Lita's 45 Minutes To Escape Marriage

Lita Ford says she took a 45-minute opportunity to escape her "mentally, physically, sexually abusive" marriage.

Lita's 45 Minutes To Escape Marriage
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Lita Ford says she took a 45-minute opportunity to escape her "mentally, physically, sexually abusive" marriage and feared her relationship with ex-husband Jim Gillette would be "the end" of her. She says her recent divorce from Gillette, that's left her unable to see her two children, was the "darkest, most horrible" time of her life. And she suspects former manager Sharon Osbourne believes she slept with Ozzy even though she insists she didn't. Ford is touring new album "Living Like A Runaway", in which she explores the story of surviving her marriage to Gillette, in the hope her sons will one day be allowed to hear it. She tells CleveScene.com: "I had 45 minutes to get out of the house. I grabbed my keys one day, got my guitars and put them in a neighbour's house. I had prepared to leave. "This guy is just a freak. He was abusive mentally, physically, sexually. He's horrible." In a separate interview Ford tells Classic Rock Revisited: "I was afraid for years to leave. I got to the point where I knew it was time to make a break for it. I thought I wasn't going to live very long. I really thought it was going to be the end of me I had to leave. "If a woman feels she is being controlled and verbally, physically or emotionally abused, she has got to find a way to get out of there. Just say, 'Honey, I'm going to get a bottle of milk at the store,' leave and don't come back. You may have to do it one step at a time and get things ready. You may have to set up a place where you can go when you're ready to leave. It takes a lot of balls, it really does. Think of a way to get out." Meanwhile, the former Runaways guitarist says she's hurt that her relationship with the Osbournes broke down. "I saw Sharon recently in LA and she didn't want to talk to me it hurt my feelings because I love her," Ford explains. "I severed our ties because Sharon was in really deep ice with Ozzy. It was affecting my career. He had choked her and she had pressed charged. During that whole time I was like, 'I have a gig tonight do you think you could answer my phone call?' "It wasn't anything against Sharon. I love her. When I look back on those days I wonder if she thought I was having sex with Ozzy. He was screwing everything that moved but I would never do that to her, nor did I want to. "I don't know if she knows I didn't. Ozzy probably doesn't remember if he did or didn't." Thanks for the report to ClassicRockMagazine.com.

