judges will always side with the mother in custody disputes unless there's something really wrong."
    But they DON'T always side with the mother even if there's nothing wrong on either side. Seriously dude, calm down.
    guitar7masta
    PeenieMcGee303 wrote: guitar7masta wrote: PeenieMcGee303 wrote: She did something terrible, guaranteed. Judges will always side with the mother in custody disputes unless there's something really wrong. My girlfriend is divorced with kids. I've learned a thing or two about custody. They don't *always* side with the mother, but yeah, most of the time they do. This raises more questions than anything. I question whether she was telling the truth about the guitar story. That really makes the father out to be a bad person, what kind of father doesn't know the interests/hobbies of his own children? Why can't she get visitation rights? She must have tried, right? Does the father really think it's healthy behavior to pretend like the mother doesn't even exist? How do the kids feel about it? Do they like their father? They seem to like their mother. There is just too much going on that we don't know to have any kind of discussion about it. Way to tell I'm wrong then repeat what I said.
    Don't get so damned offended right away. I just disagreed with your first point, that mothers *always* get preferential treatment. After the first sentence I was just throwing in my 2 cents on the issue, it wasn't really directed at anyone.
    guitar7masta
    PeenieMcGee303 wrote: She did something terrible, guaranteed. Judges will always side with the mother in custody disputes unless there's something really wrong. My girlfriend is divorced with kids. I've learned a thing or two about custody.
    They don't *always* side with the mother, but yeah, most of the time they do. This raises more questions than anything. I question whether she was telling the truth about the guitar story. That really makes the father out to be a bad person, what kind of father doesn't know the interests/hobbies of his own children? Why can't she get visitation rights? She must have tried, right? Does the father really think it's healthy behavior to pretend like the mother doesn't even exist? How do the kids feel about it? Do they like their father? They seem to like their mother. There is just too much going on that we don't know to have any kind of discussion about it.
    PlayMeSomeFloyd
    PeenieMcGee303 wrote: She did something terrible, guaranteed. Judges will always side with the mother in custody disputes unless there's something really wrong. My girlfriend is divorced with kids. I've learned a thing or two about custody.
    Not even close man. Divorce is extremely complicated and the laws vary GREATLY from one state to the next. I have a musician friend who couldn't perform live for a year under her lawyers orders so that she wouldn't lose custody rights of her kid. Her divorce wasn't nearly as messy as this one sounds, and she's from Memphis, where music is a major part of the economy. Lawyers can get away with almost anything these days. All that being said, I don't think the issue here was a court order. In the article, it sounds more like the husband has brainwashed the kids to believe something bad about their mother. Not so hard to do if they are young or vulnerable enough, which it sounds like these kids are.
    PeenieMcGee303
    She did something terrible, guaranteed. Judges will always side with the mother in custody disputes unless there's something really wrong. My girlfriend is divorced with kids. I've learned a thing or two about custody.
    iommi600
    JFRules wrote: There has to be a reason why she can't see them? She could just go to court and get visitation rights??
    My thoughts exactly...
    MDoggDX316
    There are millions of men who go through this same thing. It sucks, but I'm not weeping for her.
    Abacus11
    JFRules wrote: There has to be a reason why she can't see them? She could just go to court and get visitation rights??
    That stuff can get really complicated. Courts usually just rule in favor of whoever makes the most money. Who knows... I can't help but feel bad for her though. I wish everyone the best.
    onetonryan
    "it was James he was playing my solos. I couldnt believe it" Wow. That must have taken him a long time to figure out. What a phenom.
    shwilly
    stonyman65 wrote: I watched a video interview with her recently. She used to be hot back in the day but now..... White Trash is an understatement..
    You should see this ex-husband she's talking about If you don't know the guy, look up the Freight Train video from his band Nitro on Youtube. That crossdresser with the Maltese on his head is him. Seriously, that clip pretty much sums up everything that sucked about the 80's
    DisarmGoliath
    "I wanna see my kids and my ex-husband is stopping me!" - Lita Ford. "Whooooaaaaahhhhhyyyyyaaaaahhhhh!!" - Jim Gillette. (For anyone not sure who the people are, that is all that needs to be said on the matter)
    Burnzyburns
    I bet an article written exclusively from the also-biased perspective of the father would sound convincing as well. And my guess is that they're both crappy parents.
    6-String_Madman
    The worst thing that could happen to a mother is either see her offspring suffer, die, or taken away. I feel for you, Ma'am.
    Roberttitus
    assparade69 wrote: but really, who the **** is lita ford?
    Well besides ARGUABLY the most famous female guitarist on the face of the planet, nobody important. *facepalm*
    Camron62\m/
    wtf. One of the most rockin' chicks on the planet, being treated this way. where is this guy so i can shoot him?
    Iommianity
    Zan595 wrote: Why am I getting that "Courtney Love"-esque sense of crazy from this? There has to be more to it than that, if she was really innocent of doing anything, she could get visitation rights.
    Probably for the same reason you'd be feeling bad if this was a guy instead of assuming the worst.
    rhs5110
    She so sounds like courtny love "he brainwashed my kids". And I'm sure any ten year old out there can play a lita ford solo
    Vash_15
    "I took my kids out from school to go on tour with me, then left them alone where they could've wondered off anywhere in the world, now my ex husband is saying I shouldn't be allowed to see them. Why is he such a monster?"
    assparade69
    i do feel bad for her, it must suck regardless of what she did to deserve this. but really, who the **** is lita ford?
    stonyman65
    I watched a video interview with her recently. She used to be hot back in the day but now..... White Trash is an understatement..
    PeenieMcGee303
    The only thing that's offensive is your stupidity. READ WHAT I WROTE! "Judges will always side with the mother in custody disputes unless there's something really wrong."
    VanTheKraut
    Courts almost always rule in the mother's favor, for a mother to lose custody and visitation she pretty much has to be making a bomb out of meth and dead people. And you need at least 3 witnesses to it.
    PeenieMcGee303
    guitar7masta wrote: PeenieMcGee303 wrote: She did something terrible, guaranteed. Judges will always side with the mother in custody disputes unless there's something really wrong. My girlfriend is divorced with kids. I've learned a thing or two about custody. They don't *always* side with the mother, but yeah, most of the time they do. This raises more questions than anything. I question whether she was telling the truth about the guitar story. That really makes the father out to be a bad person, what kind of father doesn't know the interests/hobbies of his own children? Why can't she get visitation rights? She must have tried, right? Does the father really think it's healthy behavior to pretend like the mother doesn't even exist? How do the kids feel about it? Do they like their father? They seem to like their mother. There is just too much going on that we don't know to have any kind of discussion about it.
    Way to tell I'm wrong then repeat what I said.
    cptcomet
    Why doesn't she get the courts involved, get visitation rights etc? If she hasn't done anything wrong the courts usually favour the mother anyway..
    flyvox
    gibson les paul goldtop for a 10year old? really? it'd be fun if in a few years he abandons rock'n'roll and starts pursuing hip hop, gaming, or even drumming perhaps!
    sabbathman3
    I dont see ANYTHING in here that says the kids were taken by a judge from her. A judge probably had nothing to do with it considering her comment said that her ex husband brainwashed the kids into hating her and not wanting to be with her. Sounds more like that he convinced the kids that she was some kind of monster and they just dont want anything to do with her. Ive seen it happen before to normal, everyday people such as ourselves so its definitely not far fetched.