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    Silversleep
    Something about this still doesn't seem right. The majority of the time, the mother is awarded custody of the children in a divorce, or at least allowed visitation if she's not. If this guy is such a scumbag, how did he get custody and the right to deny her to see her kids? And before you start with the whole "the justice system is corrupt" if that's the case it should work in her favor, she is the rock star here, and while she's not a billionaire I'm sure she had more than a few dollars to fight the case. I'm sure the guy probably was abusive on some level, and her message is spot on, but I really doubt she's as much of a victim as she is claiming.
    muffinduck01
    "If a woman feels she is being controlled and verbally, physically or emotionally abused, she has got to find a way to get out of there. Just say, 'Honey, Im going to get a bottle of milk at the store,' leave and dont come back. You may have to do it one step at a time and get things ready. You may have to set up a place where you can go when youre ready to leave. It takes a lot of balls, it really does. Think of a way to get out."
    Some of the best advice i'v ever read.
    Silverpack
    It angers me as **** when I learn of a wonderful woman and artist like her was so unhappy about her marriage. UG girls, choose your men well, and beware posers.
    Danjo's Guitar
    ItMightGetQuiet wrote: i dont believe this at all sharon osbourne seems like she would need absolute proof of something before she reacted and then i think she would punch this attention seeking ***** in the face. BOOOOOM!!!!!
    Not funny dude.
    Arr0wHead
    umbrella666 wrote: Dude...Jim Gillette of Nitro is gay...wrong dude
    Wrong on all counts. Right dude, and not gay.
    Arr0wHead
    Silversleep wrote: Something about this still doesn't seem right. The majority of the time, the mother is awarded custody of the children in a divorce, or at least allowed visitation if she's not.
    Her kids are older. From other interviews with Ford it seems the kids CHOSE to stay with dad full time. In turn, she's badmouthed Gillette non-stop in the press. As you said, if he were abusive she could have pulled those kids out of the house. It seems she's just pissed that her attempt to emancipate herself and her kids ended with her being alone. I'm not going to conjecture if Gillette was abusive or not, but typically there's court records and arrests/charges to back up such stories, not just a new album with some songs about it that you really oughta buy wink wink.
    vikkyvik
    Arr0wHead wrote: I'm not going to conjecture if Gillette was abusive or not, but typically there's court records and arrests/charges to back up such stories, not just a new album with some songs about it that you really oughta buy wink wink.
    You sure about that? A LOT of abuse goes completely unreported until the woman finally splits. If it were reported so much, it wouldn't be the huge issue it is, where people feel stuck in an abusive relationship.
    kratos379
    Miyagi84 wrote: Also, why didn't Lita just leave one day and call the cops? Abuse goes two ways, I feel bad for her, but at some point the abused has to take some responsibility for coming back time and again. she has children with the man, I'm sure his violence to her wasn't an overnight issue.
    When people are in an abusive relationship, there's something called "learned helplessness". Even given the chance to leave, many victims of abuse won't.
    stonyman65
    I've mentioned this before, but the last interview I saw with Lita was from Guitar World. She was going on and on how much she loved her husband, and how she recorded them having sex on the new album (in the background of a few tracks)... Not to mention she looked bombed out of her mind and was just beyond white trash. This wasn't that long ago. I'm sure you can find the video on Youtube somewhere. Thinking of that and then reading this, something doesn't sound right. We're not getting the whole story here.
    ThrashMetal014
    Nobody liked Nitro that much anyway. I met their guitarist, and he was a great guy. Jim Gillette just seems like an abusive piece of trash.
    Miyagi84
    Doesn't sound like Lita wants to really reconcile with Sharon at this point, why mention that Ozzy was screwing everthing that moves... it's only going to piss Sharon off even more. Also, why didn't Lita just leave one day and call the cops? Abuse goes two ways, I feel bad for her, but at some point the abused has to take some responsibility for coming back time and again. she has children with the man, I'm sure his violence to her wasn't an overnight issue. At least now shes free from him to its a start.
    Skullivan
    The only reason I know who Jim Gilette is is because everyone parodied thsi video:
    ItMightGetQuiet
    i dont believe this at all sharon osbourne seems like she would need absolute proof of something before she reacted and then i think she would punch this attention seeking ***** in the face. BOOOOOM!!!!!
    Yax
    stonyman65 wrote: I've mentioned this before, but the last interview I saw with Lita was from Guitar World. She was going on and on how much she loved her husband, and how she recorded them having sex on the new album (in the background of a few tracks)... Not to mention she looked bombed out of her mind and was just beyond white trash. This wasn't that long ago. I'm sure you can find the video on Youtube somewhere. Thinking of that and then reading this, something doesn't sound right. We're not getting the whole story here.
    I have a friend. She proclaimed her love to her fiancee to the world on and on on and, went on and on about how wonderful he was. What he really did was abusing her in secret. Showed his true colors when they, I and a few others were on a cruise together. He beat her up pretty bad in their cabin. She finally left him. Just because they tell the world that they love somebody and is hapyp doesn't mean it's true - Could be the other way around.
    webtiger007
    Had not seen this before today and it's scary. She's doesn't seem "all there" and she keeps looking at her hubby off camera like she's being coached or looking for approval from Jim
    umbrella666
    ThrashMetal014 wrote: Nobody liked Nitro that much anyway. I met their guitarist, and he was a great guy. Jim Gillette just seems like an abusive piece of trash.
    Dude...Jim Gillette of Nitro is gay...wrong dude